When You Are Angry............. (Page 8)

Date: 16-12-2010 3:26 pm (13 years ago) | Author: Obiajunwa
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- kemoprosper at 17-12-2010 10:06 AM (13 years ago)
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is either i walk out of d scene or cried, cos i will not want my anger to control my action.
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- Bestheart at 17-12-2010 10:10 AM (13 years ago)
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Walk away, lock myself inside the room, put water in my mouth, but what of in a situation that men doesn't like when they are talking to you, you walk out on them, what do you do, bc I can't avoid talking if I stand in front of the person, is a big war. I prefer to move out and keep silence, silence is the best answer, but if you marry talkertive............
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- sophiebaby at 17-12-2010 10:11 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Bestheart on 17-12-2010 10:10 AM
Walk away, lock myself inside the room, put water in my mouth, but what of in a situation that men doesn't like when they are talking to you, you walk out on them, what do you do, bc I can't avoid talking if I stand in front of the person, is a big war. I prefer to move out and keep silence, silence is the best answer, but if you marry talkertive............

like me abi

Posted: at 17-12-2010 10:11 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Adikpe at 17-12-2010 10:31 AM (13 years ago)
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Be left alone
Posted: at 17-12-2010 10:31 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Priceless-jewel at 17-12-2010 10:33 AM (13 years ago)
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hmmmmmm
Posted: at 17-12-2010 10:33 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- walerian at 17-12-2010 10:33 AM (13 years ago)
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close my eyes nd take a deeep breath
Posted: at 17-12-2010 10:33 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- divineproject at 17-12-2010 10:56 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 17-12-2010 08:56 AM
1. Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t allow connection with your feeling, and won’t allow movement to occur. Acknowledge that you have anger and take some time to feel it within your body. Decide not to run away from it. Thank the anger for being present. Allow for the ideas that even if you don’t understand your anger completely, somehow you felt threatened. Your anger is attempting to fight for you. Gratitude will melt resistance you have towards your own anger.

2. Give anger your unconditional acceptance. Commit to yourself that you will not judge, ignore, shame, reject, criticize, or punish yourself for having anger. It is allowable for you to have anger. Your experience is meaningful.

3. Share your desire to get to know your anger, why it is here, and what it wants for you. Anger is not your enemy. Anger indicates you are in pain, hurt, or fear. It’s very presence allows an opportunity to heal or open the doorway to greater love. Express your desire to know what experiences might be connected with this anger. Communicate with your anger in a way that you allow yourself to be its friend, and that your desire is to have it express itself to you.

4. Allow your anger, words, or memories to have a safe space to come out. As you listen to your anger, go beyond the surface and ask what you are feeling threatened by. Ask what you would need from yourself to feel even a little better. Notice the energy in your body, breathe into that energy, and allow it to expand until you feel a physical shift. Continue to remember anger is an experience, not who you are.

5. Recognize that beneath your anger, you felt threatened in some manner. Listen and be willing to understand what lives inside of you. Offer love to your anger and the tender place beneath your anger. This is the process of transformation. You don’t need to solve anything, rather you need to bring a loving presence to the hurt that lives beneath anger. Your job is to realize exactly what caused you to feel threatened, and now allow for new assertive, loving, and adult ways of dealing with that threat.

Thanks so much Sophie.......that was some write-up!.............. Kiss Kiss Kiss

Posted: at 17-12-2010 10:56 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- desiresluv20 at 17-12-2010 11:00 AM (13 years ago)
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peeped

Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:00 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- desiresluv20 at 17-12-2010 11:02 AM (13 years ago)
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Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:02 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 17-12-2010 11:03 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 17-12-2010 10:56 AM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 17-12-2010 08:56 AM
1. Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t allow connection with your feeling, and won’t allow movement to occur. Acknowledge that you have anger and take some time to feel it within your body. Decide not to run away from it. Thank the anger for being present. Allow for the ideas that even if you don’t understand your anger completely, somehow you felt threatened. Your anger is attempting to fight for you. Gratitude will melt resistance you have towards your own anger.

2. Give anger your unconditional acceptance. Commit to yourself that you will not judge, ignore, shame, reject, criticize, or punish yourself for having anger. It is allowable for you to have anger. Your experience is meaningful.

3. Share your desire to get to know your anger, why it is here, and what it wants for you. Anger is not your enemy. Anger indicates you are in pain, hurt, or fear. It’s very presence allows an opportunity to heal or open the doorway to greater love. Express your desire to know what experiences might be connected with this anger. Communicate with your anger in a way that you allow yourself to be its friend, and that your desire is to have it express itself to you.

4. Allow your anger, words, or memories to have a safe space to come out. As you listen to your anger, go beyond the surface and ask what you are feeling threatened by. Ask what you would need from yourself to feel even a little better. Notice the energy in your body, breathe into that energy, and allow it to expand until you feel a physical shift. Continue to remember anger is an experience, not who you are.

5. Recognize that beneath your anger, you felt threatened in some manner. Listen and be willing to understand what lives inside of you. Offer love to your anger and the tender place beneath your anger. This is the process of transformation. You don’t need to solve anything, rather you need to bring a loving presence to the hurt that lives beneath anger. Your job is to realize exactly what caused you to feel threatened, and now allow for new assertive, loving, and adult ways of dealing with that threat.

Thanks so much Sophie.......that was some write-up!.............. Kiss Kiss Kiss

Atleast to let some ppl know that am not senseless Grin

Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:03 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sophiebaby at 17-12-2010 11:04 AM (13 years ago)
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When am deeply angry
my breath goes high
what i do is i quickly take a deep breath and relax my mind

Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:04 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- OmobolanleAdufe at 17-12-2010 11:07 AM (13 years ago)
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I moveaway immediately from the spot and be alone.
Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:07 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- sophiebaby at 17-12-2010 11:09 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: OmobolanleAdufe on 17-12-2010 11:07 AM
I moveaway immediately from the spot and be alone.

ok

Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:09 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- divineproject at 17-12-2010 11:37 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 17-12-2010 11:03 AM
Quote from: divineproject on 17-12-2010 10:56 AM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 17-12-2010 08:56 AM
1. Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t allow connection with your feeling, and won’t allow movement to occur. Acknowledge that you have anger and take some time to feel it within your body. Decide not to run away from it. Thank the anger for being present. Allow for the ideas that even if you don’t understand your anger completely, somehow you felt threatened. Your anger is attempting to fight for you. Gratitude will melt resistance you have towards your own anger.

2. Give anger your unconditional acceptance. Commit to yourself that you will not judge, ignore, shame, reject, criticize, or punish yourself for having anger. It is allowable for you to have anger. Your experience is meaningful.

3. Share your desire to get to know your anger, why it is here, and what it wants for you. Anger is not your enemy. Anger indicates you are in pain, hurt, or fear. It’s very presence allows an opportunity to heal or open the doorway to greater love. Express your desire to know what experiences might be connected with this anger. Communicate with your anger in a way that you allow yourself to be its friend, and that your desire is to have it express itself to you.

4. Allow your anger, words, or memories to have a safe space to come out. As you listen to your anger, go beyond the surface and ask what you are feeling threatened by. Ask what you would need from yourself to feel even a little better. Notice the energy in your body, breathe into that energy, and allow it to expand until you feel a physical shift. Continue to remember anger is an experience, not who you are.

5. Recognize that beneath your anger, you felt threatened in some manner. Listen and be willing to understand what lives inside of you. Offer love to your anger and the tender place beneath your anger. This is the process of transformation. You don’t need to solve anything, rather you need to bring a loving presence to the hurt that lives beneath anger. Your job is to realize exactly what caused you to feel threatened, and now allow for new assertive, loving, and adult ways of dealing with that threat.

Thanks so much Sophie.......that was some write-up!.............. Kiss Kiss Kiss

Atleast to let some ppl know that am not senseless Grin

You got nothing to prove to anyone sweetie............

Posted: at 17-12-2010 11:37 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- marcmer at 17-12-2010 12:40 PM (13 years ago)
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when am angry,i become concious of it,try to avoid the harmful and destructive part of it,smile over it,control it and try to resolve it immediately to avoid mistakes.that's it.
Posted: at 17-12-2010 12:40 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- Treasure2 at 17-12-2010 01:08 PM (13 years ago)
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SILEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
Posted: at 17-12-2010 01:08 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- popo2009 at 17-12-2010 01:47 PM (13 years ago)
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I try not to talk to anybody that moment.
Posted: at 17-12-2010 01:47 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Bennygoodman at 17-12-2010 01:50 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 16-12-2010 03:26 PM
Whether we like it or not, somehow, anyhow. we might get angry..........No matter how much we avoid anger, someone/something is ever ready to make us angry.  I used to know someone who locks himself in, switches off his phones whenever he is angry.  That is his own way of getting over that anger.  As for me, I make sure I leave the scene and who ever made me angry better leave the place for me and keep from talking, else the matter no go ever dey solved..........at such time, I dont mind a little pep talk from a friend, that way I calm down.  Meanwhile, I try as much as possible not to use negative words at such time.  So I ask:

How do you react when you are angry?

How do you handle anger?

What would you like the people around you to do when such happens?


keep to myself and go to sleep
Posted: at 17-12-2010 01:50 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- lanudja at 17-12-2010 02:03 PM (13 years ago)
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Go to a quiet place n stay all by myself for some time.
Posted: at 17-12-2010 02:03 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- beniebenie at 17-12-2010 07:48 PM (13 years ago)
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i make sure i kill someone before i calm down
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