I need your help

Date: 18-11-2010 6:58 pm (13 years ago) | Author: Mamathick A. Kwakye
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- at 18-11-2010 06:58 PM (13 years ago)
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I met my guy at the University. We are deeply in love now and have been dating for 3 years. For some weeks now we have discovered that we are cousins, he is the son of one of my dad's sisters. Unfortunately for me and my siblings we grew up without knowing who my dad's family was. This is because they were against my parents marriage, just because my mum wasn't Nigerian. We've always lived in my mum's country till 7 years ago when my dad decided to come back to Nigeria and took us along. His father died few months ago and surprisingly my name was mentioned in his will though he had never seen me. I think this is because i was named after him and probably he knew that. On the day that his will was read, the world dropped on me. I came to know my guy was my cousin. His mum is my dad's elder sister. I knew her, but as my boyfriend's mum, never did i think she was my auntie. My guy hadn't met any of my parents yet, so he too he couldn't know that we are related. Now my parents and his are asking us to break up. I am trying to be reasonable but he is not. He thinks we can build a family for ourselves without our parent's blessings. That's not acceptable for me. I grew up not knowing my grandparents, aunties and uncles. I don't want my kids to experience what i went through. I'm ready to give up our love, as painful and difficult as it might seem but i don't know if i'm taking the right decision. I don't want to regret in the future. I need your advice.

Posted: at 18-11-2010 06:58 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
- bittersweet at 18-11-2010 07:03 PM (13 years ago)
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I'm sorry, but I don't see other way than to give up on him!
It's just abnormal!

Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:03 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Pepesy at 18-11-2010 07:06 PM (13 years ago)
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Hmmn! what a cmplicated situation. U guys must rest d case coz its an abormination 4 u guys 2 marry though its diff...
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:06 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- juleshotluv at 18-11-2010 07:07 PM (13 years ago)
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This is a serious one but as difficult as it might seem, you cant go through with it. How can you marry your cousin? its just unacceptable
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:07 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Pepesy at 18-11-2010 07:07 PM (13 years ago)
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Sorry dear
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:07 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Kennee at 18-11-2010 07:11 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Mamathick on 18-11-2010 06:58 PM
I met my guy at the University. We are deeply in love now and have been dating for 3 years. For some weeks now we have discovered that we are cousins, he is the son of one of my dad's sisters. Unfortunately for me and my siblings we grew up without knowing who my dad's family was. This is because they were against my parents marriage, just because my mum wasn't Nigerian. We've always lived in my mum's country till 7 years ago when my dad decided to come back to Nigeria and took us along. His father died few months ago and surprisingly my name was mentioned in his will though he had never seen me. I think this is because i was named after him and probably he knew that. On the day that his will was read, the world dropped on me. I came to know my guy was my cousin. His mum is my dad's elder sister. I knew her, but as my boyfriend's mum, never did i think she was my auntie. My guy hadn't met any of my parents yet, so he too he couldn't know that we are related. Now my parents and his are asking us to break up. I am trying to be reasonable but he is not. He thinks we can build a family for ourselves without our parent's blessings. That's not acceptable for me. I grew up not knowing my grandparents, aunties and uncles. I don't want my kids to experience what i went through. I'm ready to give up our love, as painful and difficult as it might seem but i don't know if i'm taking the right decision. I don't want to regret in the future. I need your advice.

l think yu've made a Good Decision

He should try and Understand

Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:11 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Selu at 18-11-2010 07:17 PM (13 years ago)
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I'm very sorry for the situation in front of u now, i think your decision is right cos it is abnormal and morally wrong for u guys to be one flesh. Your decision is right and i don't think you will regret the future.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:17 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- sobeit at 18-11-2010 07:31 PM (13 years ago)
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My dear there is nothing to regret about,you have taking the right step to dissolved the relationship.i understand how painful it is but, you see you can't marry your own blood is an abominable act if you do so..if you love your life and you want peace for the rest of your life just terminate the relationship whether he likes it or not...there is no compromise in this situation is a taboo to marry your own cousin.pls avoid cause in your life goodluck.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:31 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- nice9ija at 18-11-2010 07:45 PM (13 years ago)
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your decision is right..... just quit the relationship with him and am sure he will understand it too
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:45 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bafyguy at 18-11-2010 07:59 PM (13 years ago)
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Now that you know he is your cousin, it is better you call it quit.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 07:59 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- xena15 at 18-11-2010 08:24 PM (13 years ago)
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Spells  D-O-O-M!
Quit now & save ur future!!!

Posted: at 18-11-2010 08:24 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- shinapeters at 18-11-2010 09:06 PM (13 years ago)
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 i just hope u havent been intimate with him..............................
Posted: at 18-11-2010 09:06 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Slimme at 18-11-2010 09:10 PM (13 years ago)
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My dear, it's really hard, but u need to back out!
Posted: at 18-11-2010 09:10 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- onyimau20 at 18-11-2010 09:22 PM (13 years ago)
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Na waa ooo!, my dear , i know it is not easy but pls do not change your decision. Stand firm,that is a very nice one.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 09:22 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- zino_fb at 18-11-2010 10:40 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: shinapeters on 18-11-2010 09:06 PM
i just hope u havent been intimate with him..............................

See question, for THREE years u say dem never chop apple?...The question when you for ask be say, HOPE YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT?
Posted: at 18-11-2010 10:40 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- princedafe at 18-11-2010 10:44 PM (13 years ago)
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Quit now
Posted: at 18-11-2010 10:44 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- LEONE at 18-11-2010 11:00 PM (13 years ago)
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Thank God,there is no kid involve,if you love urself & ur future QUIT NOW.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 11:00 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- monday3 at 18-11-2010 11:19 PM (13 years ago)
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pls my dear run far now,when u run from the guy,He will get his self later not now.
Posted: at 18-11-2010 11:19 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- omatu at 18-11-2010 11:47 PM (13 years ago)
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This is very sad.  The advise given to you by people so far is the correct advise.  You need to work away from the relationship, but welcome each other as family members.  Time to rebuilt the relationship as painful and as difficult as it may be. 
Posted: at 18-11-2010 11:47 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- omoobaorun at 19-11-2010 04:35 AM (13 years ago)
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Quit now!, u cant just continue with the relationship it`s odd. Good kucky
Posted: at 19-11-2010 04:35 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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