IAM CONFUSED!!! NOT SURE IF SHE SINCRELY LOVE ME

Date: 18-08-2011 5:43 am (9 years ago) | Author: Olayemi
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- at 18-08-2011 05:43 AM (9 years ago)
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Iam 39yrs old, reside in Toronto,Canada. I traveled to Naija in July came back 2wks ago, during my visit to naija, i met a lady that we had been talking on FB , along the line we were both in love, she introduced me to her parents and i did samething too. Throughout my stay we were always together everywhere even in her office.
One thing i discovered was that, she had more male friends than female friends whom they were always chatting on FB,she gave her phone nos out easily thereby giving room for lots of text messages coming in almost every 5mins from diffrent admirer. i dont feel comfortable with that because im a private person, easygoing,gentle and down to earth, i told her but she gave excused that there is no any string attached ,eventhough most of them are her toasters.
I tried my best for her finacially, i shower her with gift,as she is now been envyed by her friends and collegue.
My concerns are:
1.she enjoyed chatting with toasters
2. she calls me sweetheart,darling,sweety,etc,only when we re together but not in public,
3,we both agreed to get married by xmas dis year, but of recent i dont see any exitment from her as she was now suggesting that we should postpone the wedding plan,as she is not fully ready.
My confusions are:
1.Both parents had started discussions and planing for the wedding,
2.some of my family members and some of my friends has some reservation about her non-chalant and lukeworm attitude towards the marriage issue.they dont trust her fully, maybe she had a hiding agenda (boyfriend)
3.she always complained about the distance,the age diffrent (she is 25) at the same time she doesnt want to see me wt any other lady.
PLS, people i need your opinion.
Did she actually love me? did she really wants to marry me?? will she be able to be a faithful wife (considering the nos of toaster)Huh?



Posted: at 18-08-2011 05:43 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie
- Bantino at 18-08-2011 12:14 PM (9 years ago)
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She is not ready for marriage, she enjoys chatting with guys, and does not call you those pet names in public, those are simply signs that its not gonna work. If you truly love her, give her some time, cos she is yet to understand what marriage is all about. Or better still she needs to go to marriage counsels for further understanding of what marriage is all about.
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:14 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- chicanorose at 18-08-2011 12:23 PM (9 years ago)
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Dont think she really loves u, maybe she is just out to enjoy ur money and leave u later. U also need to pray to GOD  if she is truelly urs.

Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:23 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- tundamartin at 18-08-2011 12:31 PM (9 years ago)
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She's no wife material. Drop her sorry ass and move on. You are only one of her many lovers. What the heck is the age difference when girls are after comfort and a guy who can take care of them? 25 and 39 is very okay for serious relationship leading to marriage. Yet she accepts your gifts without complaining of age. My guy, just take a walk from bad rubbish waiting to mess up your life.
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:31 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- kebella at 18-08-2011 12:32 PM (9 years ago)
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 Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked

Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:32 PM (9 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- kessybee at 18-08-2011 12:36 PM (9 years ago)
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Count ur teeth with ur tongue guy...
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:36 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- interpo77 at 18-08-2011 12:41 PM (9 years ago)
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hello ma young guy/pal, u need to thank ur God almighty that he opened the secrets behind her, ur two naked eyes and ears were ur witness,
, u need not to be watching a wrist watch with mirror, for me desert her , and look for another matured gul that is ready for ur demands
if only ur cared for ur heart or u regret it forever,,..i see no love in there
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:41 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- donspirado88 at 18-08-2011 12:47 PM (9 years ago)
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Nigerian girls are almost like that... Just too annoying to my liking! Angry Angry Angry. Guy, my advice is to give her some space. Inform your family members to slow down (Suspend) the marriage plan & give them your reasons. Note: Do not inform or tell any members of her family about moves! Do not inform her about your plans either!!! Just give her some space a while; focus on your job or whatever you're doing. Marriage is not by force or desperation all in the name of love. In a situation like this, put LOVE aside and face the reality. Such a girl doesn't worth your stress! Good-luck Dude
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:47 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ebinyi at 18-08-2011 12:50 PM (9 years ago)
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cant read this, too long
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:50 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- QUEST1 at 18-08-2011 12:51 PM (9 years ago)
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She is given u enough red sign already. I always say that marriage is far too important to be handled with the hrt alone, use your head. with what you ave said, do you still need a fortune teller to tell you that she is not ready for you? Whether your parent have gone along way with marriage plans,that does not matter. let her go.
Posted: at 18-08-2011 12:51 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- xena15 at 18-08-2011 01:01 PM (9 years ago)
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Dis one no go work,try mail bride.


Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:01 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- purityjustice at 18-08-2011 01:05 PM (9 years ago)
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from your observations you mentioned above, i will advise you to call it a quit cos she is a jiggerypokery human being.
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:05 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- quadribukk at 18-08-2011 01:07 PM (9 years ago)
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give her some time and if u still have questions to ask pls am beging come to me i will shower u with love
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:07 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie
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- chimeskan at 18-08-2011 01:10 PM (9 years ago)
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Children, I want 2 tell u a story...

Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:10 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Pepesy at 18-08-2011 01:15 PM (9 years ago)
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l suggest u give her a break and watch out what happens
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:15 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Simon-Zeletus at 18-08-2011 01:17 PM (9 years ago)
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First of all most change her number immediate you go back to Naija, give her instruction to follow, if she refuse to obey you then find another babes, their is a lot fishes in the ocean, you are a hot cake do know what it is from Canada your big guy look for some else if she reject you.
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:17 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- DHash at 18-08-2011 01:30 PM (9 years ago)
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She is a flirt let her goooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:30 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- HOPEA23 at 18-08-2011 01:32 PM (9 years ago)
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i think they all ave advice enough

Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:32 PM (9 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Bissyboy at 18-08-2011 01:36 PM (9 years ago)
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Hmmmmn!!! I'm not surprised at all. Guy make I yarn you, any babe wey fit dey chat men up either on FB or any other avenue when she get a serious relationship is unserious!!!! She get something up her sleeve. MY ADVICE: Dump her immediately before she go begin cook for her so called "toasters". That kind babe dey very rampant now for naija... I sabi a couple of dem...dumb ass chicks!
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:36 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- krimcake at 18-08-2011 01:36 PM (9 years ago)
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I tink U̶̲̥̅̊ did not meet ha xpectations one way or anoda. It happens wher U̶̲̥̅̊ hv been chattin n she has built dis image of U̶̲̥̅̊ which she dint si in reality. She aint rdy ro marry U̶̲̥̅̊ so I tink its best U̶̲̥̅̊ muv on. U̶̲̥̅̊ ll fynd anoda. Ciao
Posted: at 18-08-2011 01:36 PM (9 years ago) | Newbie
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