My parents are Nigerians and I am a Nigerian by nationality. However, I was born and grew up in the United States. I am presently in Australia though, because I school here. I have a very big problem and I need advice, but I will try to make is as short as possible.
I have a boyfriend and we have been together since my high school. I am a christian and I don't believe in premarital sex. Also my parents are pastors. I had kept to this rule for the 20 years of my life. Unfortunately, sometime earlier this year, some unforeseen things happened and my boyfriend and I slept together.
My parents always use me as an example to our family friends and they always talk about how they are so proud of the fact that I am keeping myself for marriage. Anyways, the unfortunate thing wasn't just that we had sex, but I also got pregnant. Abortion is not an option for me because I am strongly against it, but my friend here has a suggestion for me. She says I should keep the baby, give birth to it and take it to an orphanage home here in Australia before I go back home.
This sounds like a perfect plan because I don't plan on going home anytime soon. So by the time I go home, nobody will know what happened. Do you think I should do what she advises and go back home pretending like nothing happened? Or should I tell my parents and carry the baby back home? Facing the embarrassment, ridicule and scorn from family friends, church members and people who look up to my parents?
On the other hand, my boyfriend thinks I should keep the baby but that whatever happens, I shouldn't say he is responsible. Please advise me because I am seriously considering dropping the baby in the orphanage.[/size][/font][/color]
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Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:05 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Treasure2 at 29-06-2012 05:11 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Why drop the baby, go with your baby. Do you knw if you will hv another baby??? Pls and pls, that baby should not loose your sight.
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:11 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
mizcollins1 at 29-06-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago) (f)
if your parents are christains as you say then what is making you so scared in taking your baby back home?....yes they will be disappointed but then life goes on,shit happens!!!...it's not like you're under aged and not capable of caring for your child!!...i advice you call your parents and tell them what has happened...as of your bf he is a punk ass mother phyuker! and not man enough!!
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:13 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sophiebaby at 29-06-2012 05:20 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards... please Keep Your Child with you
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:20 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
sophiebaby at 29-06-2012 05:22 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: mizcollins1 on 29-06-2012 05:13 PM
if your parents are christains as you say then what is making you so scared in taking your baby back home?....yes they will be disappointed but then life goes on,shit happens!!!...it's not like you're under aged and not capable of caring for your child!!...i advice you call your parents and tell them what has happened...as of your bf he is a punk ass mother fcuker! and not man enough!!
Exactly
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:22 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
mizcollins1 at 29-06-2012 05:24 PM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 29-06-2012 05:20 PM
Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards... please Keep Your Child with you
gbam!!!!
Posted: at 29-06-2012 05:24 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
jossy4reall at 29-06-2012 08:47 PM (12 years ago) (m)
U have already gotten all the best of advises u nid regarding dis issue.........starting 4rm T2 pass 2 Mizcollins den 2 Sophie & anoda d final pass 2 BS......I dont have 2 get d pass or pass it again as too many cooks can spoil d broth..,I support dem all...........now d goal is scored and 50 kobo has 2 carry d cup & give 2 d owner....case closed
Love or Hate me its ur Biz, I have more important things to think abt since u never gonna change me
Posted: at 29-06-2012 08:47 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward pls keep ur child for a lesson pls lovely friend keep it for me
Posted: at 30-06-2012 09:26 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
Treasure2 at 30-06-2012 09:35 AM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: anata on 30-06-2012 09:26 AM
Lots of people Are going from one prophet to the other, one church to the other.. one prayer house to the other, one state to the other to meet N.Doctor..Now God has given you a child.. Do not focus on your past.. Take your child with you, lest you loose that child when you drop him/her in an orphanage home..Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure(ur child is Your Gift) Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward pls keep ur child for a lesson pls lovely friend keep it for me
Nicely said.
Posted: at 30-06-2012 09:35 AM (12 years ago) | Hero