URGENT HELP NEEDED

Date: 13-08-2008 4:32 pm (16 years ago) | Author: Daniels Bimbo
- at 13-08-2008 04:32 PM (16 years ago)
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Hi, My name is BIMBO, a Nigerian, Well, i have a question for you.. I'm a graduate, and I’ve worked for some few companies b4 I joined my present organization. on joining, i met this guy who is in a different department, the first time i saw him i was thrilled, i mean i liked him. in my office, we are always having morning meeting everyday so  i noticed that anytime i sit opposite this guy at the conference room he's always staring at me till the meeting ends.. Lately, he approached me, and even before then i learnt that he was married and has a kid but lost his wife in June last year, i later gave in to his proposition and i went to his house for the first time. There was terrible traffic so i got to his house a bit late and i later passed the night in his house and discovered we made love, but what i noticed was that he did not bother to use a condom on me despite the fact that we had condom on the bed, and one thing again was that, in my place of work, you must undergo STD screening especially HIV screening every 3 months especially there department which i think he should always be careful not to contact such disease but he never taught of that and went straight in to me, though I don’t have any disease anyway, but not withstanding he should have just have a taught. That day passed and I’ve been to his house 2 other times and we made love, each time we do same he always comment on my boobs telling me they are just too nice. Sometimes he talks in parable as if he was going to marry me. for example there was a day he was telling me that cant i work else where rather than working in this organization? then the following morning he was telling me that he wants to surprise everybody in our place of work, i was curious and asked him what he wanted to do and he replied me that i wont be the P.A to the M.D again, that I will work elsewhere and said he has the power to put me in a fixed deposit, well I wouldn’t understand what that means, but always in parables. Even sometimes he always tell me that he was going to get me pregnant, I don’t really know if he likes me, if he wants me to be his wife or whatever.... There was a day he told me that he doesn’t want to think again, i mean about his dead wife, now dat I’m here, i noticed also that he doesn’t keep girlfriends because since i knew him he has never dodged anything from me or received a suspected lovers call while I’m with him. the question now is that why will he just go in to me without u sing a condom knowing well that any mistake can jeopardize his career as an embryologist. Does he like me that much? Does he want to marry me? please i need you to give me some advice on how to go about this.. Thanks for your anticipated response..



Posted: at 13-08-2008 04:32 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
- bimbola1 at 13-08-2008 04:36 PM (16 years ago)
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Just that i'm a bit nervous and u know, i like this guy and i believe he likes me too. But another problem now is that even if he would like me to be his wife, he used to be a christian but converted to islam while i'm a christian, i hope religion will not change the plans because i'm looking at the parents view to this and even my parents also. Well, his wife died after a brief illness after having their first child

Actually to be sincere, I like this guy if not i wouldnt have given in for his approach in the first instance.
Again, this guy needs attention because to loose a wife is not funny, u can imagine a guy of just 34 years being a widower, its not funny! Even till now he is still in that shock but just that he's taking everything like a man. Talking about the son, the boy is a very small boy who i think will need a womanly love and attention and sincerely speaking i like the boy(child) a lot, just that he stays with the grandparents down in Ife. I dont see religion as a barier because we are in the 20th century and everybody if not overcivilized is matured even the underaged and we all know that Christian or Muslim, we serve a living God and the most amazing part of it is that he used to be a christian so sometimes he coats some verses in the bible which me myself doesnt even know or havent heard about! I think he's a nice guy but i dont know how true is likeness for me is.... I rest my case
Posted: at 13-08-2008 04:36 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
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- bimbola1 at 13-08-2008 04:37 PM (16 years ago)
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Please, Naijapals, i need advice from u guys.!!! Thanks for your anticipated corporation!!!
 
 
Posted: at 13-08-2008 04:37 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie
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- myragonza at 13-08-2008 04:38 PM (16 years ago)
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hhhmmmmm but i thought u already told us........

Posted: at 13-08-2008 04:38 PM (16 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- philomena87 at 13-08-2008 06:37 PM (16 years ago)
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yea.. she did
Posted: at 13-08-2008 06:37 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- cool_sunny at 27-06-2010 12:38 AM (14 years ago)
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inbox me for ur advice,,,,
Posted: at 27-06-2010 12:38 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- ceejay58 at 27-06-2010 01:42 AM (14 years ago)
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sha just look b/4 u leap.. u ve got to be patient and be very sure what u feel 4 him is love and not pity...

although u didn't mention ur age here but i 'll advice u to be patient.. if he really want to marry u then let it come from him...

but giving in to him without condom hhmmmm?  now with the level of ur education and exposure do u think u re doing the right thing?

i 'll warn u dear, don't allow him to get u pregnant if he has not made his intentions known to u...   

pls don't let ur emotions over-rule ur head ooo....

meanwhile... brb..   Lips Sealed
Posted: at 27-06-2010 01:42 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- HOPEA23 at 27-06-2010 03:31 AM (14 years ago)
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you need an  URGENT  help but you wrote about 3-4 pages.......i am not a machine now that will just quickly sum up your story plz next time learn to brief your story....anyway,i can really tell if he loves you that is the main reason he didn't used condom to protect him/yourself.i guess he is just a kind of guy who like to do it raw skin -skin.

you the only person that can tell if he feel for you with the same ways you feel for him...good luck.

Posted: at 27-06-2010 03:31 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ify0 at 30-01-2012 05:33 PM (12 years ago)
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maybe he likes u,but my advice to u is be very very careful and don´t through ur self so easy to him like that without condom,make sure u go for text also.but pls be very careful,men can do anything just to get a woman to satisfy their self,after then he will just kick u out,and make sure u don´t get pregnant for him .
Posted: at 30-01-2012 05:33 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- FlyMamacita at 30-01-2012 05:51 PM (12 years ago)
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3 yrs old post,, u no expect me to read am abi  Huh? Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 30-01-2012 05:51 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Adikpe at 30-01-2012 05:52 PM (12 years ago)
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A times I wonders why some (supposed to be matured) ladies who are suppose to give advice to the younger ones asking such question. First you are in love with him, you went to his house, you slept with him knowing that he was not using condom and since then you have been having sex with him without proposal of marriage to you. My advice for you is that, you are both emotionally enticed and infatuated and therefore, you need to wake up from your slumber. This is not a matter of being desperate, ask him what he wants from you, or else if you keep on doing this without knowing his intentions towards you, you may live to regret it later. Make wise decisions, I MEAN BE WISE.
Posted: at 30-01-2012 05:52 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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