Crying and Smiling wives

why do nigerian men treat their wives with so much hatred and cruelty but treat the woman outside like a queen,i don't get it.

 guys don't take it personal here but am being frank with my question coz alot of married woman are crying and smiling same time
coz they have no choice,you are married to a man that neglet and treat u like u don't exist why?they will not take care of their homes, they are never there for their wives prefer to spend time with women outside,provide more for them than their wives,pay more attension to gurls that are dating two or three men same time. A man that is blessed with a beautiful wife and kids,things are going well for you i believe u have been favoured by GOD,then your obligations are to love and cherish what GOD has given to you.The Bible does say in Galatians 6:7-8, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.”

The Bible says in Song of Solomon 8:7, “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.” There are many good reasons to get married: for companionship and friendship, to have children, and to satisfy your physical and emotional needs of love. These are all good reasons that God created for marriage. so why suffer and neglet the woman you ones told "i love you",she hardly sees her husband,he talks to his girlfriends in her presence not even a little respect for her,calls the shorts the way he likes like she does not exist,women can not commit adultery like the way men do it with free mind,why don't they value and treat their women with respect alot use culture to subdue them with the fact that they are men and is meant to be so..

 WHAT IS THE BIG REASON SINCERE ANSWERS PLEASE!!!

Posted: at 13-11-2011 10:31 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

PPl rush into marriage without checking out what the want and wat the can condole. 

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Posted: at 13-11-2011 11:24 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

by giving u my candid advice....so r u among?

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Posted: at 13-11-2011 11:33 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

Wen i saw dz post,i culdnt help shedding tears cos am among doz crying n smiling wives.d man i knw and married has completely changed.he belives i have no other choice than to stay and take his dsgusting attitudes to me.i hardly know wat hs doing with wen i ask am told to mind mybusnes n let hm be.he bullies me.shouts at me even in public .am so miserable.he belves a womans place is in the kitchen.i cannt take a decision in the house and he accepts it.everythng lies n ends in hs command.some1 talk 2me cos am gradualy losing it pls

Posted: at 13-11-2011 11:59 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie

chi please hold ur self God is still saying something about ur situation, I saw something 2day that made me come up with this, am very sorry send me ur number or add me dear it's well be strong!!

Posted: at 14-11-2011 12:11 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

me treating women bad? i don't take advantage of people or oppressed  not to talk of being happy seeing people being oppressed....note..i never married but knows most 90% of foundation of marriage....so answer my question? r u among those?

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Posted: at 14-11-2011 12:22 AM (12 years ago) | Hero

@ iloveit am sure u r among those men tell me d truth make I advice u too

Posted: at 14-11-2011 12:39 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Come ye all to me that are crying for i will make yr smiling turn into laughter 

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Posted: at 14-11-2011 01:24 AM (12 years ago) | Hero

Married Women(WM) must take care of themselves even after married. You must always look your best. How can you look like Cinderella in your office then look like old granny when u get home? Plz get into the shower and freshen up. Even when u want to join him in bed, always look fresh. You don't have to look like a superstar but take good care of yourself.

Do not give 100% of your time to your children. Your husbands must continue to be the center of your life. See one day those children will grow up and move out but your marriage will not follow them. So spend quality time with your husbands. For example: If you r making love with him and your 2 months old baby was sleeping and then all of a sudden he started crying, you must not leave your husband to attain to the baby. Finish the Love-making with him first. But the baby's bed must be well secured.

Trust him to take care of your children, whether they are only 5 hours/days old. Even though he doesn't know how to change their diaper. If the baby is cryin in his arm, u must not take the baby unless he want u to.

Money do have wings and they may fly away from him today and he may fine another tomorrow. So you should always support him and never talk down on a man when he is financially bothered. Do not compare your marriage to other couples. If the bills are pile up, it means that your man is troubled so don't use that moment to tear him down with your mouth. Support him cover the bills o...

Surprise him, take him to a hotel, adore him, praise him, honor him, call him my little lord or whatever you like.

Appreciate him, real men don't show their love/feelings through words, they express it through actions. So learn how to understand your man. Say thank you. And define his hard work. Give him a beautiful comment on every little thing he does. IF your husband buy you a nice skirt, yeap, he just want you to wear it so that other men can be jealous of your sweet butts so wear it and thank him with a nice comment.

Teach your children how to be responsible on the dining table. Your 5 yrs old boy should pour that milk inside his own cup while you pour it inside your husband's cup. Your children must not say: mom can you pass me the salt? He should know how to get the salt on his own.. It gives them sense of belongings not sense of controlling or they may get spoil.

Your husbands shouldn't be the only one to initiate sex play. You should also do it often. You don't do it to make him detect what's on your mind. Just do it. Let him see it in your eyes that you want him period but use some characteristics, styles, plays and techniques but they must all be cleared. And whenever you guys argue or fight, please do not punish him from touching you. I repeat, do not punish him from touching you....!

Support him and do not always suspect him in public because real man always look but they never attempts to touch. They will even look at your sister, mom, cousin, and friends' butt. Even your grannies    so that must not bothered you or fight him when you all get home that night.

If you have been doing all these above, cleaning, cooking taking care of the kids and he does not show you any sign then stop cleaning, watching the dishes, don't even clean the floor. And when he ask you why, then you can tell him how much you want him to recognize the little contribution/effort to the family.

Your husband may not really know who he is or what he really want out life until maybe after few years of been your husband. Besides, he knew that you will help him become somebody tomorrow, so try to understand your husbands o....That's why its not good to jump into this Marriage thing o...cos its not a competition but a worthwhile lifestyle that you too must live to the fullest.

Posted: at 14-11-2011 03:34 AM (12 years ago) | Hero

Lack of self discipline and control, no fear of God, women temptations and lust 4 money, wive's poor sex attitude or general behaviour, bad friend or advice
 
Excessive power or influence.

Posted: at 14-11-2011 05:01 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac