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1  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Why do people bottle and die with their feelings on: 7-10-2009 03:14 PM
Quote from: Agatex on  5-10-2009 03:39 PM
why is that some men find it difficult to tell a woman how they feel about her instead they die in silence or want to indirectly get close to her without bearing their mind hoping that the lady will understand. Please i really need to know why.

Good observation.

Men do that because of the following reason:

1)  Some men are shy when it comes to initiating a relationship with women

2)  Ego:
     Some are so egocentric that they want to wait for you to make the move instead.

3)  Fear:
    Whether we like it or not the truth is that putting on pants does not neccessarily make one a man.

4)  Rejection:
     Fear of rejection contributes to them foot-dragging when it comes to speaking a lady up

5)  Self confident:
     Some men does not just have that and are not ready to work on themselves.

6)  Money:
     As funny as this might sound fact is that there men who feel that to get a particular lady their pocket  have to be full!

7)   Past experience:
      This can also affect some men's approve to a new relationship.

Cool   Class:
      Shoes they say have sizes; some men just feel that some ladies are way out of the league and wouldnt go to them!

9)   Attitude of the lady involved can also discourage a guy from making the move.

10)  Appearance:
       Some ladies' appearance are very bash and this can be a turn off even when a guty likes you!

@poster DO YOU STILL WANT MORE POINTS??  Grin[/size]
2  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Feelings of Girls??? on: 7-10-2009 02:35 PM
Quote from: enjoyment on  6-10-2009 01:30 PM
1. When a girl says she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.
2. When she ignores you after you've done something wrong, it's best to give her some time to cool down before touching her heart with an apology.
3. A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to 'get over him' after the relationship' s over.)
4. If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.
5. When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she will melt. 6. A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually not sure how to react to them.
7. When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare ok?
8. If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.
9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a friend, talk to her.
10. Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music, poetry, drawings and writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).
11. Never tell a girl that she is useless in anyway.
12. Being too serious can turn a girl off.
13. When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start telephoning her friends to spread the news.
14. A smile means a lot to a girl.
15. If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.
16. If a girl says she can't go out with you because she has to study, leave.
17. But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.
18. Don't try to guess a girl's feelings. Ask her.....
19. Hearing the words "I love you" is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.
20. After a girl falls in love with a guy, she'll wonder why she never noticed him before.
21. If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, read romance stories.
22. When class pictures come out, a girl would first check who is standing next to her crush before actually looking at herself.
23. A girl's ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves now stays in her heart.
24. Girls love having fun!
25..... A simple 'Hi' can brighten a girl's day.
26. A girl's best friends usually know best what she is feeling and going through.
27. Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their 'prettier' friend.
28. Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.
29. Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them.
30. Girls want nothing more than to feel loved.
Kiss Kiss Kiss

Nice Stuff Dude.

It is a common for people here to run down other people post but you will never see them submit post even if it is going to keep them alive!

Keep it up.

3  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: who will you believ? on: 7-10-2009 02:04 PM
I feel that you were too hasty in ending your relationship with the guy because of what he told you.

I should have made some enquiries and possibly set a trap for your friend and see what happens.

Be that as it may, what happened between you and your ex is past but what just happened between your friend and her boyfriend brings to fore the kind of person you have kept as a friend these past years.

What on earth would make you feel that the guy was lying against your friend or was he asking you out (some guy do this anyway).

Peolpe can be very funny to say the least and the earlier you take time to study people the better it will be for you. This incident just proved that you do no really know who your (supposedly) is.

Aside the above, boys/men and girl/woman are always sleeping with their boyfriends'/girlfriends' and husbands'/wives' friend with little or no ado.

This is really very wrong and like so amny things that are wrong they still do it anyway.


4  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Working with my ex could you do it ??? on: 6-10-2009 12:05 PM
5  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Is it a good idea for a couple to tell each other how much money they make? on: 6-10-2009 11:02 AM
You should make sure you know the kind of person the person is before telling him/her as people can be very funny and takes advantage of others.

Outside this, there is nothing wrong.

The watchward is trust and dependability.
6  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: WHY? is that all GIRLS look beautifull in the nyt?? on: 6-10-2009 09:21 AM
Quote from: hotz on  5-10-2009 05:21 PM
i hv been thinking on that for a very long tym so help me sample ur opinion my people!

7  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: One of Us Was Too Serious on: 6-10-2009 09:19 AM
Quote from: LayifaKpe on  5-10-2009 02:36 PM
This could be as simple as she wanted to see me three times a week, and I only wanted to see her once a week. If she's flirting with other guys, flighty, or not as into it as I am, then I'm too serious for her.

8  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: Is it possible for a guy to abstain for over a year without having sex??? on: 6-10-2009 09:17 AM
What ever we make up our mind to do is very possible.

All that is required is the committment to carry it out and through.

Yes you can abstain from sex for a year and beyond if you want to but me I KNOW FIT EVEN FOR TWO DAYS!
9  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: WHY WOULD A WOMAN DENY HER HUSBAND SEX? on: 5-10-2009 12:12 PM
Quote from: Akpan01 on  5-10-2009 11:58 AM
Quote from: onchedu on  5-10-2009 11:45 AM
I see... Well a woman above me said something U myt want to consider as a possibilty. Maybe the guy isn't giving it to her good and she's getting it elsewere... Women are hardly good with words when it would count the most so she probably wont come out and tell him how she feels if that's the case.

Solution... He should ignore her and move on with his life as a Christian would. The truth will come out eventually. Some people just like playing stupid games with their happiness.



I just feel that she just wanted to get him hooked and mess things up (cus this is what is going to happen if she continues this way!
10  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: WHY WOULD A WOMAN DENY HER HUSBAND SEX? on: 5-10-2009 11:52 AM
The nuptial knot was tied 20th December, 2008.
11  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: WHY WOULD A WOMAN DENY HER HUSBAND SEX? on: 5-10-2009 11:40 AM
Quote from: onchedu on  5-10-2009 11:05 AM
Qestion postee: Do they have kids? The solution to his problem is not getting sex outside marriage as he has observed isnt fulfilling or satisfying. What he needs to do is hibernate his desires and put the energy to other productive uses at work or in his hobbies or interests; stop soliciting sex from his wife totally and live a happy life without her... Women don't want to believe their men can be happy without them and they think if U are there's another woman running the show... If he has her curiosity he has her.

Talking to her about her segxwal histroy myt reveal something he never knew about too.

If he's not a Christian he should just go and marry another wife and ignore tha annyoing wife abeg.  no get time for nonsense.

The nuptial knot was tied 20th December, 2009.

No kids yet.

segxwal history?

She used to be very hot and was always initiating sex and sometimes begging for it when he complained of fatigue or whatever.

This has been refrred to severally but her excuses are always (very) lame.

He is a christain and can not take a second wife!

How i wish you know this woman!

She got all the assets and being with her and not been heated up is VERY difficult!

He who feels it knows it brother!

Ko easy, RA RA!!
12  Forum / Relationships & Romance / WHY WOULD A WOMAN DENY HER HUSBAND SEX? on: 5-10-2009 10:01 AM
I was with a friend last night and what he told me really got me thinking! We (myself and him) really need your advice before things goes awry!

What? You may ask.

Here is the story:

He is married to his sweet heart of so many years and they are presently having sex problem!

She seems to detest sex since their engagement and subsequent marriage!

I asked if it had always been that way and he answered in the negative.
Before this time it (sex) was really an exciting and wonderful experience
as it was something they both looked forward to.

He confided in me that one of the reason(s) (apart) from love was
because he thought they were very compactable in bed as
she seemed to be on the same wavelength with him segxwally
and he saw this as good since he would not want to cheat when married
but all that had changed since he married her.

Severally he told me that he had had to go get his segxwal appetite
satisfied by some of his old chicks and this really makes him feel bad afterward.

He has tried discussing the issue with her severally but she feels that he complains unnecessary!

People a word for a troubled pal please.


Thank you.
13  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: still in love with her. on: 2-10-2009 09:51 AM
Quote from: phizo007 on  1-10-2009 06:15 PM
i tot i was an xpert in relationship matters but i guess am wrong.
so many waters have passed under the bridge but i think i still have feelings for her.
do i have to give it a shot again even if its going to hurt me?

Why not let us have detailed info so as to know how to come in?

It is better that way.
14  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: how can you make your man hate u and brake up with u? on: 2-10-2009 09:46 AM
Quote from: vivian444 on 26-09-2009 11:06 AM
i use to love him but he never valued me until now,i help him in so many ways ,ever since i knew him am the one feeding and housing him,because things have not been easy with him,i was hoping that one day he will appreciate me when things get well again ,i have my family i don't give them any thing i gives him my all,people told me to quit that am too young for this cross am bearing i never listened to them cos i loved him,but one day we had a quarrel he looked in to my eyes and called me a witch!!! that am the responsible for his failure and misfortunes ,i can't believe this!! he later pleaded wit me,i kept quiet ,and use my brain,now that i packed out from his house ,he still comes to my house to visit ,please pals give me tips on how to handle him to make him brake up with me ,i can't tell him directly that i quit,but for calling me a witch i don't need him again,i want to be loved again and experience a real love from a man,cos he never shows me love or even be grateful to what am doing for him,i don't think he deserve me,i want him to try alone and see if am really a witch or not ,

It is a pity that some men are like that but life must go on.

Here is were i feel that you went wrong:

1). You do not have to provide for a guy with the hope that it will make him take you serious (it does not work out most time) EMPHASY: MOST TIME.

2)  You viewed the thing you did for him as investment - WRONG AGAIN

3)  Going to live with him.

4)  Expecting him to be grateful


Shit do hit the fan and when it happens some people will run and hide and others will stay; what is your stance?

It is very of him to have said what you said he said.

A good thing that you have moved out of his house.

You do not want to continue with him because of what happened; okay.

You do notr have to do things to make him hate you. NO.
Just sit him down and explain that you do not wish to continue any with him anymore.
Make reference to what he called you (if you must).

Forgive him too (this is not optional because forgiving him is to your advantage as it sets you free).

Howeever, that does not mean that you should go on.


And do not repeat this mistakes in your next relationship.
15  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Secrets Of Dating Younger Women - part i on: 30-09-2009 02:21 PM

Ah, younger women.

It has taken me a long time now to finally see
clearly that the appeal of younger women is not
just "slight".

I recently read somewhere that when men get
married for the SECOND time, they marry women an
AVERAGE of 10 years younger.

Something like 20% of men who marry for a
second time wind up marrying a woman that is over

I also recall reading somewhere that women
are universally attracted to men who are older
than them, and that the "average" relationship
contains a man that is four years older than the woman.

Interesting stuff wouldnt you say?

I guess what I am trying to say here is that
this pattern of older men dating and marrying
younger women is not going away anytime soon.

In fact, I personally believe that the more
"socially acceptable" it becomes, the MORE it is
going to happen.

For most of my adult life, I have dated women
that were either my own age, or very close.

But for some reason, right about when I
turned 30, I began sometimes dating women who
were younger than me.

At first it was a little bit strange.

I didn't feel like I had anything to talk
about with a woman who was five or ten years
younger than me.

But the more it happened, the more I realized
that younger women have a certain appeal that
goes far beyond just the "physical beauty".

Younger women just have a different VIBE.

If you meet the right younger woman, you will
find that she can bring an amazing energy, vibe,
and youthful atmosphere to your life.

After having the experience myself, talking
to other guys who have shared it, and reading
about it a lot, I can say that many guys have
the experience of FEELING YOUNGER and MORE
VITAL when dating a younger woman.

It can be a blast.

Now, I am not saying that it is a bad idea to
date women your own age, or women who are older
than you.

Not at all, in fact.

To be continued.

16  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: All my tactics don finish 4 her head. on: 30-09-2009 02:17 PM
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17  Forum / Relationships & Romance / Re: fellow nigerian abeg read this on: 30-09-2009 02:03 PM
Quote from: HOPEA23 on 11-09-2009 11:19 PM
plz stop posting all these all trashing topic....don't ave time for trashing talking..[jargon]

18  Forum / Relationships & Romance / MISTAKE No 3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission on: 29-09-2009 03:11 PM
MISTAKE Number 3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), we guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

Do not get me wrong here.

You do not have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well means
"always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me?

Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...
19  Forum / Relationships & Romance / MISTAKE No. 2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You" on: 29-09-2009 02:58 PM
MISTAKE Number2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like...
but she is just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you... Y

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman does not "feel it" for you,
how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just is not interested,
we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.

20  Forum / Relationships & Romance / D 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes U (Probably) Make With Women – No. 1:Being 2 9ce on: 29-09-2009 02:51 PM
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...

MISTAKE Number1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I am sure you have had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"...
but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What is going on here? It is actually very simple...

Women do not base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is.
They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice does not make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE does not make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this does not make a lot of logical sense,
and it is hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it,
you will NEVER have the success with women that you want.
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