texasmans1 at 31-05-2011 02:11 PM (13 years ago) (m) My dear, ur story is quite pathetic and it will definitely arouse pity through vulnerability or sadness on u if you keep giving your parents room to dictate for ya,or on your parents if they insist on having it their own way. I live in America,i must admit that i understand your parents ground but they should put such in a way of advice and not the other way round. If ya really love this Akata and ya wanna settle down with him or whatever,let it b the decision that only ya can take. But talking bout financier situation,now i hav few questions for ya:
Is this Akata not lazy? Is he ready to work and provide for his kid? And ya,do ya wanna work and support him to build financier back-born for the family or do ya wanna live ur life on Food Stamp? If this Akata is lazy as they used to be,i will definitely be wondering what a well cultured and home brought up girl (as ya claimed) is doing with him except if you need him for something else such as immigration status,etc......America that i knw is a land of opportunities for everybody that is ready to work except those lazy ass niggers. Posted: at 31-05-2011 02:11 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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babe u get to be strong Posted: at 31-05-2011 05:47 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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uwa190 at 1-06-2011 01:41 AM (13 years ago) (f) i am sure if you search yourself deep enough you will find answers. Posted: at 1-06-2011 01:41 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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bestrhoda at 9-09-2011 05:47 PM (13 years ago) (f) pls just go on your kneels and ask God for forginess, den tell him your problem and i assure you they will call you and apologies. Posted: at 9-09-2011 05:47 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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even though ur parents are supporting u and ur baby that doesnt mean thats their child. YOU are the MOTHER. if the father wants to be apart of the babies life then he as to be. if ur parents disown u for that then at least you would know you have done the right thing. yeah, you are a true nigerian but there are boundaries. if it was me i would takes that risk of my parents anger or shame just as long as i know the father of my child would be there for US. maybe ur financial problems would get better if u and the father would work hard at making this problem work. if the 2 of u work together anything is possible. i wish u the best!
ERIKA IS SO RITE, ANOTHER THING YUR PARENTS LOVE THEIR GRAND BABY N IF THEY WANT TO PUT CONDITIONS ON U N THE BABY THEN MAYBE THEY WILL HAV TO JUST STEP BACK, NOW DAYS NO 1 IS RUNNING TO TAKE CARE OF BABIES BUT ON THE OTHER HAND HE IS WILLING TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE BY ALL MEANS U DNT HAV THE RITE TO STOP HIM, HE HAS JUST AS MUCH RITES TO HIS DAUGHTER AS U DO, NOW IF THE DADS TAKES THE DAUGHTER OUT OF THEIR LIFE HOW WOULD THEY FEEL OR REACT, THEY NEW U WAS PREGNANT BY HIM RITE, SO NOW THAT THE BABY IS HERE THEY R CONTROLIN U WITH THE BABY NOOOOOO THAT IS NOT RITE, THAT YOUNG MAN IS DOIN WAT HE IS SUPOSE TO DO AS A FATHER N THEY WANT TO TAKE THAT FROM HIM HELL NO!! LOOK YUR MOM WILL NOT LET HER HUSBAND'S PARENTS TELL HER WAT TO DO CAUS YUR DAD WOULD STEP IN N TELL THEM SO SWEETIE JUST DO WAT U NO IS RITE N GOD WILL ALWAYS SEE U THROUGH!! GUD LUCK AND KEEP US POSTED!!! Posted: at 9-09-2011 06:30 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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ralph11 at 18-11-2011 03:53 PM (13 years ago) (m) listen lady.. while i sympathise with your situation, you are becoming just as annoying as your parents. loooking at the replies to your post,, u'v been given adwquate advice yet, you still use your parents view of yourself as an excuse.. without much furtherado, our ideas in this life should be influence by what is right not what you are told. I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that your parents view are biased as you already know and it has nothing to do with culture but pure ignorance, of which not even prayers, fasteing and endless church attendence will ever rectify..Knowledge is indivisible!! You need to grow up, and grow up fast and take responsibilty of your life. take the advice given to you by these NL and tell your parents to take it or lump it, because it's not every day you come across a man who gives up his life's ambition to take care of that of is wife let alone his girlfriend. you have a gem of a men in your hand. if your parents won't accept him, you go to him and let him provide for you and your child, manage whatever you have and support eachother. But, make know mistake, while you might be young, just imagine you meeting a future potential partner and you confide in him, revealing that you took your parents advice under the circumstance you explained, i can assure you that most men wont want to deal with. so my dear; take do wat is right not wat your parents think, because i bet that if he was rich and successful, they would talk of nothing other than marriage... so get a move on. you might miss them and cry for the first few weeks, but life will continue.. Posted: at 18-11-2011 03:53 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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missola at 15-12-2011 03:24 PM (13 years ago) (f) I will advice u to follow ur heart, so as to avoid destroying ur future. d fact that u do not have money to take care of ur child today, does not mean that u wont have the money tomorrow. u should also look at the fact that the father of the child is ready to take the responsibility. do not let ur parents over protectiveness to rub u of a great future ahead. You're no longer a child. Posted: at 15-12-2011 03:24 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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olivgirl at 6-02-2012 09:52 AM (13 years ago) (f) na waoooo Posted: at 6-02-2012 09:52 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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Unikpearl at 6-02-2012 09:56 AM (13 years ago) (f) Where were ur parents when u're datin a black...ur parent are just fool 4 discrimatin black Posted: at 6-02-2012 09:56 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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destar at 15-02-2012 06:56 AM (13 years ago) (f) my dear follow ur hrt o...ur parents found true love in each other so they should leave u to ur own love...... been a Nigerian does nt change anything, cos u are hurting someone, pause for a while and think of hw u will react if the situation is reversed...... Posted: at 15-02-2012 06:56 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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charlons50 at 20-02-2012 06:04 PM (13 years ago) (m) you have your life to leave,and your daughter need her parental care which is very essential to everyone born here on earth so no one should rubb her of that not even ur parents,so try and be with ur man and manage the little you both have,if ur parents are not satisfy let them do whatever they want to,but someday they will know the reality and your happiness with you,your husband and your daughter then you will both reconcile,but if you treat your man wrong to satisfy your parents will the future will bring forth bittterness in you and your daughhhter,that,s my words of advice for you. Posted: at 20-02-2012 06:04 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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jonessure at 21-02-2012 06:29 AM (13 years ago) (m) waw, what a situation. All you should do here is to follow your heart. You know what u want in life. Do you wish to be a slave of your parent forever because they are financially up, i dont think you will wish for that. I believe the life of ur baby is more than any riches in life. Just make sure ur child wil have a true love. Posted: at 21-02-2012 06:29 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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I AM WHO I AM, IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN BLOODY DO THE OTHER THING AND FCUK ALL HATERZ Posted: at 16-05-2012 07:27 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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my dear you have made up ur mind to kik him out cus of financial benefit from ur parents, all through out you hav answer to every sugestions made by others the fact remains the same if your dauter grow up without her father she will rezent you nd ur parents for depriving her of her right nd love her father more than she can love u nd ur parents put together. i have seen it befor think nd look b4 you leap you grew up with your parent why then re u taking the road to deprive ur child. Posted: at 29-06-2012 11:43 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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Treasure2 at 5-07-2012 04:32 PM (12 years ago) (f) THis your parent sef, i dunno what name to give them. Posted: at 5-07-2012 04:32 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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odprince at 15-02-2013 11:15 AM (12 years ago) (m) there is something that i will like to know....where is the guy for the whole nine months?if the guy didn't take care of the pregnancy,the girl can loose the so called boy and the family,,,,so my dear,,,,listen to your family and plead with them,talk to them,if anything happen between you and that guy,,,,where will you run to??obey your father and mother so that your life will be long..... Posted: at 15-02-2013 11:15 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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