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Quote from: tellyy1122 on 29-08-2011 07:33 AM Quote from: tellyy1122 on 29-08-2011 07:25 AM ![]() Quote from: CONNIE-O on 29-08-2011 07:19 AM hmm, I`m surprise by most of the things that people are saying, especially the females. It makes perfect sense for the kids to belong to their mother: she was the one that gave birth to them and went through most of the pain in order to bring them to this world with help of God. Plus, most children around the world are being taking care of by women, so, I think the Ashanti tradition makes perfect sense. Children don`t belong to their father or mother, rather they belong to WHOMEVER THAT CAN TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM. Sorry but, if your brother is having problem with the case that the children might "belong" to their mother or her family in case of her death or anything like that, then he is not ready to get marry and his ego is too high. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Are you joking? Just in case you don`t know, when two people are married and they have kids, what is best for those kids is the most important thing. Is not about culture and tradition, but instead about what is/are best for the kids comes first. If he is serious about having a family or if he truly love his girlfriend, then her cultural rules are something that they can over come
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@ poster, the tradition is well known that children bear their mother's lineage, but it does not mean that the father is just a surrogate. He retains rights over the children but just that the children answer their maternal father's name. Reply
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they don't exist Reply
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who read this make e tell me wetin them talk,cos i no read am Reply
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my brother 7 yrs relationship is not the issue, the issue is that how far are u going to end ur remaining life time under confusion. U guys stil have much time to decide, either she denouce her tradition or forget about u, bc to me marriing a girl bc of love and ending the love with regreat is something many guys always try to run away from. ReplyCall her attension, explain to her, make her understand y d relationship should be cut off, i believ she will not blame u for dat. Morover go on ur kneels and pray to God. Goodluck
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we can not evict the existence of cultures in nigeria but one thing is clear, Replyas an Igbo son, the men automatically has rightover the children ,. even if they grow with their mother, defenetly, they must return to their father land for their due rights and inheritance but this case here is trash, i can not waist 7 yrs on gul training her and lather this rubish
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I nor dey for TRIBALISM Reply
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well seven yr7 in relationship is not 7day or 7 months, but wat is there now is that two people cannot go together unless they agreed. tradition or no tradition whatever that must be must be. telling the guy to leave the girl is not the best solution, because love is something that is beyond human capacity. tradition is a temporary tin is was established by human being and not by GOD. bcos that type was established wit a dibolical mean is not of the LORD. it is not what Bible said about narriage. It says a man should leave his family and climb unto his wife and from there they become one. and also a woman. the truth here now is that the guy has show the luv to the girl and had also sacrifice for the girl, it lets for the girl to show the love back and sacrifice by telling her parent hohaa that their tradition cannot stop her from following that guy and her children belongs to guy. both of them have believe in their heart that the tradition cannever affect them in any way if they must succeed they have to say it out stand strongly by the Almighty God to break that yoke bcos it is a yoke. but if the girl bend dawn to the tradition then she has marry her parent and not to blame the guy agan. if the parent want it the way they are saying why not give theri girl out so that she can go and get pregnant outside witout marriage. so the girl has to sacrifice for the guy if she truely loves him. tradition is man made is not what GOD said. Finally, You are not what the world said you are but what theWORD said you are. Reply
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Looking for my ashante bf ReplyLife is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
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Quote from: Uwemedimo1 on 29-08-2011 10:17 AM Funny how you would date a girl for 7 seven years and only get to know her tradition ans customs in the 7th year. Its absurd in this internet age where every info you desire is available at the click of a button Don't mind him. It's all made up. The tradition of children bearing their maternal father's name is true though. Nevertheless it's not true that the father has no claim on the children.
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anyhw whthreasahambo Reply
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na by force? ReplyNxt
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very difficult one Reply
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Ma guy broken courtship is far beta than broken marriage o... Run 4ur generation o Reply
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Love they say is blind. Reply
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he should pray to GOD for direction for me ill get anoada girl. Reply
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Tradition or no tradition,the guy also has a culture,and his culture stipulate that the children belong to him,which is (patriach).the ashanti tradition or culture shouldn't believe that the their is more supreme than any other people's culture. Reply
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