what do l do?

pls,
l have a girl that l have been admiring since when we were in 2nd year at the university till after our graduation last year even now but l have not for one day talked to her about any thing friendship.

l know that l truly love her to the exent that l have vow to marry her whenever am ready if she will accept.
My problem is that if l talk to her about friendship, she might turn it down and l don't want that.
Recently, l met her in Chevron Lagos and l became intoxicated by love.
My fear now is that, l don't know how to start cos if l tell about my intentions, she might think that the interest is cos of her current status and consequently turn it down.
Secondly, she might not take me serious cos l currently have no money and have not gone for NYSC let alone getting married. 

Posted: at 15-07-2007 05:07 PM (17 years ago) | Newbie

tanx for your kind gesture. l am already in a casual friendship with her but l want her to be my intimate friend.
l am still with my senses that's why l ve not opened up to her formally. l don't want to loose her cos l love and cherish her very well.
She also know that l loves her but will not like go into any thing intimate.
Though, l have taken my time to ask myself if l really love her and the answer was in affirmative cos she has 90% of all the qualities that l need from any girl that l might marry.
ls it wise for me to tell her my intentions now or do l wait for some time?
l truly love this girl. we share alot of things in common.
Ur advice and technique, pls.
tanx.

Posted: at 16-07-2007 03:42 PM (17 years ago) | Newbie

Guy, i think you should just take the bold step and have faith that she would become yours. You never can tell, it might b that she is even admiring you and waiting patiently for you to make the move but if you waste time, YOU MIGHT LOSE THE CHANCE.

Make the move ... start by saying a simple HELLO and I MISS YOU then watch her reaction

Stay blessed

Posted: at 17-07-2007 01:47 PM (17 years ago) | Newbie

o.k richie let me give you advice from a girls point of view......o.k i don't think you should just come out straight and start professing undying love and marriage, in cases where ur heart is concerned you should proceed with caution, try getting closer to her(as a friend) but treat her very nice... but don't smother her, give it time take it step by step gradually letting her know how you really feel about her(never come too strong), but make sure the message is clear (that you love her) chances are if she feels the same way she will be equally leave you hints and if she is not she will also leave hints at that( so that way you protect your heart)..........if you get positive vibes then you will know how to proceed

Posted: at 22-07-2007 01:48 AM (17 years ago) | Gistmaniac

my guy, one thing about life and feelings is how we express it, please what do want from this girl, is it marriage or just a mere friendship, because marriage is not what you jump into just because you love someone, have you ask yourself if this girl love you not like, because marriage is all about LOVE nothing else.
however, just pray to GOD, If she is your wife you will definataly have her, but mind you, one of the greatest mistake men make in life is marrying woman that is not his wife.rgds.

Posted: at 24-07-2007 07:40 PM (17 years ago) | Newbie

OGA YOU DON REACH HERE? GOOD

ANYWAY STEP ONE IS ALREADY IN MOTION YOU ARE CASUAL FRIENDS.

IS SHE PRESENTLY IN A RELATIONSHIP? IF YES HOW DOES SHE FEEL ABOUT THE GUY? SINCE YOU GUYS ARE FRIENDS I EXPECT YOU PEOPLE TALK. REASON IS IF SHE SO MUCH LIKES THAT OTHER GUY THEN YOU DONT HAVE A CHANCE WITH HER.

WELL I'M A LADY AND I BELIVE ITS ALWAYS PLAIN WHEN WE LIKE GUYS MONEY OR NO MONEY.

WHATEVER YOU DO MAKE SURE ITS NOT A ONE SIDED THING 

TEST THE WATERS IF ITS HOT REMOVE YOUR HANDS, FEET ETC BUT IF ITS WARM TAKE A DIVE IN CONFIDENCE

ALL THE BEST.

GOD BLESS

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Posted: at 27-07-2007 08:59 AM (17 years ago) | Upcoming

ok guy.....my question is.....how do u know u love her when u never talk to her deeply....it might turn out to be infatuation u know.....u have to ask urself if she is what u want....and i can see that u have no confidence coz u were afraid that her status and ur being with no money will deterr this relationship....look,no pain no gain....if u want this from the start,u gotta start talking dude.....talk......!!!!it will not hurt u.....be a gentleman....!!!!

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Posted: at 15-08-2007 06:47 PM (17 years ago) | Addicted Hero

i think you should tell her, cos time waits for no one.

Posted: at 18-08-2007 05:35 AM (17 years ago) | Newbie

Not having any money doesn't have anything to do with love...And how do you know what she'll say if you haven't even approached her?? .You're busy playing guessing game while another man is probably moving in on her. Listen, Obviously you think she's a potential wifey Why don't you just approach her in a decent manner and let her know how you feel. You never know, she might be feeling the same way about you and just like you, didn't know how to approach you as well, and if she's a real girl, being broke will not stop her from being with you , or even marrying you. So go ahead and get your wifey!! . p.s, would love to have a piece of cake from the wedding though!!

Posted: at 6-09-2007 05:37 AM (17 years ago) | Addicted Hero

tryna approach her first before thinkin.how'd u know what she's in mind if u keep on thinkin.....

Posted: at 27-06-2008 06:40 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie