Life has 2 sides as proclaimed by artist 2face (women killer) Idibia .... lolz
Alright my post... Take it or not there is success and failure in the building and development of life relationships - to me, getting in and breaking out of relationship is just a blatant demonstration of failure in the aspect of developing a life relationship. Whilst succesful relationships comes without drama and with so much joy, i would like to know what "Success" in a relationship means to you - and how you think success can be attained in relationships?
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit
Posted: at 2-09-2009 08:12 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
erikaakpan at 2-09-2009 08:40 AM (15 years ago) (f)
Success in a relationship to me having an honest and dependable person. i guess that dependence is a sense of security. When times are rough, i know that person will always be there....
Also, if we both have a set of goals and accomplish them that would make us successful then....like a vision
i think it can be attained by your needs and boundaries
Flirtation: Attention without intention.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 08:40 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Relationship Success is wen u have an humble and trusted some 1... u both understand each other. U both set up a target and it turn out 2 be accomplish den is success.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 09:46 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
It takes two to tango. Amos 3:3; Mat 18:19; Eccl 4:12
If U can agree together everything will fall into place. Hey, even heaven understood action needed to be taken against the builders of the tower of babel otherwise they would have been successful at anything they chose to do. god divided their understanding and put different tongues on their lips. they couldnt agree cos they didnt understand one another.
Understanding, agreement, matching values and complimenting desires... these are but a few.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 10:59 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
having someone that shares my dream love me the way i am, when things dey and when e no dey. kpom
adding to that, often Mistakes we guyz make is to base our relationship on s3x, once there's problem we believe the ultimate solution to that problem is having s3x. i knw s3x is part of it (for some of us that really defined what we want in a relationship not all) but then it should not be a prime factor for a successful relationship.
...everywhere i go they keep saying i'm Unique, well that's because my swag defines me.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 11:46 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
diplomatik at 2-09-2009 01:00 PM (15 years ago) (f)
basically...just trying to hold it together..in all aspects will deem it successful...
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 2-09-2009 01:00 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
having someone that shares my dream love me the way i am, when things dey and when e no dey. kpom
Speaking of sharing of dreams, i think thats a very important aspect. because looking at life from a business point of view, interest will only accumulate on shares if stakeholders support and express their sincere interest and support the dream of the business thats the big foundation which a successfully relationship might be built upon.
For example a goal-oriented workaholic guy might fight it difficult reconciling with the dream of a fun-oriented lazy lady
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit
Posted: at 2-09-2009 01:38 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
having someone that shares my dream love me the way i am, when things dey and when e no dey. kpom
Speaking of sharing of dreams, i think thats a very important aspect. because looking at life from a business point of view, interest will only accumulate on shares if stakeholders support and express their sincere interest and support the dream of the business thats the big foundation which a successfully relationship might be built upon.
For example a goal-oriented workaholic guy might fight it difficult reconciling with the dream of a fun-oriented lazy lady
if d dream is geniunly shared by d two...its expected they'll be equally goal oriented... dat doesnt necessarily mean d guy should expect d partner to also b a workaholic too.. afterall it doesnt take being a workaholic only to achieve a goal.
dis is where appreciating each others strenght comes in....dis comes wen there's understanding btw the two.. u cant forget compromise also in building nd developing a relationship. there's joy in knowing dat ur relationship is built on friendship, which comes 4rm understanding, compromise, appreciation,openess etc which r part of core ingriedients to a lively r/s...
Posted: at 2-09-2009 02:38 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
erikaakpan at 2-09-2009 02:45 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: mazi on 2-09-2009 02:38 PM
Quote from: dguy on 2-09-2009 01:38 PM
Quote from: waco on 2-09-2009 09:30 AM
having someone that shares my dream love me the way i am, when things dey and when e no dey. kpom
Speaking of sharing of dreams, i think thats a very important aspect. because looking at life from a business point of view, interest will only accumulate on shares if stakeholders support and express their sincere interest and support the dream of the business thats the big foundation which a successfully relationship might be built upon.
For example a goal-oriented workaholic guy might fight it difficult reconciling with the dream of a fun-oriented lazy lady
if d dream is geniunly shared by d two...its expected they'll be equally goal oriented... dat doesnt necessarily mean d guy should expect d partner to also b a workaholic too.. afterall it doesnt take being a workaholic only to achieve a goal.
dis is where appreciating each others strenght comes in....dis comes wen there's understanding btw the two.. u cant forget compromise also in building nd developing a relationship. there's joy in knowing dat ur relationship is built on friendship, which comes 4rm understanding, compromise, appreciation,openess etc which r part of core ingriedients to a lively r/s...
key word "compromise".......im a strong believer when it comes to dat
Flirtation: Attention without intention.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 02:45 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
How do you equally decide the margins for compromization? how much can you go in both ways? what is the yardstick for this? and how long can the compromisation last?
please do not distract and keep discussions along line of topic - make proper use of capit
Posted: at 2-09-2009 02:48 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
diplomatik at 2-09-2009 02:52 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: esonu on 2-09-2009 01:23 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 2-09-2009 01:00 PM
basically...just trying to hold it together..in all aspects will deem it successful...
in all aspects? even when Ur partner cheats on u?
thats all u think about...there's more to life than that....
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 2-09-2009 02:52 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
How do you equally decide the margins for compromization? how much can you go in both ways? what is the yardstick for this? and how long can the compromisation last?
compromise is a dual take.... u always know where a conflict is gonna arise as u try to know someone... two of u will definitely identify d difference btw u two...nd its always on going thing in a r/s.. instead allowing dat to b a problem or stumbling block...its all abt giving in one way or anoda to accomodate her/him....dis is where tolerance comes in.
there's no specific time limit for compromise.... the magic of compromise is dat time will come wen two of u can be able to read each other. infact u'll become proactive in ur r/s...cos then u must known her strenght,capability even know wen she is telling u lies....a special bond must hv been established.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 03:06 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
erikaakpan at 2-09-2009 03:07 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: dguy on 2-09-2009 02:48 PM
How do you equally decide the margins for compromization? how much can you go in both ways? what is the yardstick for this? and how long can the compromisation last?
think about how important the situation that you are compromising about is in your relationship. if its a big issue...be ready to stand up for yourself. think about the situation from you and you partners perspective. when u compromise there is give and take. As long as both of your needs are heard and there is an understanding i really dont think you can put a measurement on it.....
Flirtation: Attention without intention.
Posted: at 2-09-2009 03:07 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
having someone that shares my dream love me the way i am, when things dey and when e no dey. kpom
Speaking of sharing of dreams, i think thats a very important aspect. because looking at life from a business point of view, interest will only accumulate on shares if stakeholders support and express their sincere interest and support the dream of the business thats the big foundation which a successfully relationship might be built upon.
For example a goal-oriented workaholic guy might fight it difficult reconciling with the dream of a fun-oriented lazy lady
if d dream is geniunly shared by d two...its expected they'll be equally goal oriented... dat doesnt necessarily mean d guy should expect d partner to also b a workaholic too.. afterall it doesnt take being a workaholic only to achieve a goal.
dis is where appreciating each others strenght comes in....dis comes wen there's understanding btw the two.. u cant forget compromise also in building nd developing a relationship. there's joy in knowing dat ur relationship is built on friendship, which comes 4rm understanding, compromise, appreciation,openess etc which r part of core ingriedients to a lively r/s...
key word "compromise".......im a strong believer when it comes to dat
and i'm an addict to it....lol
Posted: at 2-09-2009 03:10 PM (15 years ago) | Hero