Trust: A Double-edged Sword?............... (Page 4)

Date: 01-03-2011 1:11 pm (13 years ago) | Author: Obiajunwa
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- kebella at 1-03-2011 04:35 PM (13 years ago)
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how can i trust someone wen i don even trust myself  Undecided Undecided Undecided

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- bittersweet at 1-03-2011 04:38 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  1-03-2011 04:28 PM
Angry i didn get kiss  Angry Angry


    


Posted: at 1-03-2011 04:38 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- divineproject at 1-03-2011 04:40 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: kebella on  1-03-2011 04:35 PM
how can i trust someone wen i don even trust myself  Undecided Undecided Undecided

hehehe....... Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 1-03-2011 04:40 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- yukicares4u at 1-03-2011 04:53 PM (13 years ago)
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Trust is a very high n essential ingredient dat is needed to make a sweet n nice soup called RSHIP...but if u ve been betrayed b4...all u need do is try and trust again no matter how hard its gonna be...u ve got to TRUST sm1 anywayz Smiley Smiley Smiley
Posted: at 1-03-2011 04:53 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- adams933 at 1-03-2011 05:00 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  1-03-2011 01:32 PM
I cant do dat  Undecided

Can't do what?
Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:00 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- divineproject at 1-03-2011 05:04 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: yukicares4u on  1-03-2011 04:53 PM
Trust is a very high n essential ingredient dat is needed to make a sweet n nice soup called RSHIP...but if u ve been betrayed b4...all u need do is try and trust again no matter how hard its gonna be...u ve got to TRUST sm1 anywayz Smiley Smiley Smiley

am loving this ur pix ooo

Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:04 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- yukicares4u at 1-03-2011 05:09 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on  1-03-2011 05:04 PM
Quote from: yukicares4u on  1-03-2011 04:53 PM
Trust is a very high n essential ingredient dat is needed to make a sweet n nice soup called RSHIP...but if u ve been betrayed b4...all u need do is try and trust again no matter how hard its gonna be...u ve got to TRUST sm1 anywayz Smiley Smiley Smiley

am loving this ur pix ooo
awww @DP..thx sist!
Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:09 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- FlyMamacita at 1-03-2011 05:10 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on  1-03-2011 04:38 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  1-03-2011 04:28 PM
Angry i didn get kiss  Angry Angry


    




 Grin Grin
Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:10 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 1-03-2011 05:11 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: adams933 on  1-03-2011 05:00 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  1-03-2011 01:32 PM
I cant do dat  Undecided

Can't do what?
luv witout trust
Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:11 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- MissyBarbie at 1-03-2011 05:12 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: kebella on  1-03-2011 04:35 PM
how can i trust someone wen i don even trust myself  Undecided Undecided Undecided

Gbam!.
Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- kebella at 1-03-2011 05:15 PM (13 years ago)
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 Grin Grin Tongue Tongue

Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:15 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- kebella at 1-03-2011 05:15 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on  1-03-2011 04:40 PM
Quote from: kebella on  1-03-2011 04:35 PM
how can i trust someone wen i don even trust myself  Undecided Undecided Undecided

hehehe....... Grin Grin Grin
Cheesy Cheesy

Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:15 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- divineproject at 1-03-2011 05:16 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: yukicares4u on  1-03-2011 05:09 PM
Quote from: divineproject on  1-03-2011 05:04 PM
Quote from: yukicares4u on  1-03-2011 04:53 PM
Trust is a very high n essential ingredient dat is needed to make a sweet n nice soup called RSHIP...but if u ve been betrayed b4...all u need do is try and trust again no matter how hard its gonna be...u ve got to TRUST sm1 anywayz Smiley Smiley Smiley

am loving this ur pix ooo
awww @DP..thx sist!

Nothing do u sweetie

Posted: at 1-03-2011 05:16 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- ILOVEIT at 1-03-2011 09:34 PM (13 years ago)
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hmm interesting,reading

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- ILOVEIT at 1-03-2011 09:37 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: laydeelaracraft on  1-03-2011 01:50 PM
Quote from: divineproject on  1-03-2011 01:11 PM
A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust.  A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God.  But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust?  And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed.  So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?

I learnt a long time ago to classify betrayal under three categories
a) betraying trust w/o intent
b) betraying trust (intentionally) knowingly with remorse and working hard to right the wrong done
c) betraying trust without remorse, full of excuses n not accepting full responsibility. This include those that appear to do so but in their action yu will notice that they r going back to b4

for a and b- that relationship is still worth mending n fighting for. yu can grow from it n learn from it. However, yu gotta b firm enuf to say that this must neva happen again. With b, yu probably need to b a bit more tougher when handling it n more watchful as sumtimes, it is hard to differentiate btw b and c
now for number c- I will say good bye n good riddance. fine forgive to free yur soul but I wont recommend giving back yur trust unless c moves into b phase.
Having sed that watch out for people that appear to b serial b offenders are they r probably c offender who r very good at disguising it
my bodam bam is talking

Posted: at 1-03-2011 09:37 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- kebella at 1-03-2011 09:47 PM (13 years ago)
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0k

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- laydeelaracraft at 1-03-2011 11:52 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sobeit on  1-03-2011 02:31 PM
Quote from: laydeelaracraft on  1-03-2011 02:18 PM
Quote from: sobeit on  1-03-2011 02:15 PM
T = TALK...to communicate is vital..

 R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.

 U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)

 S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.

 T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..

with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....


i likey! but b4 i get to excited submitting is for men and women rite?
hmm what you expect me to say?  Cheesy Cheesy of course from both party naah! cuz respect is reciprocal  Wink

@DP..above is your answer...though get this,man must always be the head. Wink  Kiss

i wont have it anyother way but he must stand correct
Posted: at 1-03-2011 11:52 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- laydeelaracraft at 1-03-2011 11:57 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on  1-03-2011 03:20 PM
Quote from: sobeit on  1-03-2011 03:08 PM
Quote from: laydeelaracraft on  1-03-2011 01:50 PM
Quote from: divineproject on  1-03-2011 01:11 PM
A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust.  A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God.  But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust?  And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed.  So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?

I learnt a long time ago to classify betrayal under three categories
a) betraying trust w/o intent
b) betraying trust (intentionally) knowingly with remorse and working hard to right the wrong done
c) betraying trust without remorse, full of excuses n not accepting full responsibility. This include those that appear to do so but in their action yu will notice that they r going back to b4

for a and b- that relationship is still worth mending n fighting for. yu can grow from it n learn from it. However, yu gotta b firm enuf to say that this must neva happen again. With b, yu probably need to b a bit more tougher when handling it n more watchful as sumtimes, it is hard to differentiate btw b and c
now for number c- I will say good bye n good riddance. fine forgive to free yur soul but I wont recommend giving back yur trust unless c moves into b phase.
Having sed that watch out for people that appear to b serial b offenders are they r probably c offender who r very good at disguising it
hmm interesting stuff Wink

really interesting...........

awww thx guyz  Kiss Kiss Kiss
Posted: at 1-03-2011 11:57 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- laydeelaracraft at 2-03-2011 12:00 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on  1-03-2011 03:48 PM
-You have to know if it is worth ur time,to try and regain d trust for someone who betrayed u.Everytime u see that person,u r going to remember d pain that u suffered through.First,look for signs from d betrayer that indicates sincerity.Some of d signs r: -Being honest,apologetic,sincere in his promises & other signs that he/she is trying really hard to get ur trust back.
Although it's hard to get over d betrayal,try not to keep reminding d person about it.It will take time to reach d point,in d relationship,where u'll start to trust again.For now just try to give d betrayer d time to prove him/herself.
-Communication is an essential key component to regaining trust.Take d time to see if communication is lacking in d relationship. keep d lines of communication open.Don't assume that someone know how u're feeling!
-Don't get frustrated if d trust is slow to come.It is going to take time,remember that it took u a while to build d trust,so it's going to take even more time to rebuild it.
-Some ppl will shower u with attention after betraying u.Don't resist it.Revel in d attention,bcz u deserve it.That doesn't mean that u're going let ur guard down. Make sure that u're being cautious.
-Be certain that d other person wants to remain in d relationship.Sometimes there r ppl who just can't live with d guilt or they may start feeling that u're going to betray them also.If d relationship looks like it is going to go somewhere u can then start d long slow process of regaining that trust.


me likey! true talk n very insightful, am gonna use sum of them
Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:00 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- laydeelaracraft at 2-03-2011 12:01 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: yukicares4u on  1-03-2011 04:53 PM
Trust is a very high n essential ingredient dat is needed to make a sweet n nice soup n sumtimes sour called RSHIP...but if u ve been betrayed b4...all u need do is try and trust again no matter how hard its gonna be...u ve got to TRUST sm1 anywayz Smiley Smiley Smiley

yu must add the gud n bad
Posted: at 2-03-2011 12:01 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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