b4 u start giving ur bf the kind of respect u talking abt u hv to be sure the relationship is heading to marriage most guys hv u as a gf and never hope to marry u so y will u too hv to be with him with one leg and half mind but if the relationship is heading i mean u both sure of marriage then u give him dat respect as a husband he wold be for instance he may ask u to start going to His church u will do dat cos u know he church is also urs bt a gf u go ask am 4 watin na and most guys after doing all this for them they leave u to marry another so y u go kill urself 4 bf when he nt ur husband
I understand wat u mean... but dont u tink we shud treat everybody wit d same respect?
I mean, if am dating a guy (not sure yet if it leads to marriage) why cant i treat him wit d same respect u go
treat ur husband? U neva knw dat person go b ur future hubby?
i dont understand why u can not go to d same church wen u 'just' bf/gf? Or all those oda tins... i just dont get itu know most guys will even tell u wat dey want is just friendship even sm girl can date a guy and when it comes to marriage the guy is nt their choice so the difference is there when u talk of husband he owns u i mean u are both one there is no going back its a life time stuff u can fight and kill for ur husband but a gf or bf if u fight finish he may leave u for another girl maybe from his village i may tolerate som satin things 4rom my husband but i wont take it if he is my bf especially when am nt sure of the relationship
Or why not just quit? Is it wise to start a relationship with the thinking 'It can end any day'?
U can fight for ur husband but not for ur bf? Wat if ur bf is ur future husband? The person is still the same
so how does d ring make any difference ??
| Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:24 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Alrite, am not talking abt players or ashawo
am talkin abt relationships where u limit d tins u can/can't do
for d oda person..... And I wonder WHY dat is.....??
I got you now!
I don't know, depends from person to person, of their way of thinking, some are just like that!
It's like they want to keep the level of involvement at the lowest level possible! 
Dear, and i dont understand why anybody wud act like dat u knw...?
U commit ursef in a relationship to love, care and understand ursef... but how com d limit?
Is it like a security? not to get heartbroken, or...?
So, if u love ur bf truely i think u shud not limit ur actions because u r not married yet!
And i rily think it is confusing, cos i still didn get reasons from nobody | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:26 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:28 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
So u tink marriage is too risky ? | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:39 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Alrite, am not talking abt players or ashawo
am talkin abt relationships where u limit d tins u can/can't do
for d oda person..... And I wonder WHY dat is.....??
I got you now!
I don't know, depends from person to person, of their way of thinking, some are just like that!
It's like they want to keep the level of involvement at the lowest level possible!
Dear, and i dont understand why anybody wud act like dat u knw...?
U commit ursef in a relationship to love, care and understand ursef... but how com d limit?
Is it like a security? not to get heartbroken, or...?
So, if u love ur bf truely i think u shud not limit ur actions because u r not married yet!
And i rily think it is confusing, cos i still didn get reasons from nobody no need to be confuse husband and bf are twoo different things ur parent may nt even know ur bf or siblings may nt know him, some guys even refuse to see ur parent they are nt sure if u will marry they dnt want to commit themselves so same as u the gf u need to limit urself from him if he need more attention or respect he go see ur parent and do the necessary thing | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:40 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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This a very interesting topic thx for raising flymama. Women's SideThe more u invest in a relationship the more it hurts! Women used to put inb a 150% in a relatioship, however, past experiences (their/ those they noe of), have made them exercise caution a lot more. Acting like they dont care is a means of convincing themselves as well as others that they are being casual in their relationship. Having said that, how do a guy assess that u r "marriage material" if u dont act like u r. Also, practise makes perfect, there is a risk that u wont automatically switch to wife mode after the wedding unless of course u r a good actress or a chameleon! Men's Side- we all noe that most men love the chase. When the chase is over n they tend to get more comfortable, they tend to put in less effort than they wud otherwise. Just becuz they dont put more effort doesnt neccessarily mean that they dont love u. Bottomline is that within a month (& thats stretching it), a man knows what he wants out of the relationship, it is up to both parties to try and communicate this to each other! And even if u r not very sure, pay attention to the non-verbal signals cuz they neva lie! Our behaviour is often likened to smoke in the air as it is very hard to contain/ hide for long. | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:41 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "sophiebaby") sophiebaby at 13-12-2010 01:42 PM (14 years ago)  (f) hmmmmmmm
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :* | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:42 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Because they dont expect any future with the person | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:43 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Alrite, am not talking abt players or ashawo
am talkin abt relationships where u limit d tins u can/can't do
for d oda person..... And I wonder WHY dat is.....??
I got you now!
I don't know, depends from person to person, of their way of thinking, some are just like that!
It's like they want to keep the level of involvement at the lowest level possible!
Dear, and i dont understand why anybody wud act like dat u knw...?
U commit ursef in a relationship to love, care and understand ursef... but how com d limit?
Is it like a security? not to get heartbroken, or...?
So, if u love ur bf truely i think u shud not limit ur actions because u r not married yet!
And i rily think it is confusing, cos i still didn get reasons from nobody no need to be confuse husband and bf are twoo different things ur parent may nt even know ur bf or siblings may nt know him, some guys even refuse to see ur parent they are nt sure if u will marry they dnt want to commit themselves so same as u the gf u need to limit urself from him if he need more attention or respect he go see ur parent and do the necessary thing
Do u rily need plan for marriage b4 u can do dat ? | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:43 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
So u tink marriage is too risky ?
But,I don't know, sometimes it's pretty obvious, I mean the signals are pretty clear,those red flags can be seen easily,
so it's up to us to decide if we can live with such a person!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:44 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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This a very interesting topic thx for raising flymama. Women's SideThe more u invest in a relationship the more it hurts! Women used to put inb a 150% in a relatioship, however, past experiences (their/ those they noe of), have made them exercise caution a lot more. Acting like they dont care is a means of convincing themselves as well as others that they are being casual in their relationship. Having said that, how do a guy assess that u r "marriage material" if u dont act like u r. Also, practise makes perfect, there is a risk that u wont automatically switch to wife mode after the wedding unless of course u r a good actress or a chameleon! Men's Side- we all noe that most men love the chase. When the chase is over n they tend to get more comfortable, they tend to put in less effort than they wud otherwise. Just becuz they dont put more effort doesnt neccessarily mean that they dont love u. Bottomline is that within a month (& thats stretching it), a man knows what he wants out of the relationship, it is up to both parties to try and communicate this to each other! And even if u r not very sure, pay attention to the non-verbal signals cuz they neva lie! Our behaviour is often likened to smoke in the air as it is very hard to contain/ hide for long.
How can a man knw u r wat he is lookin for wen u act as if u dont care?? For d men, wen u r just afta sex
u shudn commit ursef in a relationship! There r enuf gals who can just giv u d fun u r lookin for!
| Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:47 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
So u tink marriage is too risky ?all relationsips are risky! Bob Marley (i think it was him anyways) said that "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for." | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:48 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Because they dont expect any future with the person
Then why continue d relationship? | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:48 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
So u tink marriage is too risky ?
But,I don't know, sometimes it's pretty obvious, I mean the signals are pretty clear,those red flags can be seen easily,
so it's up to us to decide if we can live with such a person!
The same goes for som women!
Some guys can promisse u heaven on earth and even try their best but still they think
within themselves, we are just in a relationship... nottin more, nottin less!
| Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:50 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
So u tink marriage is too risky ?all relationsips are risky! Bob Marley (i think it was him anyways) said that "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for." | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:51 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "Treasure2") Treasure2 at 13-12-2010 01:52 PM (14 years ago) (f) This a very interesting topic thx for raising flymama. Women's SideThe more u invest in a relationship the more it hurts! Women used to put inb a 150% in a relatioship, however, past experiences (their/ those they noe of), have made them exercise caution a lot more. Acting like they dont care is a means of convincing themselves as well as others that they are being casual in their relationship. Having said that, how do a guy assess that u r "marriage material" if u dont act like u r. Also, practise makes perfect, there is a risk that u wont automatically switch to wife mode after the wedding unless of course u r a good actress or a chameleon! Men's Side- we all noe that most men love the chase. When the chase is over n they tend to get more comfortable, they tend to put in less effort than they wud otherwise. Just becuz they dont put more effort doesnt neccessarily mean that they dont love u. Bottomline is that within a month (& thats stretching it), a man knows what he wants out of the relationship, it is up to both parties to try and communicate this to each other! And even if u r not very sure, pay attention to the non-verbal signals cuz they neva lie! Our behaviour is often likened to smoke in the air as it is very hard to contain/ hide for long.
How can a man knw u r wat he is lookin for wen u act as if u dont care?? For d men, wen u r just afta sex
u shudn commit ursef in a relationship! There r enuf gals who can just giv u d fun u r lookin for!
 | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:52 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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Because they dont expect any future with the person
Then why continue d relationship?Because both parties are on the same page(probably). its just like saying open relationship. | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:53 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Absolutely no guarantee!
And I'm afraid that the risk is too much for one to take!
It's like a one sided relationship!
So u tink marriage is too risky ?all relationsips are risky! Bob Marley (i think it was him anyways) said that "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for."
Live and let live! | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:54 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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Alrite, am not talking abt players or ashawo
am talkin abt relationships where u limit d tins u can/can't do
for d oda person..... And I wonder WHY dat is.....??
I got you now!
I don't know, depends from person to person, of their way of thinking, some are just like that!
It's like they want to keep the level of involvement at the lowest level possible!
Dear, and i dont understand why anybody wud act like dat u knw...?
U commit ursef in a relationship to love, care and understand ursef... but how com d limit?
Is it like a security? not to get heartbroken, or...?
So, if u love ur bf truely i think u shud not limit ur actions because u r not married yet!
And i rily think it is confusing, cos i still didn get reasons from nobody no need to be confuse husband and bf are twoo different things ur parent may nt even know ur bf or siblings may nt know him, some guys even refuse to see ur parent they are nt sure if u will marry they dnt want to commit themselves so same as u the gf u need to limit urself from him if he need more attention or respect he go see ur parent and do the necessary thing
But if u r in a serious relationship, why wudn u go meet his/her parents?
Do u rily need plan for marriage b4 u can do dat ?
[/color] that is it that when ur bf refuse u of meeting his parent thats a sign dat he is nt ready to settle down with u cos if he wnts to he wold be proud to introduce u to his parents and even relation as future wife so watin won make u carry ur whole mind put 4 such relationship | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:54 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Because they dont expect any future with the person
Then why continue d relationship?Because both parties are on the same page(probably). its just like saying open relationship.
If dem just wan phyuk, go ashawo corner | Posted: at 13-12-2010 01:54 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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