Three Vital Things that makes Relationship Work

8 years ago by: Master John Adikpe
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-- (m) at 14-04-2012 03:04PM (8 years ago)

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Three things are very vital in making marriage last long - until death do them part:
1. Understanding: If you understand each other perfectly well, that relationship is poise to last long because you both know what to do part time which the other party will like it and equally know what and when to avoid what your partner may not like. Lack of understanding has rent some relationships apart.

2. Love: When I say love I mean "Genuine Love", that is, if it is however still in existence. True love has no records of the past as Sophiebaby will say. When there is genuine and true love in a relationship, the relationship will in no doubt last long.

3. Money: Let us be sincere to ourselves, no love or any genuine relationship will work without money. We have seen and heard of women who have left their husband's house when the money is no longer forthcoming. Unlike those days when parents gives their daughters out in marriage with or without money, nowadays it is a different story. If you, as a man doesn't have money, no parent will give you his daughter to marry. Ladies now waits and looks for rich and wealthy men to marry, some even waits until get too late for them. A girls may be pretending to love her guy, but the moment the money is no longer coming forth, the love will vanish over-night. SO THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS THAT, NO MONEY, NO LOVE.

These three things are very vital in any relationship, though there are lots more. So feel free to add yours.


-- 1daful (f) at 14-04-2012 03:07PM
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maybe

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-- Adikpe (m) at 14-04-2012 03:12PM
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...maybe what?   Shocked Shocked Shocked
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-- 1daful (f) at 14-04-2012 03:16PM
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maybe na true talk.

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-- HOPEA23 (f) at 14-04-2012 03:19PM
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Yep u right... If one is missing out of these three na fight all the time

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-- teojeweler (f) at 14-04-2012 03:21PM
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D 1st two r 2ru bt d last 1 partially 2ru,cos money isnt evrfin.
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-- Adikpe (m) at 14-04-2012 03:24PM
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.......the last one is even more important nowadays.
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-- Adikpe (m) at 14-04-2012 03:24PM
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Quote from: HOPEA23 on 14-04-2012 03:19PM
Yep u right... If one is missing out of these three na fight all the time


....truly, it will be fighting here and there always which will probably lead to break-up as "Broken marriage is better than endurance in marriage".
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-- 50scent (m) at 14-04-2012 03:27PM
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Wonderful  Cool

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-- Adikpe (m) at 14-04-2012 03:32PM
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 Wink Wink Wink
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-- Beauti4 (f) at 14-04-2012 04:11PM
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My dear I disagree with you on number 3. Its good to have money. But what if the money flew away, what would be the outcome of these love-birds? Love is based on material gain. Genuine love has nothing to do with whether there is money or no money. There are some richest men who has fallen ill, but still money can't help them the only thing that can help recover faster is God and the love from their spouse. Love is for better or worst. Love help us to reduce stress esp when there is no money. I mean, there should be money, but being billionaire? Nah...it doesn't matter bro.
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-- santosdan (m) at 14-04-2012 07:49PM
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Poster what u say are all correct
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-- naturalqueen (f) at 19-06-2012 05:29PM
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True Post
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-- mizcollins1 (f) at 20-06-2012 10:02AM
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 14-04-2012 04:11PM
My dear I disagree with you on number 3. Its good to have money. But what if the money flew away, what would be the outcome of these love-birds? Love is based on material gain. Genuine love has nothing to do with whether there is money or no money. There are some richest men who has fallen ill, but still money can't help them the only thing that can help recover faster is God and the love from their spouse. Love is for better or worst. Love help us to reduce stress esp when there is no money. I mean, there should be money, but being billionaire? Nah...it doesn't matter bro.
TELL HIM PLEASE!!!!
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-- FlyMamacita (f) at 20-06-2012 10:22AM
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Quote from: mizcollins1 on 20-06-2012 10:02AM
TELL HIM PLEASE!!!!

Yes oh
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-- sophiebaby (f) at 20-06-2012 11:33AM
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Quote from: Adikpe on 14-04-2012 03:04PM
Three things are very vital in making marriage last long - until death do them part:
1. Understanding: If you understand each other perfectly well, that relationship is poise to last long because you both know what to do part time which the other party will like it and equally know what and when to avoid what your partner may not like. Lack of understanding has rent some relationships apart.

2. Love: When I say love I mean "Genuine Love", that is, if it is however still in existence. True love has no records of the past as Sophiebaby will say. When there is genuine and true love in a relationship, the relationship will in no doubt last long.

3. Money: Let us be sincere to ourselves, no love or any genuine relationship will work without money. We have seen and heard of women who have left their husband's house when the money is no longer forthcoming. Unlike those days when parents gives their daughters out in marriage with or without money, nowadays it is a different story. If you, as a man doesn't have money, no parent will give you his daughter to marry. Ladies now waits and looks for rich and wealthy men to marry, some even waits until get too late for them. A girls may be pretending to love her guy, but the moment the money is no longer coming forth, the love will vanish over-night. SO THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS THAT, NO MONEY, NO LOVE.

These three things are very vital in any relationship, though there are lots more. So feel free to add yours.

yes money ought to be involved..but Anyone who says that money is the most vital/very important thing in a relationship or marriage is lieng or decieving you..You should have rather used relationship and not marriage..cos a marriage rltnshp and a bf/gf rltnshp are two diff tins...AS FOR ME...i go with 1 & 2..3 is not really necesary

ur point 1 which is understanding...yeah Good communication starts with open and respectful listening.

This doesn’t mean we have to agree with what we hear, but that we listen with a mood to understand and validate. We listen with both intellect (for the content) and with heart (for the feelings). This receptive attitude builds a loving and trusting relationship. Respect should also be the guiding principle when we speak. This means expressing our thoughts and feelings without blame, criticism or sarcasm.

Teamwork
A marital team ...your spouse and you functioning as a unit to achieve your goals...is most successful when each player knows his or her individual responsibilities. Early in the relationship, expectations should be discussed and agreed upon. Ambiguous or unspoken expectations can lead to the disappointments and resentments that erode the positive esteem between your spouse and you.

Appreciation
People feel valued when they are appreciated for who they are and what they do. When this need is not fulfilled in a marriage/rltnship, your partner or you may seek it in an extramarital affair. It is easy to take our spouse for granted and to forget how that person is special. An antidote for this complacency is, every so often, to make a list of the things you appreciate about your spouse. It works.. Choose one or two things from your list to share with your spouse. Be creative: leave a surprise phone message, a special e-mail or a note in your spouse’s lunch bag! Cool

Faithfulness
An extra-marital affair can devastate a marriage. Nothing compares to the pain and breach of trust of infidelity. Such damage is often irreparable, even if the couple remains together. If your marriage is strong, there is less chance that infidelity will be an issue, but it is still important to prevent situations that could make you vulnerable to an affair. Avoid confiding intimately or spending time alone with a person of the opposite sex.

Financial stability...(this is where ur Point 3 comes in)

Couples often get themselves into financial trouble by buying now and then struggling to pay later. Such difficulties stress a marriage and are a contributing factor to divorce. Find a good book or attend a seminar that can help you learn to budget so that you live within your means. Manage your money or it may dismantle your marriage.

A spiritual economic principle is to give a percentage of our income back to God. Everything comes from the Lord, and we express our gratitude by giving to Him without expecting anything in return. And, while we may have no expectations, when we give to the Lord He returns it manifold.

Quality time

We spend time with the things that are important to us, the things we value. Making time for our relationship communicates that we are committed to and value our marriage. Your spouse and you can make a list of activities you each like to do and then regularly do things together that you both enjoy. and Have fun!

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-- sophiebaby (f) at 20-06-2012 02:10PM
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 14-04-2012 04:11PM
My dear I disagree with you on number 3. Its good to have money. But what if the money flew away, what would be the outcome of these love-birds? Love is based on material gain. Genuine love has nothing to do with whether there is money or no money. There are some richest men who has fallen ill, but still money can't help them the only thing that can help recover faster is God and the love from their spouse. Love is for better or worst. Love help us to reduce stress esp when there is no money. I mean, there should be money, but being billionaire? Nah...it doesn't matter bro.

sure

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-- Adikpe (m) at 20-06-2012 02:34PM
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 14-04-2012 04:11PM
My dear I disagree with you on number 3. Its good to have money. But what if the money flew away, what would be the outcome of these love-birds? Love is based on material gain. Genuine love has nothing to do with whether there is money or no money. There are some richest men who has fallen ill, but still money can't help them the only thing that can help recover faster is God and the love from their spouse. Love is for better or worst. Love help us to reduce stress esp when there is no money. I mean, there should be money, but being billionaire? Nah...it doesn't matter bro.

Why disagreeing when it is actually the truth? Very few, and I mean very, very few ladies will stay in a relationship when the money is no longer there.
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-- HOPEA23 (f) at 20-06-2012 11:11PM
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 14-04-2012 04:11PM
My dear I disagree with you on number 3. Its good to have money. But what if the money flew away, what would be the outcome of these love-birds? Love is based on material gain. Genuine love has nothing to do with whether there is money or no money. There are some richest men who has fallen ill, but still money can't help them the only thing that can help recover faster is God and the love from their spouse. Love is for better or worst. Love help us to reduce stress esp when there is no money. I mean, there should be money, but being billionaire? Nah...it doesn't matter bro.
Oh common
If the man loss his job and it getting hard for them to feed..u know we ladies na..is going to be fight argument every night

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-- jossy4reall (m) at 21-06-2012 06:47AM
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what if u have dis three in quantum but ur partner is an unsatisfied and ungrateful type.........can sum1 tell me hw 2 handle dat??

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