Relationship Without Sex-----is It Possible Today (Page 4)

its possible but difficult: but poster even those dat marry as a virgin encounter some of d effects of pre-marital sex u listed above. We can only keep our body holy & pure if we get to d point of realizing dat OUR BODY IS D TEMPLE OF GOD, a place where God dwell, only then would we be ready to leave it holy and wait for that holy priest (husband) who will be worthy to go into the temple...  

Posted: at 26-10-2012 02:33 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

LOl, when i hear guys say 3yrs and so, If makes me start forgiving myself. I was placed on that probation for 5yrs by my girlfriend  and i wasn't easy. Just my little story, i met her a virgin and alter girl member in church, and i was a virgin too, then 19yrs. She said red light to sex, and green light to romance and i accepted, hoping that it will be a way in. Then my segxwal hormone, was high like i want it all the time. It was frustrating but i love her like the air i breath, I couldnt persuade after 3yrs, then i automatically loose it to another girl that i dont love much at a lodge party, and started sexing around in school. I hated myself then, and seeing her as the reason why my life turned around> My 4ysr in school, she is her third year and we had a distance again, Due to my love for her, i had to be a cultist to be able to visit IMSU, those days from my school. This girl hangs around with me everywhere but no sex. 2months before living Naija then is 6yrs, i felt is necessary cos i started feeling less a man (MY EGO), and wonder what any sharp guy will feel, if he finds out i no lash this babe. Then we had it hot, though i didnt appreciate like i would have done, if we never wasted this long. Due to many guilt on my mind.
Then i find out the my feelings was dropping cos of the frustration, Even with the blood during the sex, i still took her to hospital for nurses to confirm . and they where shouting if i expected to see 50liters of blood before knowing, i have dis flowered  her. Funny though.
  I love this chick and wants to marry if i return, still my secret but my lifestyle has changed and, cos i most at time, i see myself doing it else where
.
  1.But one thing  i noticed now,  is that they way, she talks about sex easily sometime, makes me feel she has started bitching, even though she swear all the time.that she is faithful and balblalbla, I still doubt.
  2. I always wonder why she accepted easily 2months to my traveling, out of all these years we spent together. I still love her and keep in touch everyday but this reasons comes in my mind all the time.
To cap it all, Whoever loves you, will love you virgin or not, There is no point wasting the whole like for marriage.
Am a christain, but our forefathers marry early, in foriegn you marry at 19. but Naija we guys gats reach 30 up due to our economy, is not easy.
              The point is stick to your lover, and if your true to each other, have sex. marriage will come if it will. Lets not use bible to misinterpret the reality.
What after being a virgin all your life and you marry a man, who is impotent> you case will be worst my sister. So let the fire burn whenever.

Posted: at 26-10-2012 02:55 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

 

Posted: at 26-10-2012 03:42 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

There are two sides to every coin. There's the reality that we want and the reality we get. Pre-marital sex is a problem in society but look and tell me how many girls are willing to wait for sex after marriage? To be fair to both sides, a Man starts dating a girl and wants to have sex with her within 2 weeks of dating to justify the money spent in dating her. We may elaborate on avoiding the ills of pre-marital sex here all day (which is the reality we want) but, it is something that is happening every where in Nigeria as we speak (The reality we get). You and maybe children you have or maybe responsible will be faced with this temptation every day but, which as a human being you may end up falling into the temptation of having sex outside marriage. As a strong moralist, you may want to make people that you did not fall into the temptation which you did does not make you any better than the Man who is a chronic skirt-chasing bachelor. God hates sin but, he still made provisions for us human beings in the case where we sin against him called repentance and forgiveness. We can only hope that we or people we love do not engage in premarital sex but we need to make arrangements of what we do when it happens which is either protect yourself or try harder to avoid it by noting the situations that lead to you or people you love engaging in premarital sex.

Posted: at 26-10-2012 03:58 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming

imposible is nothing,but count me out

---

Posted: at 26-10-2012 05:03 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero

yeah!! you're right men.

---

Posted: at 26-10-2012 05:37 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming

i like this post, am a guy. how i wish i can do that. i wuld hv loved it

Posted: at 26-10-2012 06:22 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

Posted: at 26-10-2012 06:37 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

When you keep yourself, God will be PLEASED with you cos your body is his temple...1cor 6:18-20. We all have our upbringings, beliefs and idealogy and mindset about certain issues......this is what i have to say to you.

Posted: at 26-10-2012 06:51 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming

so when He said we should be fruitful and multiply, what happens to our body after we have done it? is He gonna be displeased with them for doing it, what happened to Hebrews 13:4

Posted: at 26-10-2012 07:04 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac