Jane fell for Nigerian Michael, a bartender, in 2005. She married him and then he decided he wanted to live in England.
Jane Cole, 56, knew that The Gambia in Western Africa had a reputation for being a hotbed of holiday romances between young local men and older British women.
But when she decided to take a break there with her friend Vanessa in 2005, she never thought she'd find herself caught up in one.
'I'm quite worldly-wise,' said Jane, from Rothwell, who considered herself too sensible to get embroiled with a younger man.
But then she met Michael, a 28-year-old Nigerian bartender, and his charming, attentive nature drew her in immediately.
Michael quickly made it clear he wanted more than just a one-night stand while she was on holiday in the country. He wanted a relationship. 'I was completely sucked in,' said Jane.
When Michael proposed, Jane decided to keep it a secret from her younger sister Tracy, knowing she would disapprove. Instead, she flew to The Gambia and married him, leaving Tracy to call her a fool.
Quickly, Jane began to see that she might have been right. Michael said he wanted to move into Jane's house with her in the UK, even though she had set her heart on a new life in The Gambia, as they had discussed. Nonetheless, she loved him, so she agreed.
But as soon as the couple arrived in the UK, Jane began to question Michael's loyalty, especially when he began disappearing for long periods.
After calling a number that appeared frequently on his phone bill, she reached a woman with whom Michael had been having a relationship for six years.
'When I confronted Michael he just admitted it and laughed. "People laugh then they see us together," he said. I was devastated. My self-confidence sunk to an all-time low. He had drained me of everything, both financially and emotionally.'
'I blamed myself for being foolish and falling for it. I'm supposed to be intelligent but I never had an inkling. I believed everything he said. And if he had told me the woman was just a friend, I'd still have believed him.'
Tracy admits worrying that her sister might take her own life, because Michael had robbed her of everything. But Jane is not alone when it comes to confidence tricksters scamming women in matters of the heart on holiday.
Around 1,000 British people are victims of dating scams each year, according to the Office of National Statistics.
Topsylucas at 19-02-2014 03:05 PM (11 years ago) (f)
D oyinbo woman sef no get sense.See as she fat come red.She sppose hear d name 'nigeria' & run 4 ha dear life cos 3quarter guys in nigeria re criminally minded.
Posted: at 19-02-2014 03:05 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
why she no go marry OBJ?you want fresh blood,you pay for it..will she allow her 28years old son to marry a woman her age..cunny man die,wayo man bury am. simple
Posted: at 19-02-2014 04:04 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
iam_teehizik at 19-02-2014 04:05 PM (11 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Topsylucas on 19-02-2014 03:05 PM
D oyinbo woman sef no get sense.See as she fat come red.She sppose hear d name 'nigeria' & run 4 ha dear life cos 3quarter guys in nigeria re criminally minded.
lmao. See d woman like wetin i no know fit describe, buh some guyz self no get sense, juz cant fanthom the meaning to all trash, guyz are dangerous, extremely dangerous. Capable of anything. Through God all things are possible, buh wit Money all things are answerable. Naija I hail o, una no dey fail o
Posted: at 19-02-2014 04:05 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Mobbysmartins at 19-02-2014 04:09 PM (11 years ago) (m)
Jane.Do unto others as you will have them do to you.Jane,I ask you,will you approve your 28 years old Son or Brother to marry a 56 years old woman??. I am just asking.
Posted: at 19-02-2014 04:09 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
see lie lie story,Nigerian bartender in Gambia......she flew to Gambia to marry him(Gambia na state for Nigeria?).....soon after arriviving in the uk ""she reached a woman whom he has being dating for six years",na lie go kill britico.
Posted: at 19-02-2014 04:15 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming