Plights Of A Single Lady: The Single Woman Syndrome

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at 22-03-2012 08:25PM (8 years ago)

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A lot of decent, amazing women I know have stayed single for way too long and most of them have at one point or the other come to me to ask why? I’ve thought up a few answers. Here goes…

Well, we all have them (even us guys too). The problem here is when certain women allow their emotions to guide all of their actions and when things go south, they have to work harder to undo the damage. When emotions guide ALL your actions, there’s mostly always more to everything as far as you’re concerned. If he calls more often than he does on one particular day, it maybe means he’s done something wrong. If he asks too many questions about one of your friends, he probably has issues with her or some hidden agenda.

Many black women with SWS probably have what the white folks call OCD (Obsessive-compulsive disorder). What is OCD? It’s an anxiety disorder in which people have unwanted and repeated thoughts, feelings, ideas, sensations (obsessions), or behaviors that make them feel driven to do something (compulsions). I’ll give you an example; excessive fear of heartbreak and the compulsion to repeatedly run away from guys once they show the slightest hint of emotions e.g. All is well till he asks you to spend the night at his crib.

Trust issues
Now, this stems from the first point. Like I said, emotions seem to complicate most things. Trust is a major part of every relationship. Women who exhibit symptoms of this syndrome usually don’t have issues trusting. Nope. For them to have committed themselves to liking someone who much, they’ve already crossed the trust barrier. The issue here is with them. Consciously or unconsciously, they present themselves to their partners as being difficult to trust. This may simply be as a result of the next point.

Independent Much
A lot of women will probably attack me here but the truth remains, as much as most men claim to have left the 7th century and want their women independent, the Adam(ic) genes that run through us won’t allow us let go completely. I’m sure a lot of guys will relate to this: you meet a girl who you know you like almost instantly. She has the looks, the carriage, the persona – everything you look out for in a woman. Problem is, you cannot even for the life of you imagine how to approach her. Not cause you don’t have skills with the ladies, not for fear of rejection, there’s just this barrier that almost makes her seem like that magnificent rolex you know you want, you know you can afford but for some reason, you just walk past it at the display window daily.

Most of y’all will probably laugh this off (especially you, yes you) but hear me out. The issue is not with you having more heels than flats in your closet or you even preferring to rock heels ahead of flats but if you start seeing a guy and after a month he doesn’t see that relaxed, not-so-made-up part of you, SWS much? There’s something ‘unexplainably’ endearing about a woman who doesn’t mind letting go once in a while. When a woman finds it hard to do this, SWS can’t be so far away.

Most women that exhibit symptoms of SWS will never see themselves as victims. Even if they got played and a dude cheats on them with a whole town, they’ll find words and ways to make themselves believe he was the victim. She’ll tell you it happened cause she ‘let’ it happen. Maybe that’s why they don’t have issues with undefined relationships cause it serves as a safety net.

Accidental Wingwoman
The average SWS woman is the ideal wingwoman to loads of guys. Why? Remember a lot of guys probably like her but don’t know how to even approach her? Often times, this eventually evolves into the wingwoman situation where they become good friends, homies, buddies who drink, eat and chill together but that’s where it stops. Most of these guys often grow so fond of her that they unconsciously begin to protect her from prospective partners like adopted brothers.

In conclusion, let me just state that a lot of women who exhibit these symptoms manage to get a man, or men as the case may be, the problem is that they just can’t seem to keep them.

So, there you go guys, do you think you have symptoms of SWS or you know someone who does? Or do you even agree with me that SWS exists, you know the drill, use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.

open_reality at 22-03-2012 09:11PM (8 years ago)
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egherne at 22-03-2012 09:17PM (8 years ago)
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And bla and bla,plight of single ladie......oops
kebella at 22-03-2012 09:19PM (8 years ago)
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 Angry Angry Angry Angry

trolling at 22-03-2012 09:24PM (8 years ago)
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na real plight dem get
ouzzyouzz at 22-03-2012 09:34PM (8 years ago)
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hmmm ..interesting observations...
malamy at 22-03-2012 10:11PM (8 years ago)
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We don hear,anoda topic!
oluwaseyi4 at 22-03-2012 10:26PM (8 years ago)
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What are u implying
Khalifa89 at 22-03-2012 10:51PM (8 years ago)
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Ok Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
toibeli at 23-03-2012 12:39AM (8 years ago)
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Professor Nametalkam Grin
southpool16 at 23-03-2012 12:43AM (8 years ago)
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ok, here we are
Senegal at 23-03-2012 01:42AM (8 years ago)
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 Lips Sealed
feyee at 23-03-2012 01:48AM (8 years ago)
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How interesting....all them single ladies put ur hands up! Cheesy Cheesy
ikwo1 at 23-03-2012 01:55AM (8 years ago)
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but all these does not make a lady single man
malvin2525 at 23-03-2012 04:36AM (8 years ago)
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donuche at 23-03-2012 05:07AM (8 years ago)
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i need an expo here pls from those that have enough patience to ready through all this ojukwu biography of a topic. let me get my eye glass and continue from where i stopped.
aso4life1 at 23-03-2012 06:32AM (8 years ago)
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jossy4reall at 23-03-2012 07:04AM (8 years ago)
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Quote from: donuche on 23-03-2012 05:07AM
i need an expo here pls from those that have enough patience to ready through all this ojukwu biography of a topic. let me get my eye glass and continue from where i stopped.

u nid xpo Huh?............its SWS

Sheenor at 23-03-2012 07:19AM (8 years ago)
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single ladies no much sha.......

aliaaz at 23-03-2012 07:27AM (8 years ago)
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