One thing I never understood about relationships...

Date: 06-06-2009 10:01 pm (14 years ago) | Author: Jay
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- at 6-06-2009 10:01 PM (14 years ago)
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why do people in long-term relationships often begin looking for something new the minute a problem should arise? example....a guy could be in a relationship with a girl for like 2+ years then after an argument or an issue that could be SOLVED if they sacrifice their pride/ego to work together, he starts to have an emotional affair (as in begins start developing feelings) for another person INSTEAD of trying to make an already established relationship work??

Does it make sense to leave someone that you love for someone that you like? Seems like people like to live in the "omg hes everything i want..he calls me sweet names" stage of a relationship....as if the new person won't begin to change later down the road and end up even being worse than u could imagine...

in other words...why do people easily give up?

and basically why are people stupid?


smh

Posted: at 6-06-2009 10:01 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
- herdeysohjy at 6-06-2009 10:11 PM (14 years ago)
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no idea yet
Posted: at 6-06-2009 10:11 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- herdeysohjy at 6-06-2009 10:13 PM (14 years ago)
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no idea yet
Posted: at 6-06-2009 10:13 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Kennee at 6-06-2009 10:43 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: jmobbz on  6-06-2009 10:01 PM
why do people in long-term relationships often begin looking for something new the minute a problem should arise? example....a guy could be in a relationship with a girl for like 2+ years then after an argument or an issue that could be SOLVED if they sacrifice their pride/ego to work together, he starts to have an emotional affair (as in begins start developing feelings) for another person INSTEAD of trying to make an already established relationship work??

Does it make sense to leave someone that you love for someone that you like? Seems like people like to live in the "omg hes everything i want..he calls me sweet names" stage of a relationship....as if the new person won't begin to change later down the road and end up even being worse than u could imagine...

in other words...why do people easily give up?

and basically why are people stupid?


smh


Dat's what Happens when there's always a Fault/Faults they find in dat Person

Posted: at 6-06-2009 10:43 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- happy75 at 6-06-2009 10:58 PM (14 years ago)
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am also asking the same question, why are people so stupid? As if that new one will never become old. People need to be wise.
Posted: at 6-06-2009 10:58 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Kennee at 6-06-2009 11:04 PM (14 years ago)
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Tell dem ooo Sis

Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:04 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Sammyades at 6-06-2009 11:07 PM (14 years ago)
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some people jst want to try new things bcos dey believe new is b8r than old.
Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:07 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- jmobbz at 6-06-2009 11:14 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Sammyades on  6-06-2009 11:07 PM
some people jst want to try new things bcos dey believe new is b8r than old.



hmm....then why bother getting into a relationship if thats da case.....


someone cant be in a serious relationship and wake up one random morning and be like "hey i want to try something new" lol...like thats just pure fickleness. The type of ppl who usually change ppl like that r the ones who always end up heartbrokwn cuz they cant make up their minds
Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:14 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- Sammyades at 6-06-2009 11:17 PM (14 years ago)
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some people re jst not satisfied with watevr dey ve dats jst how it is.

Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:17 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- Kennee at 6-06-2009 11:28 PM (14 years ago)
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Yeah... Too Bad dat's just how life is

Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:28 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- jmobbz at 6-06-2009 11:34 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Sammyades on  6-06-2009 11:17 PM
some people re jst not satisfied with watevr dey ve dats jst how it is.




Ok...the keyword is now "Satisfaction"

...now...


my question is how is one so sure that they won't end up in the same exact situation that they are running away from/leaving their current partner for? if you've been with someone for so long and u cant solve just 1 problem...what makes u think this new person is going to be problem free? I'm not saying that no matter how bad a relationship is...u should stay in it...I'm just saying that if its such a simple thing work at and fix...why not work at it?


I understand that as time progresses people want to "try" new things...however, is it smart to do that and sacrifice what u already have (and especially if what u have is not so bad compared to the B.S. others go throgh)? Alot of people cry about not finding the "right" person but then when some people have the closest thing to it...they undervalue it and start looking elsewhere--that is what I don't get and never understood.

Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:34 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- Sammyades at 6-06-2009 11:49 PM (14 years ago)
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thats jst life for u, theres nothin u can do bout it.
Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:49 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- Kennee at 6-06-2009 11:52 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: jmobbz on  6-06-2009 11:34 PM
Quote from: Sammyades on  6-06-2009 11:17 PM
some people re jst not satisfied with watevr dey ve dats jst how it is.




Ok...the keyword is now "Satisfaction"

...now...


my question is how is one so sure that they won't end up in the same exact situation that they are running away from/leaving their current partner for? if you've been with someone for so long and u cant solve just 1 problem...what makes u think this new person is going to be problem free? I'm not saying that no matter how bad a relationship is...u should stay in it...I'm just saying that if its such a simple thing work at and fix...why not work at it?


I understand that as time progresses people want to "try" new things...however, is it smart to do that and sacrifice what u already have (and especially if what u have is not so bad compared to the B.S. others go throgh)? Alot of people cry about not finding the "right" person but then when some people have the closest thing to it...they undervalue it and start looking elsewhere--that is what I don't get and never understood.



The Selfish Needs at dat Time won't let dem thing Properly

Posted: at 6-06-2009 11:52 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- vivian07 at 7-06-2009 08:25 AM (14 years ago)
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@ poster, thats cos there is no true love...... cos true love bears all faults....over..looks them....and moves   ahead.
Posted: at 7-06-2009 08:25 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- solazed at 7-06-2009 10:46 AM (14 years ago)
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true talk

Posted: at 7-06-2009 10:46 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mazi at 7-06-2009 08:57 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: vivian07 on  7-06-2009 08:25 AM
@ poster, thats cos there is no true love...... cos true love bears all faults....over..looks them....and moves   ahead.
there is true love my dear....only dat few ppl hv d ingridients nd understands it...
u cant feel or apply wot u dont hv or understand..
Posted: at 7-06-2009 08:57 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- femabim200 at 7-06-2009 09:12 PM (14 years ago)
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Well, one thing u shld unastand is that all revolves around love and friendship. It is a circle that starts with friendship and ends with friendship. The fact is that friendship is the ship that carries all other ......ship e.g patnership......... Smileyhttp://[img][/img]
Posted: at 7-06-2009 09:12 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- Kennee at 7-06-2009 11:02 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: vivian07 on  7-06-2009 08:25 AM
@ poster, thats cos there is no true love...... cos true love bears all faults....over..looks them....and moves   ahead.

Indeed... True Love is even what makes one way way more Possessive and therefore more of everything the other does

Posted: at 7-06-2009 11:02 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- solazed at 7-06-2009 11:07 PM (14 years ago)
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just wondering if i will ever understand those who never understood one thing about relationships...?

Posted: at 7-06-2009 11:07 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Kennee at 7-06-2009 11:10 PM (14 years ago)
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Hahahaha

Posted: at 7-06-2009 11:10 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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