![-]( "nellygold") nellygold at 18-12-2010 02:54 PM (14 years ago)  (f) Lady A is very good in bed.And he loves his wife very well.A man can cheat and still go back home to love his wife,becos for most of them cheating is nothing.Its more like having fun.but such men,only God can heal them.
ure! my dear; she might be good in bed, but that's very bad of him, because whatever his getting from Lady A, the wife can equally give it to him, if he can be very open to her; cheating is cheating No one can be justify for doing that, be it a man or woman We keep blaming the men,but wat about the women they cheat with.I mean most of all this women are the ones responsible for all this.If lady A can sit him down,talk to him and send him back home.trust he will change.it takes two to tangle. I wasn't blaming the men  , that was why i said: cheating is cheating No one can be justify for doing that, be it a man or woman; Admitted that Lady A wasn't a helping matter here either, but if the man love the wife like he claim, he would have teach the wife whatever is it, his getting from lady A, am sure lady B will do that seeing how much she loves him I know.I got your point.I mentioned lady A cos she would have been of a great help.Becos seems like she's the one who is holding more power here.although the man can still avoid her and go back to his wife.Like I said such men needs prayers.And his wife,hmmm you know sumtimes sum women tend to be too tight and serious after marriage.Probably she hardly give him sex,and she's too carried away with other stuff.I mean if your husband is cheating,no matter wat you will surely know.Tht's if you are really close to him and if you know him really well.I pray he changes though,befor his wife finds out and leave him.
The aim of lady A is to see the rock the boat, so that she can take-over, though the man isn't ready for that, 'cos they now got kids; As for the being tight, she isn't, cos she told me the husband do sleep in different room some times, claiming he doesn't want to be disturb; though she thinking otherwise, but have no prove, even if she has evidence, she no longer believe in Divorce/Separation after marriage, there are lots of hints about them, but i can't put all here, 'cos someone may figure them out, who knows.... so you is a tough situation | Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:54 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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reading | Posted: at 18-12-2010 02:57 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "nellygold") nellygold at 18-12-2010 03:06 PM (14 years ago) (f) reading
U better comment or  | Posted: at 18-12-2010 03:06 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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If only a man will learn to open up to his wife!!
I guess the only thing he need from lady A is sex, maybe his wife is doing something wrong there...
Why can't he just talk to her about it, give her the chance to save her marriage!
Yaa opening-up is sure the key, but i think he may be shying away from that
And his wife should open her eyes and realise there is something going on!No matter how she open her eyes, there's no how she will know without being told, i mean from the way the man is handling it 
Why can't u talk to him in a way he will understand and stop wht he is doing?
Are u guys close so tht u can have conversation like dat ?Am close to both of them, the big problem there, is that both of them (husband and wife) seems to confide in me; and i do same to them 2, that's why there issue is eating me up, am feeling bad for the wife; sometimes i have the urge to give the wife a clue; but at same time i don't wanna be a betrayer; i 've tried talking to him, he told me that sincerely is not he's wish...; but that he can't help himself out
bcos dat is only gonna bring more problems!
U rily have to talk to him gud and make him understand which kinda risk he is taking! | Posted: at 18-12-2010 05:59 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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wetin u go do nellygold? | Posted: at 18-12-2010 06:02 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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wetin u go do nellygold? | Posted: at 18-12-2010 06:02 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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wetin u go do nellygold? | Posted: at 18-12-2010 06:05 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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heee PJ giv her som rest na | Posted: at 18-12-2010 06:10 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "nellygold") nellygold at 19-12-2010 12:08 AM (14 years ago) (f) If only a man will learn to open up to his wife!!
I guess the only thing he need from lady A is sex, maybe his wife is doing something wrong there...
Why can't he just talk to her about it, give her the chance to save her marriage!
Yaa opening-up is sure the key, but i think he may be shying away from that
And his wife should open her eyes and realise there is something going on!No matter how she open her eyes, there's no how she will know without being told, i mean from the way the man is handling it
Why can't u talk to him in a way he will understand and stop wht he is doing?
Are u guys close so tht u can have conversation like dat ?Am close to both of them, the big problem there, is that both of them (husband and wife) seems to confide in me; and i do same to them 2, that's why there issue is eating me up, am feeling bad for the wife; sometimes i have the urge to give the wife a clue; but at same time i don't wanna be a betrayer; i 've tried talking to him, he told me that sincerely is not he's wish...; but that he can't help himself out
bcos dat is only gonna bring more problems!
U rily have to talk to him gud and make him understand which kinda risk he is taking!I see to that; it needs God's intervention though @Priceless-jewel i will sue u | Posted: at 19-12-2010 12:08 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "xena15") xena15 at 19-12-2010 12:17 AM (14 years ago) (f) Ah! Men again? I'm out>>>>>>>
D devil must b using ur destiny 2 weave his pubic hair if u think imma change all ma colors 4 u! | Posted: at 19-12-2010 12:17 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "kebella") kebella at 19-12-2010 12:20 AM (14 years ago) (f) LOVE MATTER GOTTA OUTTA HERE
my name is kebella  ........yu already no that  ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!! | Posted: at 19-12-2010 12:20 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "xena15") xena15 at 19-12-2010 12:22 AM (14 years ago) (f) Sharp Sharp>>>>>>
D devil must b using ur destiny 2 weave his pubic hair if u think imma change all ma colors 4 u! | Posted: at 19-12-2010 12:22 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "nellygold") nellygold at 19-12-2010 12:29 AM (14 years ago) (f) BS u dont knw if it is dirty or perverse.... He shud open up to his wife and talk!
I bet he is,otherwise he would ask them from his wife!
Probably he likes who knows what dirty craps!You right 'cos his in lust hehe U dont knw wat it is... Som men r rily not dat talking type u knw, not even to their wives!
That's why I assume that maybe it's something really nasty, but no matter what would be, he really lacks conscience! | Posted: at 19-12-2010 12:29 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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There's this friend of my, who got married 5years ago; during our chat, he told me, that he's still seeing the lady (Lady A) he went out with before getting married; I was astonish hearing that!, 'cos i know the wife, from my own perspective she (the wife/Lady B) got all it takes, both in terms of beauty and wife material stuffs:
I told him if you so love this other lady, you she have got married to her, instead of your present wife..., you courted both of them and decide to settle for Lady B (the wife); He responds was, over my dead body will i settle for Lady A, but at the same time, i find it difficult letting her go, 'cos i have tried severally to stop seeing her, at the end of the day, i still find myself in her arms; I quit agreed with you that my wife got all it takes, but all the same something is missing somewhere....., you wouldn't get it, he added:
The essence of courtship is to figure out things... before tying knot..., we all know that no one is perfect (i:e no ideal woman/man); but at the same time, i think, E:g if out of 10 characteristic we need..., we find say 7 in one particular person; why will one get stuck with a fellow that has 4, when he already tie the knot, with the one that has 7?. It suck!; Moreover, i found out, that he's not ready to quit Lady A, 'Cos when i asked him, how will you handle things, if your wife finds out? he said, how will she..? you are not gonna tell her, will you?
So my question is, WHY TYING THE KNOT, WITH THE FELLOW YOU DON'T REALLY LOVE/WANT?
Because they are desperate at this point and they are willing to settle down with whatever they can find. Even if they have a list of requirements about what they want in a woman, they still say Oh, its 4 out of 7..I guess she is manageable. But what people don't know is that, its not manageable if that is not what you have in mind. if that is not what your requirement entails then you shouldn't sell yourself short. Be patient and wait for your 7/7 because there is definitely someone out there who has all your requirements. In tends of the man and his wife, He has to somehow confront his wife at some point. If he love and respect his wife then he needs to come clean with her, 99 days for the thief but 1 day for the owner, she will definitely find out even if its not from you poster. that is if she haven't find out by now and she is pretending. He might never know, maybe she wants him to say something. maybe she too is not enjoying the sex. | Posted: at 19-12-2010 03:50 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Jules, dat is som correct talk! | Posted: at 19-12-2010 07:36 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "nellygold") nellygold at 19-12-2010 09:59 AM (14 years ago) (f) There's this friend of my, who got married 5years ago; during our chat, he told me, that he's still seeing the lady (Lady A) he went out with before getting married; I was astonish hearing that!, 'cos i know the wife, from my own perspective she (the wife/Lady B) got all it takes, both in terms of beauty and wife material stuffs:
I told him if you so love this other lady, you she have got married to her, instead of your present wife..., you courted both of them and decide to settle for Lady B (the wife); He responds was, over my dead body will i settle for Lady A, but at the same time, i find it difficult letting her go, 'cos i have tried severally to stop seeing her, at the end of the day, i still find myself in her arms; I quit agreed with you that my wife got all it takes, but all the same something is missing somewhere....., you wouldn't get it, he added:
The essence of courtship is to figure out things... before tying knot..., we all know that no one is perfect (i:e no ideal woman/man); but at the same time, i think, E:g if out of 10 characteristic we need..., we find say 7 in one particular person; why will one get stuck with a fellow that has 4, when he already tie the knot, with the one that has 7?. It suck!; Moreover, i found out, that he's not ready to quit Lady A, 'Cos when i asked him, how will you handle things, if your wife finds out? he said, how will she..? you are not gonna tell her, will you?
So my question is, WHY TYING THE KNOT, WITH THE FELLOW YOU DON'T REALLY LOVE/WANT?
Because they are desperate at this point and they are willing to settle down with whatever they can find. Even if they have a list of requirements about what they want in a woman, they still say Oh, its 4 out of 7..I guess she is manageable. But what people don't know is that, its not manageable if that is not what you have in mind. if that is not what your requirement entails then you shouldn't sell yourself short. Be patient and wait for your 7/7 because there is definitely someone out there who has all your requirements. In tends of the man and his wife, He has to somehow confront his wife at some point. If he love and respect his wife then he needs to come clean with her, 99 days for the thief but 1 day for the owner, she will definitely find out even if its not from you poster. that is if she haven't find out by now and she is pretending. He might never know, maybe she wants him to say something. maybe she too is not enjoying the sex. Sure! someday she might find out, 'cos she somehow suspest him already: Regarding the characteristics, what he got is a better option, she got 7/10 while the other got 4/10, from my perspective 10/10 doesn't exist, ideal partner is just a fantacy, cos nobody is perfect, in-other-words he should count himself lucky 4 having 7/10 | Posted: at 19-12-2010 09:59 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "Michro") Michro at 19-12-2010 02:08 PM (14 years ago) (m) Chooooooooooooooooooooooooooooice
I am as gentle as a dove and as wise as a serpent | Posted: at 19-12-2010 02:08 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "nellygold") nellygold at 19-12-2010 02:20 PM (14 years ago) (f) Okay | Posted: at 19-12-2010 02:20 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "samboko") samboko at 19-12-2010 02:35 PM (14 years ago) (m) Poster, i like your responses so far....there is no 10/10 in any relationship, be it just casual friend or marrying partner....for those who read bible, it is not written there that a man will marry a 10/10 wife...but says, any man who marries a woman has found a good thing from the Lord.... To the topic, that your friend needs help! Because, he already signifies that he has tried to let go several times only to find himself back in the lady A's arm....yet he can never marry lady A! It doesnt sound right to me....he even agrees that his wife, lady B has all he wants in a woman....this guy, to me, is not a cheater because he is not messing with other ladies but one particular one he cant marry....he is carrying a heavy load of problem....the easiest way to get out of his problem is to speak out to his wife! Im not expecting the wife to start quarreling or go beat lady A up....both of them need heart-to-heart talk and prayers....whenever the urge comes to him to go see the other woman, he must tell his wife, so the wife can do something.....to me the guy dont have good friends....they should have tried to stop him or help him out from seeing the other lady...now is your turn to help him, poster.... | Posted: at 19-12-2010 02:35 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "samboko") samboko at 19-12-2010 02:38 PM (14 years ago) (m) @ Poster again, the topic is quite confusing....it doesnt go along with the story at all....based on the story, the man loves his wife and marries him but cant stop cheating with a particular old gal friend who he can never marry..... | Posted: at 19-12-2010 02:38 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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