ADVICE NEEDED : “My Mother Slept With My Fiance” , bt he's insisting on not knowing anything !!!

I am 25 years of age and still live with my parents at home. I won’t
describe my parents’ marriage as ideal as my father is forever
accusing my mother of having extra marital affairs.
Sincerely, he isn’t off the target as my mother specialises in dating
younger men.
Severally my father has had to send some young men away from
our premises, who come asking to be employed as drivers. Since I
spent the better part of my life away from home: entered into
boarding school from JSS 1, beyond what I experience during the
holidays and the complaints of my younger ones, I can’t say
categorically that I know my mother very well.
All I know is that she is very fashionable and beautiful as well as a
socialite. Unlike my father who is more into his children and home,
my mother doesn’t care much about us.
We have all come to accept her for whom she is and the times I am
at home or when my father comes to visit me in school. I always tell
him not to bother too much about my mother. I often tell him that
after 26 years as a couple he should be used to her ways by now.
It is an open secret that my father is the one keeping the marriage;
my mother doesn’t care one bit about it. As a child, can’t recall
when she went to the kitchen to cook, I don’t even know what
the taste of her food is like. She is that bad.
Although I have always known my mother’s weakness for young
virile men, not once did it occur to me that my mother is capable of
sleeping with my own boyfriend.
About three months ago, I brought my fiancé home to meet my
parents. He finished before me and travelled to England to further
his studies. He came back about four months ago to ask for my hand
in marriage. Since his parents were familiar with me, I brought him
home to inform my parents of our intentions to spend the rest of
our lives together. My father has also met him while he was still in
school.
My mother was at home on the day he came. We all agreed on the
day his parents would come to meet mine. Three weeks after, they
came for formal introduction and to agree on a date for the
introduction and wedding.
It was during the period of our wedding planning that I ran into my
mother and fiancé coming out of a hotel close to the house of the
caterer I contracted for the wedding.
While I was still trying to fathom what both of them could be doing
in that place, my mother oblivious of who might be looking gave
him a quick peck on his lips before zooming off in her car.
I didn’t need to be told what they had gone to do in the hotel. My
boyfriend didn’t know what to say when I called out his name.
Right there and then he confessed and started begging for my
forgiveness. He claimed not to know how it all happened; that all he
remembers is my mother inviting him over for discussions
concerning the wedding plans.
I am pained and so confused. Our wedding is on December 18. I
want to end it all. There is no way I can go ahead with a wedding to
the man who has slept with my mother. The worst thing is my
mother’s attitude. Even when I confronted her with what she had
done, her attitude was ‘so what!’
My boyfriend and his best man have been pleading with me. My
chief bridesmaid who has been my friend since our childhood is of
the opinion that my mother must have charmed my boyfriend and
that the best way to deal with her is to forgive my boyfriend and go
ahead with the marriage.
I am so confused. I haven’t told my father anything since I don’t
want to hurt him more than she has hurt him all these years. Please
tell me what to do. He is the only man I have ever fallen in love with
in all my life. We have been together for five years and not once has
he cheated on me. Even he was away, he kept calling me religiously
everyday for the 18 months he was abroad. Once he sent money
down for me to visit him. He has been that dedicated to me. He is
still insisting he doesn’t know how he ended up in the hotel with
my mother.

PLs GUyz Wat ShoulD i Do nExt !!!

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Posted: at 10-08-2013 08:28 AM (10 years ago) | Upcoming

Pls go ahead wit d wedding. After d eedding, tell ur dad and ur inlaw to put ur mum in check. Some women do not deserve to be mother.

Posted: at 10-08-2013 09:30 AM (10 years ago) | Addicted Hero