Should I accept him the way he is, should I change him or just leave ?

8 years ago by: aadex kebella
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-- (m) at 7-02-2012 10:05AM (8 years ago)

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How many times in your life did you find yourself facing the question: Should I accept him the way he is, should I try to change him, or should I just leave?

What are some of the factors to consider when making this decision? Do we always have to know at first sight that he is "The Right Man for you” or you can allow yourselves to ponder on it for a while?

Many women look back at their past relationships and say: “I can’t believe I stayed for so long after everything he did to me. I don’t know what I was waiting for.” Just as many confess that they didn’t take the guy seriously because he had flaws, but later regretted letting him go: “He really cared about me. I don’t know what I was looking for.”

The Question is, If there is any unusual attitude in your Man that you dislike, will you just accept him the way he is, try to change him or Just let him be and find another guy?



-- makelly (f) at 7-02-2012 11:37AM
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I will try and change him for good and if he didnt i'll have to leave
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-- sophiebaby (f) at 7-02-2012 11:39AM
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Quote from: makelly on  7-02-2012 11:37AM
I will try and change him for good and if he didnt i'll have to leave

u cannot change anybody..

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-- makelly (f) at 7-02-2012 12:03PM
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but i will try my best because of the love i have for him
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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:04PM
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-02-2012 11:39AM
u cannot change anybody..

Bia I want you to change me  Sad

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-- sophiebaby (f) at 7-02-2012 12:07PM
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Quote from: makelly on  7-02-2012 12:03PM
but i will try my best because of the love i have for him

People don't resist change. They resist being changed! Let him be..when he decides to change he will

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-- sophiebaby (f) at 7-02-2012 12:08PM
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Quote from: 50scent on  7-02-2012 12:04PM
Bia I want you to change me  Sad

 Huh?

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-- sophiebaby (f) at 7-02-2012 12:12PM
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i prefer  a man who will strive to be the best he can be.

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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:15PM
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-02-2012 12:08PM
Huh?

why the face, dont u knw the meaning of change  Sad

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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:18PM
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 Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool

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-- jukkiebukwes (f) at 7-02-2012 12:20PM
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-02-2012 11:39AM
u cannot change anybody..

yes oh, dats d mistake most gurls make, "i will change him"
Late Bimbo Odukoya said, "dont marry a man with the hope of changing him, if you cant live with an attitude he has, then dont marry him".

Quote from: sophiebaby on  7-02-2012 12:12PM
i prefer  a man who will strive to be the best he can be.

sis u dey talk my mind wella
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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:23PM
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Quote from: jukkiebukwes on  7-02-2012 12:20PM
yes oh, dats d mistake most gurls make, "i will change him"
Late Bimbo Odukoya said, "dont marry a man with the hope of changing him, if you cant live with an attitude he has, then dont marry him".
sis u dey talk my mind wella

Guess i am  Cool

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-- jukkiebukwes (f) at 7-02-2012 12:26PM
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u ar what??
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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:27PM
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Quote from: jukkiebukwes on  7-02-2012 12:26PM
u ar what??

Im the good MAN  Sad

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-- Idbabe (f) at 7-02-2012 12:33PM
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U cant change human being except God wants him/her to change.  Ask questions, make enquiries b4 attempting to go into the relationship in the first place
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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:36PM
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IDbabe

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-- verah (f) at 7-02-2012 12:42PM
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jus leave him if u cant accept him the way he is others  will.......  dnt ever hav d mindset of changin anyone cos u urself cant even change som tins bout urself...

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-- 50scent (m) at 7-02-2012 12:45PM
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes

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-- bittersweet (f) at 7-02-2012 12:48PM
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Remaining in a relationship with the hope that you will change the other person is the biggest mistake one can do!
That will not happen, and you'll waste your time and energy! It's not worth it!
Analyze well the person, and if there are things you can't stand, you better quit the relationship!

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-- chicanorose (f) at 7-02-2012 12:52PM
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I will try to change him but if he refuses to change, i will back out of d relationship. If i really love him, i will accept him d way he is.  

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