A friend of mine is in agony. He needs your advise on what he should do.
His wife has just made a confession, a blood-chilling confession - She cheated on him. He has been away from home on an assignment. He has been a good father and husband. He has been faced with temptation from women but has never cheated on his wife. He has trusted her, now that trust has been dealt a shattering blow. This has just happened - only yesterday. He is devastated. He needs advice as to how to get over this trying moment. He still loves his wife but how can he trust her again? He is not considering divorce but He wants to know how to get over this.
Please your kind advice would help. Please this is a true life story and you could be touching a life with your response(s). Thanks a zillion!
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Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:27 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Treasure2 at 7-02-2011 05:31 PM (14 years ago) (f)
DP, KIND OF COMPLICATED. HE SHOULD FIRST PUT HIMSELF IN HIS WIFE SHOE AND ASK HIMSELF IF HE IS THE ONE, WHAT WILL HE DO?
Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:31 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
Treasure2 at 7-02-2011 05:40 PM (14 years ago) (f)
If you can't forgive, let go. When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. If you continue to throw this in your partner's face, you will eventually run him/her off. Ask yourself if this is going to be a life sentence for your partner. Can you heal from this and forgive? If not, don't continue to live in anger and/or be with someone who causes you pain.
Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:40 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
chiglamour4u at 7-02-2011 05:41 PM (14 years ago) (f)
its very difficult and to forgive is easy but i dnt think it will be easy for him to forget. he just need to seek the face of God to help him forgive and forget
Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:41 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
truenaija2 at 7-02-2011 05:44 PM (14 years ago) (f)
let him stop crying joo his own is not the worst some women cheat on thier husband severally without even telling him some even get pregnant for another man in thier husbands house some sleep with small boys at the expense of thier husbands hard earned money she didnt do anything hilarous anything that has not been done she is a very good woman thats why she opened up cos she regrets her action adultery is aspirit tellher to pray and ffast to GOD for him to deliver her of that spirit
Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:44 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
According to the reformation of the law he cant divorce her except he caught her in the act,but hypothetically speaking,I would punish her emotionally then when my mind goes down then I might perform my husbandly duties to her and when I say punish her emotionally,I mean punish her emotionally.
Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:46 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
divineproject at 7-02-2011 05:50 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Treasure2 on 7-02-2011 05:40 PM
If you can't forgive, let go. When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. If you continue to throw this in your partner's face, you will eventually run him/her off. Ask yourself if this is going to be a life sentence for your partner. Can you heal from this and forgive? If not, don't continue to live in anger and/or be with someone who causes you pain.
He would require a lot of God's grace to heal......I guess time could help him heal
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Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:50 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
l knw its nt gonna b easy 4 him buh, le him find a place in his heart 2 4giv her nd put dat behind since she made d confession by herself. Am sure she felt guilty nd deeply sorry 4 her 2 hv confesed
Posted: at 7-02-2011 06:00 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Savelife4real at 7-02-2011 06:05 PM (14 years ago) (m)
Quote from: trolling on 7-02-2011 05:46 PM
According to the reformation of the law he cant divorce her except he caught her in the act,but hypothetically speaking,I would punish her emotionally then when my mind goes down then I might perform my husbandly duties to her and when I say punish her emotionally,I mean punish her emotionally.
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Posted: at 7-02-2011 06:05 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
First, He should thank God that his wife confesses her sin. He should also know that, with this confession, it is not the intention of the wife to do it. though it is very hard for him to forget, But he should forgive the wife and ask God to give him the grace to forget it. and he should also not have the mind of not trusting his wife. because if she not the trusted type, he would not have known what happen. He should allow life to move on between them and let him also learn how to aviod such temptation in the future.
Posted: at 7-02-2011 06:32 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
My dear, to forgive is a bit easier but its not easy to forget cos every morning you wake up and look at her, you start imagining what transpired when you were away :'( The man would need space to breathe and think before he makes his decision, hoping he would tamper justice with mercy cos its not easy at all....I admire his wife who confessed......what she did was bad, maybe the temptation was too much or maybe the were reasons that motivated her to do this but that doesn't give her the right to play "the cat is away and the mouse will play" Because of this, he is hurting...I pray the good Lord will give him the heart to heal and resolve the situation.
Posted: at 7-02-2011 06:56 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
FlyMamacita at 7-02-2011 09:53 PM (14 years ago) (f)
If he tink he can forgiv her, it can help to get an answer to all ur questions, like dat u can let it go more easily.... But if he already knw he cant forgive, let it go bcos u will hurt ursef more. Make he follow God words
Posted: at 7-02-2011 09:53 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
diplomatik at 7-02-2011 09:57 PM (14 years ago) (f)
they just have to start all over rebuilding the trust
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Posted: at 7-02-2011 09:57 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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