It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl
it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for
ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for
ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
hmmmm flymama wht if d person cheats on u consistently
free am! no b by force....b prepared to let go completely. There is a chance that he will come back once yu have cooled down but try to make sure yu obtain a firm agreement that he neva does that again n that there will b repercussions if he does | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:15 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 1-03-2011 02:16 PM (14 years ago)  (f) am loving this sobeit  | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:16 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
No matter how much the trust is betrayed, You still have to trust again and again and again !! But with caution always, it takes a smart brave mind to do that, often to get a better result. by applying a method of not allowing your yesteryears failure to affect your present and future. You just have to ignore the past by switching on the ignore button because this past experience will always occur in your mind, if you will front it always in your present, You might ruin the good things coming up at that present time and the future. is just like when you're climbing up and fall, You just have to stand up and try again and again, with skills and different ideas from your past failing. Trust is essential in all we do. just like salt is to soup | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:17 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
i likey! but b4 i get to excited submitting is for men and women rite? | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:18 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
make i clap for u, nice one | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:18 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
Hmmm, TRUST has been spelt..........but SBI, the submit aspect na one way traffic?......  ..meanwhile collect this one......... 
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:20 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "qunodinga") qunodinga at 1-03-2011 02:23 PM (14 years ago) (f) I believe in trust and i can't see myself loving without trusting the person involved. No, i cant just do that...what will be the meaning of love then..that's boring. gosh! | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:23 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
I learnt a long time ago to classify betrayal under three categories a) betraying trust w/o intent b) betraying trust (intentionally) knowingly with remorse and working hard to right the wrong done c) betraying trust without remorse, full of excuses n not accepting full responsibility. This include those that appear to do so but in their action yu will notice that they r going back to b4 for a and b- that relationship is still worth mending n fighting for. yu can grow from it n learn from it. However, yu gotta b firm enuf to say that this must neva happen again. With b, yu probably need to b a bit more tougher when handling it n more watchful as sumtimes, it is hard to differentiate btw b and c now for number c- I will say good bye n good riddance. fine forgive to free yur soul but I wont recommend giving back yur trust unless c moves into b phase. Having sed that watch out for people that appear to b serial b offenders are they r probably c offender who r very good at disguising it mmmmmmm learning | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:24 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "blessedme") blessedme at 1-03-2011 02:25 PM (14 years ago) (f) also learning | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:25 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 1-03-2011 02:26 PM (14 years ago) (m) am loving this sobeit hmm you got me blushing | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:26 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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A lot of us agree that there is no true love without some form of trust. A lot of us might have at one time or the other had our trust in someone betrayed........Oh yea, the holy Bible said to trust only God. But really, how can you love someone without a little bit of trust? And if you must trust, how do you cushion the effect of a betrayed trust? To me, I see a little trust as necessary for a relationship to thrive but am also worried about trust being betrayed. So how does one start all over again to build a betrayed TRUST?.........Any idea?
No matter how much the trust is betrayed, You still have to trust again and again and again !! But with caution always, it takes a smart mind to do that, often to get a better result. by applying a method of not allowing your yesteryears failure to affect your present and future. You just have to ignore the past by switching on the ignore button because this past experience will always occur in your mind, if you will front it always in your present, You might ruin the good things coming up at that present time and the future. is just like when you're climbing up and fall, You just have to stand up and try again and again, with skills and different ideas from your past failing. Trust is essential in all we do. just like salt is to soup Dorti Pikin, weldone.......and as Diplo has given me express permission, so I go just........
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:27 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
Hmmm, TRUST has been spelt..........but SBI, the submit aspect na one way traffic?...... ..meanwhile collect this one......... wondering the same too! SBI come ansa yur query | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:27 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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also learning
this place look like ur class? | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:30 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 1-03-2011 02:31 PM (14 years ago) (m) T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
i likey! but b4 i get to excited submitting is for men and women rite? hmm what you expect me to say?  of course from both party naah! cuz respect is reciprocal @DP..above is your answer...though get this,man must always be the head. | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:31 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 1-03-2011 02:32 PM (14 years ago) (f) It is very difficult to trust again, u will defend ursef to everybody and for som ppl
it can neva heal again....
I tink it is important to let go of d past, make d decision to forgive, be honnest urself, be responsible for
ur own actions, ur spouse must also b open and share his pain or thinkin, u can set specific goals for
ur relationship,........ u can even renew ur commitment to ur marriage if dat is wht it takes....
Time, patience, honesty, commitment, love and forgivness!
hmmmm flymama wht if d person cheats on u consistently
Possible dat it is ur fault by not handling him rite d first time he cheated, if u teach him lesson he will learn....
But som men u can not change and they will kip doin dia tin, up to u to decide if u can deal wit it or not.
[/b] exactly | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:32 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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also learning
this place look like ur class? Yes, get your notebook
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:33 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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also learning
this place look like ur class? Yes, get your notebook am with 80 leaves | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:35 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
i likey! but b4 i get to excited submitting is for men and women rite? hmm what you expect me to say? of course from both party naah! cuz respect is reciprocal @DP..above is your answer...though get this,man must always be the head. hehehehehe, I know, not just any man..............my husband will always be the head and I will be the NECK........... 
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:36 PM (14 years ago) | Hero | |
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hmmm TRUST...i'll be back...lemme think...  | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:41 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 1-03-2011 02:43 PM (14 years ago) (m) T = TALK...to communicate is vital..
R = RELEASE....releasing your grievances in oder to resolve issues.
U =UNDERSTANDING..... understanding,accepting and respecting each other view when needed (compromising)
S = SUBMITTING...y'll know this one naah!,it help to gain an automatic trust.
T= TREATMENT...you treat him/her the way you want him/her to treat you..
with these few points it could help gain some or more TRUST all over again...cuz where there's love there must be some kind of trust, though it should be mutual.....
i likey! but b4 i get to excited submitting is for men and women rite? hmm what you expect me to say? of course from both party naah! cuz respect is reciprocal @DP..above is your answer...though get this,man must always be the head. hehehehehe, I know, not just any man..............my husbandwill always be the head and I will be the NECK........... hmmmm , no bey only neck what of tail? | Posted: at 1-03-2011 02:43 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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