![-]( "shanique") shanique at 19-06-2009 04:13 PM (14 years ago)  (f) hmmmmm
U SwEaR U KnOw Me CuZ Ya HeArD My NaMe  BuT iF Ya EvA rEaLLy MeT Me YuD KnOw Da GaMe dRaMa NeVa EnDs And HaTaS ArE aLL tHa SaMe tHeY sMiLe To Ya FacE aNd sPiT oN yA NaMe  | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:13 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "mazi") mazi at 19-06-2009 04:27 PM (14 years ago) (m) Sorry (Igbos) - i dont intend to take offence, but am not the author of the article - it was published in daily champion - a very popular Nigerian tabloid and i thought we could discuss it here.....
I think the article is very true though....
there's nothing to debate Sam....just tell me anywhere it was written or said to be part of igbo traditional marriage rites dat must be done nd completed.
that some ppl chose to deviate somewhat eitther bcos they want to b generous...show off...imitate...show love..for wotever reason of theirs does not make it a tradition.
if we hv 2 start picking out viruses dat has eaten deep in our different ethnic societies...i'm sure no tribe will go virus free...
i wonder why u or d so called writer/researcher ma foot...is so much interested in something dat is basically individual's choice instead of tradition.Sure traditional rites are deep in every ethnic group - Look i am not saying its a bad tradition, its just so that you can appreciate what you have when you remember what youve been through before getting it - and i dont know why some igbos are not proud of it. For you saying its not a tradition is very wrong because when the parents are questioned about their demands, their response is that its the tradition (of the land and their fore fathers) - so its definitly the tradition.
and again...marriage rites differ 4rm onr state ot tribe to another...same way families differs...
shall we plz stop dis sterotyping...though its not gonna stop us being our brother's keepers | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:27 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 19-06-2009 04:32 PM (14 years ago) (m) Hmmm okay... IGBO KWENU.... <<<<<<< Hehehe is that not how u guys say it
mechie onugi wata!!! 
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:32 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "omatu") omatu at 19-06-2009 04:33 PM (14 years ago) (f) Today in Igboland, marriage has become a project for people the society see as having arrived financially. This entails that the intending groom would be ready to cater for the family of the wife should there be need for that, after he must have performed all the rites required to take a lady as wife.
In most cases a junior sibling of the new wife would be attached to the new family to train. Whatever it takes, the man would be ready to foot the bills in order to be respected among the kinsmen of the in-laws.
But the duel of the husband to-be-would only get to the other commitments after he must have scaled the first hurdles. On the day of the traditional marriage, the kinsmen who might have taken laxative pills prior to the day would be in attendance to feast to their fill and probably get drunk too. Findings show that because of the endless demands made on the intending husband, traditional marriage seems to be phasing out as some parents would organize it in the city where they reside while the new wife would gladly move into the man’s house after the event.
Such factors have been responsible for low patronage of the marriage institution and a threat to the family system.
As a result, fathers are battling to give out their daughters on time or run the risk of leaving them unmarried. To achieve this they go out of their way to satisfy these kinsmen by allowing them have their way on the endless demands.
Crap | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:33 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "Dguy") Dguy at 19-06-2009 04:34 PM (14 years ago) (m) Hey fella, Are demands not part of the marriage rites? what are the differences please? Also i know better than to stereotype, its no stereotyping - u just taking offence on a very simple question.
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:34 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "mazi") mazi at 19-06-2009 04:47 PM (14 years ago) (m) Hey fella,
Are demands not part of the marriage rites? what are the differences please?
Also i know better than to stereotype, its no stereotyping - u just taking offence on a very simple question.
first....no offence taken....but bad nd negative impression is not acceptable either..
marriage rites r those must-dos b4 u take her as ur wife...
demands r those things not part of must dos...but after marriage demands...which is btwn u nd ur in-laws..
Sam if u know better as u said....u'll equally agree dat dis is stereotyping...wen u use few to blanket d whole. | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:47 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "diplomatik") diplomatik at 19-06-2009 04:52 PM (14 years ago) (f) reading......
u've seen me right?  i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool  | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:52 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "shanique") shanique at 19-06-2009 04:53 PM (14 years ago) (f) hiss
U SwEaR U KnOw Me CuZ Ya HeArD My NaMe BuT iF Ya EvA rEaLLy MeT Me YuD KnOw Da GaMe dRaMa NeVa EnDs And HaTaS ArE aLL tHa SaMe tHeY sMiLe To Ya FacE aNd sPiT oN yA NaMe | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:53 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 19-06-2009 04:56 PM (14 years ago) (m) U two don't have better things to say?
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:56 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "diplomatik") diplomatik at 19-06-2009 04:58 PM (14 years ago) (f) sharappppppppppppp...and u ..what did u say..
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:58 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 19-06-2009 04:59 PM (14 years ago) (m) l've said alotta things.
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 19-06-2009 04:59 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "mazi") mazi at 19-06-2009 05:02 PM (14 years ago) (m) woman wrapper...always running after women | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:02 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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i only kno housa lady's own
which is? three keg of palm wine and 2 big calabash that contain fura de nunu what the heck are those things? i know palm wine, that is an igbo thing | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:04 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "diplomatik") diplomatik at 19-06-2009 05:04 PM (14 years ago) (f) l've said alotta things. reallly  
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:04 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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not yet ma man | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:05 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "shanique") shanique at 19-06-2009 05:05 PM (14 years ago) (f) woman wrapper...always running after women
U SwEaR U KnOw Me CuZ Ya HeArD My NaMe BuT iF Ya EvA rEaLLy MeT Me YuD KnOw Da GaMe dRaMa NeVa EnDs And HaTaS ArE aLL tHa SaMe tHeY sMiLe To Ya FacE aNd sPiT oN yA NaMe | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:05 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 19-06-2009 05:05 PM (14 years ago) (m) @mazi, l've heard enuff of all these from you. l know wat to do anyway.
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:05 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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@mazi, l've heard enuff of all these from you.
l know wat to do anyway.
u think u know huh? | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:06 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 19-06-2009 05:07 PM (14 years ago) (m) Will you close those ur rotten teeth?
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:07 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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they r white not rotten | Posted: at 19-06-2009 05:07 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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