I need some tips people. HELP PLSssssss! (Page 6)

Obey your mind....invite him to take a cafe....and then u can start up with friendship as time goes on u can tell him what is on your mind

Posted: at 25-08-2010 04:43 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Hi jukkiebukwes, I have been in a similar situation before and the best advice I can give you is to forget about this guy.  Honestly, I know my suggestion may seem extreme, but I realise that one thing some men seem to hate is for a girl to be forward or obvious.  If you guys are casual friends, then keep it like that.  
Say the odd hi here and there but dont be in his face and dont let him know that you may have stronger feelings towards him.  Be yourself, do your job.  Just keep up with your appearance, make an effort to look decent at all times (dont over do it though).  If you are his type of girl he'll approach you sooner or later.  I think certain guys prefer to chase than to be chased, its a turn off when girl approach guys.  I told told a guy I liked him after a year of being very close friends, he took the compliment and that was it he never mentioned the topic again.

Posted: at 25-08-2010 04:58 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

You have really hit it Naomi, straight to the point. Thumbsup to you

Posted: at 25-08-2010 05:16 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Darling, you are analyzing the situation too much.  He might think you are a nice girl and he wants to be friends, but if you've called him and he has your number and he never picked up or called back.  Then you have to step back.  Ask yourself this, if a guy you really liked called you, would you call them back?  Guys are not complicated, they are very simple, we just want to add jara to their actions.  He's just being nice, be nice back.  Smile at him, talk to him about things that you are interested in, (don't be shy and don't focus on you like him or he likes you), just talk to him like you would talk to any friend.  If you guys have any common interests, say, a movie, then plan a movie with a bunch of your friends (guys and girls), send it out in an email (blind copy everyone), and say something like - "Hi guys, I want to go see this movie on so so and so date and was wondering if anyone is interested in going?" This lets him know that you are not just on him but will give you a chance to hang with him without being too obvious and will also give him a chance to make a move.  If he is interested AND available, the only thing that's stopping him from making a move is an opportunity, so give him opportunities to be around you without seeming as though you are desperate or "dying" for him.  If you've given him at least 3 good opportunities, and he does not make a move.  Darling, just let it go, it will be hard, but please abeg do!  Guys are not complicated.  If he wants to make a move and he has the opportunity, he will make a move.

Good luck. 

Posted: at 25-08-2010 06:26 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

All these Plenty Advice no dey Confuse yu so?

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Posted: at 25-08-2010 08:50 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

I'm Afraid dis is the EXACT Truth of the Matter Jukkie

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Posted: at 25-08-2010 09:29 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

tanx pple
@Kennee, it wont confuse me at all
@60honey, u can take ur advice to d dogs.

Posted: at 26-08-2010 08:48 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 tanks. i am not deeply in love with this guy, dats y am still cool headed about it. if i was in luv, i wud hv done something stupid by now and wont be here asking for advice.

Posted: at 26-08-2010 10:17 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

no, y?

Posted: at 26-08-2010 10:50 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

you said he dont pick your calls is thre no other mean u can reach him or is he still in thesame office with u?

Posted: at 26-08-2010 11:00 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie