When your husband lives far away?

Would you allow your husband to live in a different part of the country or even outside the country? Most women would not condone it while others simply have no choice other than to adjust or relocate to their husband’s new station. A lot of reasons make the husband to live apart from the family. The husband in most cases may be on transfer and may have to arrange for the rest of the family to join him.A number of women bared their minds on this most challenging issue.Excerpts:


MRS. ABEGUNDE
Sometimes distance is a bad factor in marriage. Nothing can be as natural as one’s husband being around. Is it taking care of the family, the respect you earn from neighbours or friends and the protection a wife should have received or being accorded when the husband lives with the family. When the husband is nearby these are available.
It is always good for a woman to have her husband around , and that is why some divorcees find it hard to cope with life after separation. Some of them return to their first love while some flirt around because they are lonely and crave the love they have lost.

MRS. JONES
Distance gives room to a lot of problems today in marriages. If we go by the word of God, it is not good and advisable for couples to live apart.
Distance between couples lead to great temptations, especially on the side of our men. Therefore I would not support such, and if such happens it is most likely good for the wife to at least relocate with her husband.

GRACE BABLOLA
If I live far from my husband, I know how I would feel as a woman. I won’t feel happy because there are times you are supposed to be with your husband for special reasons like decision making and more.
Secondly, it is not good for we women to always be alone, we need someone to share our lives and emotions with. We need our husbands to keep us company at least.

REBBECCA
That is exactly what I’m passing through as a wife. My husband has been out of town for sometime now and each time I see couples walking together or a lady with her boyfriend, I feel bad and lonely.
How I wish he could be there for me each time I need him because I just cannot express how bad I feel inside of me.

GIFT UDUWAM
I definitely would not be happy because I would want to be with him. I think I would miss him so terribly bad.

MRS. IFEOMA ISOFIA
There are disadvantages of being lonely and that was why satan was able to deceive Eve in the garden of Eden. The devil knew quite well that it would not have been easy to penetrate if Adam was around. The devil, knowing that women are vulnerable devised a means to reach out to Eve. So those are effects of loneliness. When you are lonely and idle, the devil brings suggestions which would definitely occupy your schedule.

Sometimes, we allow satan to tempt us or bring funny ideas to us because we give him the space to do that.
So, it is advisable that husbands don’t leave behind their wives and family, especially if they are relocating to a new station, although it is not easy to always move around because it could affect the children’s education. Better still, it is safer than leaving them behind.

NNANKE
It is based on understanding between the couple. Though they said distance is a barrier in marriage but as much as you know, the man is married . Even if the man is around, it does not stop a wife from cheating on him, let alone when he is very far off. The most important thing is communication, as long the communication gap is not bridged, we always will trust and pray for each other. We will always be together when we think of each other.

MRS. FAMUYIWA
There is no time as difficult as when a husband leaves his wife and children for another location due to one reason or the other.
At this time, different challenges spring up ranging from how to cater for the children to coping with male admirers or people who might like to provoke you because they know there is no one around to be a cover for you.
So if any man wants to maintain happiness and retain his wife, I think he should not ignore or forget her. He should always find time to keep in touch with his family, pay them visits, provide for their needs and always remind his wife that he still loves her. This, some men may not take so seriously because they do not know those little things that make a woman love a man. It is quite unfortunate today that some men ignore certain little things like saying to their wives “I love you”. This, of course goes a long way and sometimes is more appreciated than sex, money or gifts.
But in some cases, if the wife is self employed and she lives in a rented house; she can relocate to wherever her husband is.

ANGELA IZUKA
As long as I know the nature of his job and that it could take him anywhere, I’d be used to it, though it’s not as easy as that, but I’ll try and understand, pray for him and always communicate with him.

UCHE BLESSING
It is not easy, especially for women to stay away from their husbands for a long time, let alone living apart.One of the reasons is that sometimes, there could be an emergency situation in the middle of the night and if there is no one there for you, guess what could happen to the wife.
That is why the Bible says it is not good for neither a man nor a woman to live alone. This is why God has ordained it for everyone to get a help-meet.