He lost interest in me or may be in sex (Page 6)

"SEX IN MARRIAGE: THERE ARE NO LIMITS

One area suffering in Christians homes is sex. This is often unnecessary and brought about by wrong teachings and beliefs. Let’s quickly run through the truth.

1. Sex is God’s creation. Therefore, it is a good thing.
2. Sex is permitted for married people only.
3. What makes sex immoral is not what you do, but who you do it with.
4. Sex between two married people is holy, clean, and can never be defiled.
5. No human being has the authorization to regulate sex between a man and his wife.
6. The Bible is silent on different sex acts like oral sex, as such there is no Biblical reference for saying oral sex is immoral.

But there is often this nagging question of how much sex is enough. How much is too much? Can too much sex be gluttony?

The devil has deceived many Christians into believing that sex is not a big deal and as such many Christian homes are suffering. It’s common to hear people playing down the importance of sex. Some even say things like “a few minutes pleasure”. That’s not right and untrue.

Sex is a big deal and the scriptures says: 1 Corinthian 7 v 5 “Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

This is a direct instruction to married people not to deny themselves sex unless THEY BOTH AGREE. Which means if one partner is not in agreement, too bad, the other partner must comply. The Bible even calls it a fraud to deny sex to a spouse. Nobody is permitted to refuse his or her spouse sex. That’s scripture.

Even the exemption period should be a short period of time after which the couple should come together so that the devil doesn't take advantage of them because of lack of self control. Another implication of this scripture is that God does not expect married people to have self-control on sex between them. The final and most obvious conclusion is that sex is very important in marriage.

How frequently should married people have sex? Can there be too much sex in marriage?

The answers are in the Bible.

Proverbs 5 v 18 – 19 “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her Bosom s satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.”

This scripture is clear. A man and his wife are to ravish themselves always, all the time. Some translations, say never quit. It describes sex as rejoicing. And that a man should enjoy his wife’s Bosom  at all times. The Bible even says she should be like a wild deer. A wild deer is an animal that can have sex for two days without stopping. That is how God wants Christian married couples to behave. This scripture does not put a lid or restriction on the number of times married people can have sex or say that there is a time sex becomes too much.

Can too much sex be equated with gluttony?
We have just established from the scriptures that sex between married people cannot be too much. Gluttony is the indulgence in over eating. Eating is eating and sex is sex. The two activities are not the same thing and don’t have the same role in human life nor do they serve the same purpose. Everybody eats. But only married people should have sex.

I know it is a popular teaching in some churches that people should restrict sex in their life suggesting that too much sex is gluttony or that sex deprives one of anointing. These are false teachings base on the personal prejudices of the preacher. There is no scriptural backup for such teachings.

Sex between married people does not in any way affect anointing. God anoints His people. He never said He takes it away when they indulge in sex. If there is anything as too much sex between married people and such was harmful or to be equated with gluttony, God would have said so. But He did not rather He instructed that His people should have sex always.

Many homes are in crisis today because of the neglect of sex. Sex serves many purposes in a marriage. It gives the couple a sense of belonging and makes them close. It makes them overlook faults and settle their differences easily. It increases emotional love which is very important for a successful marriage.

Sex is very important. God has said as much. It can unite a separated couple and heal a broken home.

Married people – enjoy! Single people, get married and start enjoying too!"
Aziza Uko (http://www.facebook.com/groups/covenantsandm/)

that is sad,he is not impotent i think the lady sud ask or find out very wellif he belong to any group
you know nowadays some men belong to one group or the other and they will confused them dont
sleep with your wife.
but during your courtship he make love to you????you have to be prayerful he will and have to change
Is not easy for a married woman.