A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:11 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
FlyMamacita at 1-03-2011 01:22 PM (13 years ago) (f)
It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:22 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
blessedme at 1-03-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 1-03-2011 01:22 PM
It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
DP this wat u need
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
divineproject at 1-03-2011 01:39 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 1-03-2011 01:22 PM
It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
Thanks sweetie............and before I forget, happy birthday to Amos, till him to keep my cake oo
@ble, its not about me.....just asking a general question which I think some people might need answers to........
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:39 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
FlyMamacita at 1-03-2011 01:45 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: divineproject on 1-03-2011 01:39 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 1-03-2011 01:22 PM
It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
Thanks sweetie............and before I forget, happy birthday to Amos, till him to keep my cake oo
@ble, its not about me.....just asking a general question which I think some people might need answers to........
awww no problem dear, ur cake is safe
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:45 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
I learnt a long time ago to classify betrayal under three categories a) betraying trust w/o intent b) betraying trust (intentionally) knowingly with remorse and working hard to right the wrong done c) betraying trust without remorse, full of excuses n not accepting full responsibility. This include those that appear to do so but in their action yu will notice that they r going back to b4
for a and b- that relationship is still worth mending n fighting for. yu can grow from it n learn from it. However, yu gotta b firm enuf to say that this must neva happen again. With b, yu probably need to b a bit more tougher when handling it n more watchful as sumtimes, it is hard to differentiate btw b and c now for number c- I will say good bye n good riddance. fine forgive to free yur soul but I wont recommend giving back yur trust unless c moves into b phase. Having sed that watch out for people that appear to b serial b offenders are they r probably c offender who r very good at disguising it
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:50 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
truenaija2 at 1-03-2011 01:55 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 1-03-2011 01:22 PM
It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
hmmmm flymama wht if d person cheats on u consistently
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:55 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
divineproject at 1-03-2011 01:56 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: laydeelaracraft on 1-03-2011 01:50 PM
Quote from: divineproject on 1-03-2011 01:11 PM
A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
I learnt a long time ago to classify betrayal under three categories a) betraying trust w/o intent b) betraying trust (intentionally) knowingly with remorse and working hard to right the wrong done c) betraying trust without remorse, full of excuses n not accepting full responsibility. This include those that appear to do so but in their action yu will notice that they r going back to b4
for a and b- that relationship is still worth mending n fighting for. yu can grow from it n learn from it. However, yu gotta b firm enuf to say that this must neva happen again. With b, yu probably need to b a bit more tougher when handling it n more watchful as sumtimes, it is hard to differentiate btw b and c now for number c- I will say good bye n good riddance. fine forgive to free yur soul but I wont recommend giving back yur trust unless c moves into b phase. Having sed that watch out for people that appear to b serial b offenders are they r probably c offender who r very good at disguising it
wow..........this is fabulous.........thanks a bunch my Lady.......I have learnt something new and wonderful today.........
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:56 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
FlyMamacita at 1-03-2011 01:58 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: truenaija2 on 1-03-2011 01:55 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 1-03-2011 01:22 PM
It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
hmmmm flymama wht if d person cheats on u consistently
means he no realise d harm he is doin or he simply no care abt it! Possible dat it is ur fault by not handling him rite d first time he cheated, if u teach him lesson he will learn....
But som men u can not change and they will kip doin dia tin, up to u to decide if u can deal wit it or not.
Posted: at 1-03-2011 01:58 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
No matter how much the trust is betrayed, You still have to trust again and again and again !! But with caution always, it takes a smart mind to do that, often to get a better result. by applying a method of not allowing your yesteryears failure to affect your present and future. You just have to ignore the past by switching on the ignore button because this past experience will always occur in your mind, if you will front it always in your present, You might ruin the good things coming up at that present time and the future.
is just like when you're climbing up and fall, You just have to stand up and try again and again, with skills and different ideas from your past failing. Trust is essential in all we do. just like salt is to soup
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !!
Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:09 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:15 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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