long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). is called when the "SPARK" disappears. they start getting bored of each other, and they look for ways to get out of the relationship. and if that includes cheating, they do it Still doesn't add up to me....Relationships to me aren't simply about the "Spark"...the whole point of a relationship is creating a process that eventually leads to one thing--Marriage. That's how its always been...and thats why God created it. It's just nowadays that people abuse the point of relationships and now relationships have become a way for ppl to have regular sex with some1 and/or pass time. Now...this topic was about long-term relationships.. not 2 or 3 week relationships. why would someone stay in a relationship for 2 years if the "spark" isn't there. People have to understand that the whole "omg...ur the bestest boyfriend in the world blah blah" is not forever. That feeling comes and goes. There are good times when u feel like that....then there are horrible times where u feel like ur boyfriend is an A*#S. What Im trying to say is that people are suppose to DEAL with both times...not run away when the going gets too rough. and as for psychology...I took several psychology classes...as well as 3 Sociology classes including 1 Sex and Culture 3rd level Anthropology class. Currently a 3rd year junior in University. Remeber, that first person will not always be "IT"(the one). there are trials and errors in life, which includes in relationships. maybe u guys got together because of something about her /him u just couldn't resist. it fades away as time goes on, and u guys wanna just take a break. is called life. Ofcourse....I know that...but I'm not talking about the "first person" though...just because your in a long-term relationship doesn't mean that was the first people u decided to be with. Example...a girl could have had bullshit boyfriends...then eventually she finds 1 who is completely different from the rest and decides to embark on a real relationship with him. But I don't agree with what u said "it fades away as time goes on".. Thats Not true. The only time that happens, according to everything I have ever studied or seen with my own experience, is only if you guys were never in love at all. You can NOT...absolutely NOT be in love with someone and it just "fades"...that's B.S. Then again, its not people's fault because people in general don't even understand the meaning of love. They think love is thinking about someone everyday or wanting to be with that person...lol. Let me tell you something.... There are sooo many imitations of "love"....and almost 1/2 of the people who think they are in love are not. There is lust, there is infatuation, there is Affinity... There is Limerence...and then there is Love. People should study these and know which one there in before entering in a relationship.
dude, what about those people married for 45 years, and then divorced after?
what the hell do u call that? if u don't keep that young spark, it does fade away, because, there is now more into the relationship than just trying to get each other to notice ur self. is just the both of u. i have friends. i did researches. i had to do those researches. my friends tell me stuff. one was like(i've always wanted to kiss him but after a while, it all fades). | Posted: at 11-06-2009 09:17 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "solazed") solazed at 11-06-2009 09:35 PM (14 years ago)  (m) is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand
Most wanted for not how much I do but for how much I put into the doing <a href=" http://www.animatio | Posted: at 11-06-2009 09:35 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? | Posted: at 11-06-2009 09:37 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "solazed") solazed at 11-06-2009 09:58 PM (14 years ago) (m) is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship
Most wanted for not how much I do but for how much I put into the doing <a href=" http://www.animatio | Posted: at 11-06-2009 09:58 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship o.....k?  ?? | Posted: at 11-06-2009 10:01 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "solazed") solazed at 11-06-2009 10:06 PM (14 years ago) (m) is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship o.....k? ?? unhum
Most wanted for not how much I do but for how much I put into the doing <a href=" http://www.animatio | Posted: at 11-06-2009 10:06 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship o.....k? ?? unhum no comprendo | Posted: at 11-06-2009 10:08 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "solazed") solazed at 11-06-2009 10:23 PM (14 years ago) (m) is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship o.....k? ?? unhum no comprendo i mean u need to understand ur relationship, do u?
Most wanted for not how much I do but for how much I put into the doing <a href=" http://www.animatio | Posted: at 11-06-2009 10:23 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship o.....k? ?? unhum no comprendo i mean u need to understand ur relationship, do u? yeah i do | Posted: at 11-06-2009 10:26 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "jmobbz") jmobbz at 11-06-2009 11:10 PM (14 years ago) (m) long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). is called when the "SPARK" disappears. they start getting bored of each other, and they look for ways to get out of the relationship. and if that includes cheating, they do it Still doesn't add up to me....Relationships to me aren't simply about the "Spark"...the whole point of a relationship is creating a process that eventually leads to one thing--Marriage. That's how its always been...and thats why God created it. It's just nowadays that people abuse the point of relationships and now relationships have become a way for ppl to have regular sex with some1 and/or pass time. Now...this topic was about long-term relationships.. not 2 or 3 week relationships. why would someone stay in a relationship for 2 years if the "spark" isn't there. People have to understand that the whole "omg...ur the bestest boyfriend in the world blah blah" is not forever. That feeling comes and goes. There are good times when u feel like that....then there are horrible times where u feel like ur boyfriend is an A*#S. What Im trying to say is that people are suppose to DEAL with both times...not run away when the going gets too rough. and as for psychology...I took several psychology classes...as well as 3 Sociology classes including 1 Sex and Culture 3rd level Anthropology class. Currently a 3rd year junior in University. Remeber, that first person will not always be "IT"(the one). there are trials and errors in life, which includes in relationships. maybe u guys got together because of something about her /him u just couldn't resist. it fades away as time goes on, and u guys wanna just take a break. is called life. Ofcourse....I know that...but I'm not talking about the "first person" though...just because your in a long-term relationship doesn't mean that was the first people u decided to be with. Example...a girl could have had bullshit boyfriends...then eventually she finds 1 who is completely different from the rest and decides to embark on a real relationship with him. But I don't agree with what u said "it fades away as time goes on".. Thats Not true. The only time that happens, according to everything I have ever studied or seen with my own experience, is only if you guys were never in love at all. You can NOT...absolutely NOT be in love with someone and it just "fades"...that's B.S. Then again, its not people's fault because people in general don't even understand the meaning of love. They think love is thinking about someone everyday or wanting to be with that person...lol. Let me tell you something.... There are sooo many imitations of "love"....and almost 1/2 of the people who think they are in love are not. There is lust, there is infatuation, there is Affinity... There is Limerence...and then there is Love. People should study these and know which one there in before entering in a relationship. dude, what about those people married for 45 years, and then divorced after? what the hell do u call that? if u don't keep that young spark, it does fade away, because, there is now more into the relationship than just trying to get each other to notice ur self. is just the both of u. i have friends. i did researches. i had to do those researches. my friends tell me stuff. one was like(i've always wanted to kiss him but after a while, it all fades). Lol...if a couple has been married for 45 years..and they divorce, don't u think it has alot more to do than a "spark" problem? Think about it. If you were married to someone for almost 50 years, will u wake up morning and be like "hunney, the spark between us is dead, so I'm gonna have to continue on this journey alone"??What journey? Does that make one ounce of sense? If people are married, they don't divorce because they've lost their "spark" they divorce because of something called "irreconcilable differences". The whole spark theory is for highschoolers who think love is about wanting to kiss someone 1 day and not wanting to kiss someone the next week. Serious relationships and Marriage do not rely on a false sense of "spark". If people want a successful relationship (any kind)..they have to work at it. if you distance yourself from your partner and one day say "we've lost our spark"...who's fault is that? Instead of working towards your problem, u stayed there and watched as your relationship crumbled to the ground. When you meet someone and first begin to have deep feelings for them, you think about them 24/7, you smile alot...you want to kiss them every second of the day...BUT...this feeling will NOT last forever. This is only the beginning stages of a relationship and if you think that's what "spark" is all about than....wow. If by spark, you mean emotional/physical connection, then I can agree that if that is lost then its a problem. However...there isn't any problem, like I said before, that can not be fixed if people are willing to sacrifice pride/ego and fix it...rather than running away trying to find your next "spark" and when shit gets serious again...complain again and say "oh ive lost my sparrk"....how many times will someone say "i've lost my spark...off to the next one"? | Posted: at 11-06-2009 11:10 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "ceejay58") ceejay58 at 12-06-2009 12:49 AM (14 years ago) (m) why do people in long-term relationships often begin looking for something new the minute a problem should arise? example....a guy could be in a relationship with a girl for like 2+ years then after an argument or an issue that could be SOLVED if they sacrifice their pride/ego to work together, he starts to have an emotional affair (as in begins start developing feelings) for another person INSTEAD of trying to make an already established relationship work??
Does it make sense to leave someone that you love for someone that you like? Seems like people like to live in the "omg hes everything i want..he calls me sweet names" stage of a relationship....as if the new person won't begin to change later down the road and end up even being worse than u could imagine...
in other words...why do people easily give up?
and basically why are people stupid?
smh
Naijapals abeg make una help me come thank my mama ooooooooo.  | Posted: at 12-06-2009 12:49 AM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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hmmm
<a href=" http://tinypic.com" target="_blank"><img src=" http://i41.tinypic.com/2ezmli0.jpg" border="0" alt="Image and video hosting by TinyPic">[/url]STILL A CERTIFIED V-SQUADER!! Take it or leave it!   A wise man told me don't argue with fools,Cause people from a distance, can't see who is who | Posted: at 12-06-2009 01:00 AM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "mazi") mazi at 12-06-2009 05:51 AM (14 years ago) (m) @ poster, thats cos there is no true love...... cos true love bears all faults....over..looks them....and moves ahead.
there is true love my dear....only dat few ppl hv d ingridients nd understands it... u cant feel or apply wot u dont hv or understand.. true talk, how are u doin mazi my dear mary....mazi lives... i hope u r living in love  | Posted: at 12-06-2009 05:51 AM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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long-term relationships is not good if u want to have any relationship 1yrs is okey and get married but 3 to 6yrs relationship is bad
nah dude...that's not really true in my opinion or maybe its the way you phrased it. Being in a relationship for a long time is actually productive...it gives u an idea of how marriage would be like. There's actually nothing bad about being together for 3 years+...However, a relationship is always meant to grow...so if after 6 years, it hasn't evolved into marriage atleast...then yea, there's an issue there. is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
tired of each other? well...yea I can see how but that sucks....Again, truly, its not something they cant fix if they really want to...and Also, I hope that doesnt happen to me (never has...and hopefully never will). is called when the "SPARK" disappears. they start getting bored of each other, and they look for ways to get out of the relationship. and if that includes cheating, they do it Still doesn't add up to me....Relationships to me aren't simply about the "Spark"...the whole point of a relationship is creating a process that eventually leads to one thing--Marriage. That's how its always been...and thats why God created it. It's just nowadays that people abuse the point of relationships and now relationships have become a way for ppl to have regular sex with some1 and/or pass time. Now...this topic was about long-term relationships.. not 2 or 3 week relationships. why would someone stay in a relationship for 2 years if the "spark" isn't there. People have to understand that the whole "omg...ur the bestest boyfriend in the world blah blah" is not forever. That feeling comes and goes. There are good times when u feel like that....then there are horrible times where u feel like ur boyfriend is an A*#S. What Im trying to say is that people are suppose to DEAL with both times...not run away when the going gets too rough. and as for psychology...I took several psychology classes...as well as 3 Sociology classes including 1 Sex and Culture 3rd level Anthropology class. Currently a 3rd year junior in University. Remeber, that first person will not always be "IT"(the one). there are trials and errors in life, which includes in relationships. maybe u guys got together because of something about her /him u just couldn't resist. it fades away as time goes on, and u guys wanna just take a break. is called life. Ofcourse....I know that...but I'm not talking about the "first person" though...just because your in a long-term relationship doesn't mean that was the first people u decided to be with. Example...a girl could have had bullshit boyfriends...then eventually she finds 1 who is completely different from the rest and decides to embark on a real relationship with him. But I don't agree with what u said "it fades away as time goes on".. Thats Not true. The only time that happens, according to everything I have ever studied or seen with my own experience, is only if you guys were never in love at all. You can NOT...absolutely NOT be in love with someone and it just "fades"...that's B.S. Then again, its not people's fault because people in general don't even understand the meaning of love. They think love is thinking about someone everyday or wanting to be with that person...lol. Let me tell you something.... There are sooo many imitations of "love"....and almost 1/2 of the people who think they are in love are not. There is lust, there is infatuation, there is Affinity... There is Limerence...and then there is Love. People should study these and know which one there in before entering in a relationship. dude, what about those people married for 45 years, and then divorced after? what the hell do u call that? if u don't keep that young spark, it does fade away, because, there is now more into the relationship than just trying to get each other to notice ur self. is just the both of u. i have friends. i did researches. i had to do those researches. my friends tell me stuff. one was like(i've always wanted to kiss him but after a while, it all fades). Lol...if a couple has been married for 45 years..and they divorce, don't u think it has alot more to do than a "spark" problem? Think about it. If you were married to someone for almost 50 years, will u wake up morning and be like "hunney, the spark between us is dead, so I'm gonna have to continue on this journey alone"??What journey? Does that make one ounce of sense? If people are married, they don't divorce because they've lost their "spark" they divorce because of something called "irreconcilable differences". The whole spark theory is for highschoolers who think love is about wanting to kiss someone 1 day and not wanting to kiss someone the next week. Serious relationships and Marriage do not rely on a false sense of "spark". If people want a successful relationship (any kind)..they have to work at it. if you distance yourself from your partner and one day say "we've lost our spark"...who's fault is that? Instead of working towards your problem, u stayed there and watched as your relationship crumbled to the ground. When you meet someone and first begin to have deep feelings for them, you think about them 24/7, you smile alot...you want to kiss them every second of the day...BUT...this feeling will NOT last forever. This is only the beginning stages of a relationship and if you think that's what "spark" is all about than....wow. If by spark, you mean emotional/physical connection, then I can agree that if that is lost then its a problem. However...there isn't any problem, like I said before, that can not be fixed if people are willing to sacrifice pride/ego and fix it...rather than running away trying to find your next "spark" and when shit gets serious again...complain again and say "oh ive lost my sparrk"....how many times will someone say "i've lost my spark...off to the next one"? remember, ur question was not necessarily about marriage. why r u throwing it out then. | Posted: at 12-06-2009 05:56 AM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "solazed") solazed at 12-06-2009 06:45 AM (14 years ago) (m) is called "they r tired of each other"
and honestly speaking, i don't have an answer for u.
hope that never happens to me
it wont....if u understand if i understand what? ur relationship o.....k? ?? unhum no comprendo i mean do u understand ur relationship?
Most wanted for not how much I do but for how much I put into the doing <a href=" http://www.animatio | Posted: at 12-06-2009 06:45 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "jmobbz") jmobbz at 12-06-2009 06:59 AM (14 years ago) (m) I'm gonna let this topic die.... | Posted: at 12-06-2009 06:59 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "myragonza") myragonza at 12-06-2009 07:57 AM (14 years ago) (f) why do people in long-term relationships often begin looking for something new the minute a problem should arise? example....a guy could be in a relationship with a girl for like 2+ years then after an argument or an issue that could be SOLVED if they sacrifice their pride/ego to work together, he starts to have an emotional affair (as in begins start developing feelings) for another person INSTEAD of trying to make an already established relationship work??
Does it make sense to leave someone that you love for someone that you like? Seems like people like to live in the "omg hes everything i want..he calls me sweet names" stage of a relationship....as if the new person won't begin to change later down the road and end up even being worse than u could imagine...
in other words...why do people easily give up?
and basically why are people stupid?
smh
coz guys have too much ego
| Posted: at 12-06-2009 07:57 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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