1. Stay determined. It all starts with determination and desire to stop relationships from breaking up. You need to have the will and want to make the improvement. This will be the driving force that will push you to strive and do better amidst the ups and downs along the process of relationship improvement.
2. Listen to your partner. There are times when it seems that you are listening to your partner but in reality, you are not. This is a very big problem common among couples. How will you be able to communicate back with him when you do not even know what your partner is talking about because you are not listening? When your partner is talking, listen and listen intently. Do not interrupt him or her, and reflect on what your partner is saying.
3. Put yourself in your partner's shoes. Most of the time, individuals tend to want to be heard and understood. They want their points of view to be heard and seen and understood by their partners. When you do this, you are not letting your partner speak out what he or she thinks and feels. And by this, you lose the chance of knowing the right words to say to your partner, since conversations are only focused on yourself. It would be best to try and be in your partner's shoes so you would be able to appreciate his or her point of view.
4. Admit that you were wrong. It is very difficult to admit that you have made a mistake. In a relationship, it is of utmost importance to be aware that you are fallible and are bound to make mistakes. When these things happen, know you are at fault and learn to admit it. During these situations, there is nothing more effective than the words "I am sorry." It may not do so much in the beginning but you will see its effect in the long run, especially when delivered sincerely.
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Posted: at 12-03-2012 11:08 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
sophiebaby at 12-03-2012 11:24 AM (13 years ago) (f)
how can i admit am wrong wen am not
3 out of 4 points were cool
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 12-03-2012 11:24 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Arguably almost all the ladies are guilty of all these points: They talk anyhow not minding whether the talk may end up breaking the relationship or not; they would never listen to you, rather they will want you to listen to them; They will never try to understand your point of view, therefore, they feel for themselves and will never put themselves in your shoe; and above all, They believe that they are always right (that is arrogant I think), and therefore, they will never apologise even when they are wrong!
Posted: at 12-03-2012 11:27 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sophiebaby at 12-03-2012 11:32 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Adikpe on 12-03-2012 11:27 AM
Arguably almost all the ladies are guilty of all these points: They talk anyhow not minding whether the talk may end up breaking the relationship or not; they would never listen to you, rather they will want you to listen to them; They will never try to understand your point of view, therefore, they feel for themselves and will never put themselves in your shoe; and above all, They believe that they are always right (that is arrogant I think), and therefore, they will never apologise even when they are wrong!
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this is the point i still do not understand.... yes..even when am right n his wrong i still say Am sorry...But Admitting you are wrong when you arent is not just it..i disagree with No 4
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 12-03-2012 11:32 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
abeg what works fr u in ur relationship dosent work for others..... so jus try ur best to avoid arguments.. so mak una bone all dis analyzin bla bla bla
IF U TINK D DEVIL IS A LIAR, THEN LET A GUY LIE TO U AND U WILL KNW DAT D DEVIL IS A LEANER ........
Posted: at 12-03-2012 02:42 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
chicanorose at 12-03-2012 04:20 PM (13 years ago) (f)
9ce post. But i can‘t admit am wrong wen i knw am not. So he shld apologise wen he knws he is wrong and wen i knw am wrong, i will equally apologise to him. Shikina
I bet u, when u wan chop cake, na then u go knw say oven dey.
Posted: at 12-03-2012 04:20 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
chicanorose at 12-03-2012 04:21 PM (13 years ago) (f)
9ce post. But i can‘t admit am wrong wen i knw am not. So he shld apologise wen he knws he is wrong and wen i knw am wrong, i will equally apologise to him. Shikina
I bet u, when u wan chop cake, na then u go knw say oven dey.
Posted: at 12-03-2012 04:21 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac