Igbo Parents And Traditional Rites Of Their First Daughter? (Page 5)

if you love the girl, carry de go, no shaking.....

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Posted: at 25-04-2011 02:43 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

Listen writer, reading your post on here, It somehow suggests to me that you are looking for excuses not to settle down with this your so called 'Igbo first Daughter', without the intention of sounding rude and with all due regards, I can say that you really did not need to ask for our opinions on this forum, first thing should have been if you are really serious about settling down with this girl, to first approach these her "faceless" parents and get a first hand information as to wether they accept you as inlaw or simply reject you only for reasons of their daughter being the first in the family .       .       .   WHAT A JOKE! .     .     . except you had brought up this topic simply to uncover some of the myths that some uninformed persons hold about the Igbo man and his rich ancesteral cultural cultural heritage, well then I can be interested to joing the dicussions. I can say that this is just one of such myths I have heard about the Igbo man, most of which sound rediculous and and weired. Infact, some, I have never heard even in Igbo folk tales.

I have heard some ladies say that the Igbo males rely on their parents/family for the choice of a wife, hence, they wouldn't want to have relationships with an Igbo man coz he is only gonna end up marrying the 'Girl ALREADY' kept waiting for him by his family(Another big joke). I had also heard some ladies saying: "No, I wouldn't have a relationship with an Igbo man, coz he would never want to settle down with me in good time, that the Igbos never get married until they are in their forties. (That assumption again is wrong, because in as much as I know that the Igbo man might want to be confortable before marriage(which is a sign of responsibility and enterprise), but just like in any other cultures across the whole wide world, there are people who for some reasons get married late and there are others who settle down even too  early, and my Ndi Igbo of south Eastern Nigeria, are not an exception. I can go on and on about the Igbo man and the unfounded mythology sorrounding him, but all I have to tell you writer, is to take the first step of asking for your girlfriend's hand in marriage, if she says yes, then proceed to her parents, then,  get back to us on this forum with their response, which I most certainly believe would be .    .    .  Nno'oooooooo!!!!!!!!

Posted: at 25-04-2011 03:47 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

na u sabi

Posted: at 25-04-2011 04:10 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

thanx 4 telling us your story, you persoalised it and its more meaningful to me since am not from your side.

Posted: at 25-04-2011 04:47 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

That story is not true bro. am an igbo and the first daughter of my family,but am Married to a german guy.

Posted: at 25-04-2011 05:47 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

look for sumtin else to say and stop making an unnessary excusis lair

Posted: at 25-04-2011 06:23 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

"please & please pals i need help bcos dis is eating me up & am tempted to double date in d event where d worse happen (my girl parent opposing me), at dsame time am afraid my girl will be highly disappointed in me if i cheat on her & even if she didn't know, i can't stand the guilt."

The fact that it entered your mind to double date as you are with her--even though in your defense/excuse, it will be to console yourself in the event where the worse may happen--tells me you probably do not love her as much as you think you do! If you care for her, fight for her, instead of giving thoughts and time to the possibility of disappointments. Most importantly, be utterly convinced and sure that this thought of a covenantal unity/relationship is from above[God]. From the view point of the Almighty God, it cannot be separated!

Posted: at 25-04-2011 07:28 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

rite aku..

Posted: at 25-04-2011 08:30 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Its a big lie.

Posted: at 25-04-2011 08:48 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

white lies...u fit marry anybody

Posted: at 26-04-2011 01:01 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac