My lover is facing a shock of her life

I met this guy, Mike, in a pub last Sunday. The ease and regularity with which he was gulping down ‘scotch on the rock’ had me wondering what could be bothering him. I decided to strike a conversation with him and here is his story:
 
‘My girlfriend has suddenly become broody and wants sex on tap just like tap water that flows anytime it is turned. I don’t mind that! But I DO mind the constant baby talk and her assumption that I’m ready or willing to father her kids.

Just a short while ago she was a wild party animal: drinking, staying out late and having a really good time. And that’s the way I liked her – sexy, sassy and up for a laugh.

Now it’s babies, prams and all the paraphernalia that goes with it and it’s doing my head in.
If I have to listen to one more boring conversation about marriage, wedding,  Bug- boo buggies versus Silver Cross prams, I’ll go crazy.

The other day she dragged me into bed for the whole day. She’d stocked up on snacks, drinks and sex toys.

Every time I got close to climaxing she’d scream: “Make me pregnant!” It was very off-putting.

What she does not know is that I already have children – two of them.

They are aged nine and 11 and live with my ex-partner 200 miles away. I see them secretly from time to time and send them money every month.

My ex has married her boss (the bloke she cheated on while she was with me) and they have a whole new life.

I have chosen not to tell my current girl about this. And I haven’t told her about having had vasectomy which means I can never have any more children or the fact that I sometimes fancy other blokes...

Yes, I’m a complicated old devil. But I’m very keen not to frighten her away. I love where we live and enjoy the lifestyle we have.

We rent a flat that I could never afford on my own and she’s got some interesting friends with places out in Spain I like to visit.

A few months ago I felt happy and secure. Now everything’s up in the air.

Should I tell her my secrets or just keep stringing her along?

I don’t understand why everything couldn’t simply stay the same.

Why does she have to complicate our lives?’

Posted: at 2-10-2011 10:40 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Livingday!
Livingday!!
Livingday!!!
Hw many times i call u?

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Posted: at 2-10-2011 02:27 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

But what about being honest with your girlfriend and really telling her where you stand on this whole baby issue?

Posted: at 2-10-2011 03:32 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

He cannot because after his two children were born he had an operation to make him sterile called vesectomy.
This is a surgical procedure for male sterilization and/or permanent birth control. During the procedure, the vasa deferentia of a man are severed, and then tied/sealed in a manner such to prevent sperm from entering into the seminal stream (ejaculate).

Posted: at 2-10-2011 03:58 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Very honest comment/advice

Posted: at 2-10-2011 05:12 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

Very well said but a man's first loyalty is to himself in this age of 'you and I'. He has a comfortable life which he alone and by himself cannot afford. In other words, this lover is also his meal ticket to the good life. Don't you think telling her the truth would be deliberately pouring sand into his garri?

Posted: at 2-10-2011 05:59 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

What despicable, contemptible or loathsome life, if you care to name it!

Posted: at 2-10-2011 07:06 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

I don’t think your girlfriend is deliberately complicating your lives.
What she’s doing is attempting to grow up and move on.

Posted: at 2-10-2011 07:49 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

And ruin his selfish life style? Not these so-called modern guys!

Posted: at 2-10-2011 08:01 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming

u nd i knows its selfish,d girl 2 shld ask him......

Posted: at 2-10-2011 08:32 PM (12 years ago) | Hero