While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
Posted: at 13-10-2010 10:25 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Emmandazie at 13-10-2010 10:44 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Pepesy on 13-10-2010 10:25 AM
While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
I agree with you but only love eggs in many baskets can lead to a more terrible mess -you maybe called 'ashawoooo' and lose your dignity. Better put your all your love eggs in one basket and when it breaks, God and people will uplift you!
Posted: at 13-10-2010 10:44 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
I agree with you but only love eggs in many baskets can lead to a more terrible mess -you maybe called 'ashawoooo' and lose your dignity. Better put your all your love eggs in one basket and when it breaks, God and people will uplift you!
Luv shuld be reciprocal bt in d absence of reciprocal where it shuld what nxt? My dear,,, It’s never advisable 2 put ur eggs in 1 basket…
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:10 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Emmandazie at 13-10-2010 11:25 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Not like does not favour me nor I against reciprocal love. My idea is to drive in love from christian perspective. Rather do your best and be blameless before God. The heart is one and cannot be shared into many baskets. Except we are talking on two different loves: one in which you do not love with your heart and one in which you love with your heart. No heart's love can be shared!
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:25 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
FlyMamacita at 13-10-2010 11:34 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Pepesy on 13-10-2010 10:25 AM
While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
When u ask 1,2,3,6 u r kind of a nagging type to me 4, u r rite betta let d guy say it first 5.8.10 then d relationship is goin to an end 7, at a certain point u can ask dis question, cos guys like to take dia time ehn 9, why wud u ask tht??
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:34 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Emmandazie at 13-10-2010 11:36 AM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Enockia on 13-10-2010 11:22 AM
now tell me how do i handle a lady who tells me all of the above?
Bros, you do take precautions in your relationships so too does she has to take. What matters to me is not what a lady says but what I catch her doing cos some say so as a result of what some men do to them girls. Handle her while watching if she falls victim especially of putting her eggs in many baskets in which case you kick her out!
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:36 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Not like does not favour me nor I against reciprocal love. My idea is to drive in love from christian perspective. Rather do your best and be blameless before God. The heart is one and cannot be shared into many baskets. Except we are talking on two different loves: one in which you do not love with your heart and one in which you love with your heart. No heart's love can be shared!
Remember,,, l never sd luv many @ d same tym bt when u re in a relatnshp dat u knws fully well has no future,,, y wasting tym?
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:39 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sophiebaby at 13-10-2010 11:40 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Pepesy on 13-10-2010 10:25 AM
While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
i disagree wif u on this. cos its only a girl that flirts and doesnt knw what she really wants in life that kips her eggs in so many baskets if a man loves u for real with the whole of his hrts, and he sees his dream woman in u... he will never cheat on u
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:40 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
When u ask 1,2,3,6 u r kind of a nagging type to me 4, u r rite betta let d guy say it first 5.8.10 then d relationship is goin to an end 7, at a certain point u can ask dis question, cos guys like to take dia time ehn 9, why wud u ask tht??
Luv is reciprocal bt in a situatn whereby d reverse is d case what do u do? U get 2 ask questns a guy’s action determines d way 4wd 4 d relatnshp.
Posted: at 13-10-2010 11:50 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
eddybabs at 13-10-2010 12:05 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: Pepesy on 13-10-2010 10:25 AM
While in a relationship...there are a few stuff the guys need clarity before u ever get to mention....see some Lucia listed below and make your inputs...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You'll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he'll call. If not, next. You don't have time for anyone that doesn't have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL? There's only one answer to this question: Because he didn't want to!!! What you're really asking is, "Why didn't you want to call me?" Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn't be sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don't be so quick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it's a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he'd tell you. What you're really asking is, "Were you with another female that you like better than me?" Your insecurity is showing, sweetie. If anything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU. You're saying it in the hopes that he'll say it back, but what if he doesn't? You'll be devastated and probably feel foolish. Saying "I love you" is not going to speed things up if he's not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first to say it when he's ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he's not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don't torture yourself (and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. ARE YOU SEEING ANYONE ELSE? Mystery is to men what romance is to women. You've just indirectly told him that you want to be exclusive, you've handed over control of the relationship and you've killed the mystery. Who knew 5 words could be so powerful?
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that's your attitude. Guys want someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that's constantly worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it's going. If it's going somewhere, you'll know it. If it's not, you'll know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, "Go to the principal's office". Guys know it's not going to be a fun conversation, so they're already on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don't try to talk to him when he's tired, stressed or trying to watch Man U and Chelsea!
9. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? What you're really asking is: Is something wrong? Are you mad at me? Are you thinking about our relationship? Are you thinking about me? Are you thinking about someone else? If he wants you to know what he's thinking, he'll tell you on his own. If he doesn't, he'll lie when you ask.
10. I DON'T TRUST YOU. What you're actually saying is, "You need to step up your game, because I can see you're up to something." If he is up to something, he'll just become even sneakier. Better to think smart and act dumb—it'll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
For the ladies pls.
so wat abt things u should never tell a girl....
Posted: at 13-10-2010 12:05 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac