An eight-year-old boy at Asafo Dadiesoaba in Kumasi, whose right foot was heinously seared by his father, Yussif Wahab, for being rowdy, wants the police to take revenge on his behalf by also roasting his father with a hot iron.The boy, who could not walk properly following the severe wounds that he suffered on his foot after being burnt with a burning iron, has passionately appealed the police to come to his aid by teaching his ‘wicked’ father a bitter lesson.
Young Yussif, who is still in pain, speaking on Kessben FM in Kumasi said: “I want the police to immediately arrest my father and beat him mercilessly just as he did to me.”“I want the police to also burn my father with a hot iron just as he did to me so that he too will feel the pain that I felt.”
Yussif’s father allegedly beat him and later ordered the boy to sit on the bed whilst he pressed a burning iron on the boy’s foot.
The poor boy’s right foot developed a sore, making it impossible for him to walk properly. He was spotted by two journalists of Kessben FM on Wednesday who took him to the Emergency Centre of Komfo Anokye Teaching Hospital where he was admitted.
Yussif said his father, sent him on an errand but he decided to visit his grandmother, against his father’s warning. According to him, his father, after searching for him, later found him at his grandmother’s at Asafo Dadiesoaba. Yussif’s father became angry and dragged the boy to his house.
Yussif said his father, upon reaching the house, subjected him to severe beatings after which he ordered him to sit on the bed where he pressed a hot iron on his foot for disobeying him. Yussif, who is now being treated by medical personnel at the Komfo Anokye Teaching Hospital, insisted that: “I want the police to arrest my father, beat him mercilessly and also press a hot iron against his foot just as he did to me.”
Wahab Yussif, has been invited for questioning. The young boy is also being kept by the department until the matter is finally resolved.
How can a father be this wicked to his own son? Do you agree with his son? Or will you rather forgive if you were in his shoes?
Chelsea may have just become the Champions of Europe but it appears not everybody in the Blues camp is happy. Fernando Torres joined his teammates on a victory parade through the streets of London on Sunday but an interview with Spanish journalist Guillem Balague suggests his heart was not in the celebrations. The Spanish striker revealed he has had the worst moments of his career with the club this season and needs clarity about his future role with the newly-crowned European champions.
Torres told Spanish sports daily As he had been bitterly disappointed at being left out of the starting lineup for Saturday's Champions League final and said if it had not been for the support of the fans during a difficult campaign he would have "thrown in the towel". "I felt that they treated me in a way that I was not expecting, not in the way we spoke about when this club signed me" Fernando Torres " This season I have felt things that I had never felt before," As quoted Torres as saying. "I felt that they treated me in a way that I was not expecting, not in the way we spoke about when this club signed me," said the former Liverpool player.
"We have had a lot of conversations and at the end of the season we will talk to see what happens with my future because what I have experienced this year is not a role for me, the one I thought I would have when I came, I am not happy," he said. "A victory like the one in Munich provides some compensation but I want them to tell me what is going to happen in the future. "Right now yes I do feel that football is worth all the effort but I have had very bad moments. The worst of my career. And I don't want to have them again." Torres moved to Chelsea from Liverpool in January 2011 in a $79.04 million deal.
Marriage is often seen as fix-all – dreamy singles think it will make them happy, restless men and women think it will make them feel complete. We take apart the five most popular cons that mar marriage.
I won’t be lonely
Being lonely or having company has nothing to do with getting married. Many loners remain so even after marriage. A long-suffering woman shared her woes, she said that though she was married, she was always lonely. “I never felt that we shared anything. When I spoke, he heard but never listened. On holidays, I never felt that we were together.” Those who are lonely and feel that marriage will be a solution, need to analyse and identify what they are feeling.
Anytime sex
segxwal desire and frequency is dependent on libido, compatibility and the acceptance of the word ‘sex’ among both partners. Many partners, who have a deep-seated resentment for each other and are constantly bickering, are not having enough sex. Maybe one of them thought that marriage would satisfy their segxwal desires, but that didn’t happen, and so, the blame-game continues in other spheres of life.
I won’t work
This is quite an unrealistic thought, as increasingly, more couples realise that marriage does not mean financial security. Especially women realise that the lifestyle and aspirations one has calls for both spouses to generate income. Financial security is rare if you are not taking care of it yourself; there is no escape route. And if you have not discussed this with your partner, he or she may feel resentful of being considered a meal ticket.
Big happy family
Most of us are conditioned to win over the love and affection of the in-laws. We bend over backwards, expect to be loved immediately and are baffled when the feeling is not reciprocated. The biological imperative of birthing gives rise to a lot of unconditional love and acceptance which is hormonally absent in in-laws. So it is advised to give respect, love and attention, but don’t expect much.
Kids can fix it all
Couples feel that unhappiness in a marriage will be sorted by parenthood. This is another misconception because if there is incompatibility, a child would actually come into an unwelcoming environment and may even be resented. Parenthood should be a well-thought out decision considering aspects such as – Are we ready? Do both of us want children? Do we have all the help we need? Do we agree on core values?
Oh my word we love this list from genmag it is hilarious five young celebrities with more value than Louboutins? I do not know whether to take that as a complement or what not! But I am sure you would love to see the list right? here it is!
1. Toni Payne
When Toni suffered a marital set-back, it seemed the world had crashed in on her. There were accusations of adultery and betrayal. 9ice had sent out a press release, through his publicists, that expressed his wish to move on without Toni. Names were called; people who other people claimed Toni had been with. Some said she “looked down” on her husband who wasn’t as educated or refined as she was. They talked about the abuse and Toni staying in a hotel with her son. And then all the spills and interviews granted in tabloids. It was ugly and messy. Not too many people would give Toni a chance to redeem herself. But she didn’t let the incident affect her significance in an industry she was bent on being a part of. Toni runs her own PR management company, she has her own reality TV show (My Champayne Life), and has managed and worked with some of the big names in the industry- from Onyeka Onwenu to Tu Face, W4 etc. She holds a very positive outlook to life and continues to stand by her man, pushing the popularity of his work despite his (or her) shortcoming. She could have allowed the complexity of the situation turn her into a bitter witch but she didn’t. And we all must agree, she works as hard as a bull and looks as fab as a princess!
2. Sasha
When Sasha started commercial rap, we didn’t give her a chance. When other “femcees” emerged, we got over her quickly. Still, Sasha stayed true to her game and didn’t let all the comparisons get to her. When the media proclaimed Kel as the prettier one, Sasha continued with her music. When the media declared Sasha “fat”, she continued with her music. All of that negative vibe made her stronger- strong enough to clinch the MAMA Awards as the best female rapper! What could be more exalting?! The media, of course, tagged along and praised her as an amazing wealth of creativity and industry. She had clearly ridiculed their initial opinions about her. She could have allowed the bitter remarks drive her into a shell, afraid to do anything that would attract criticism; but she didn’t. Instead, she took the music to another level and even embarked on other sub-businesses that launched her brand further into the consciousness of people.
3. Uche Jombo
Uche is not the prettiest face in Nollywood. As a matter of fact, the first time I saw her in a movie, I didn’t think that face or that body would take her very far. How wrong I was! Uche, as I hear, is an incredible go-getter. The hours she works at her job is startling. She is her own competition, and she works hard at it. It has paid off! Uche has bulldozed her way into relevance in the most inspiring way- making great movies and positioning her brand in a way that gathers respect and admiration. She could have remained a “regular” actress, doing “regular” movies, and being made to play the supporting role all her life because she isn’t exactly as slim as a Genevieve Nnaji or Charlize Therone. Uche played an Oprah on us: getting into the soul of business without a model size!
4. Matse
Matse may come across as arrogant, especially as she holds very extreme and intense point-of-view on issues that are usually laidback (remember the “loose celeb” debacle on twitter?), but Matse is an OAPwho could walk around town in a pair of bathroom slippers and still be respected as a young lady who stays atop her job and excels above her peers. Matse made Pidgin interesting and liked, she gathered an enviable number of radio listeners when she reigned as the Queen of Wazobia FM; and when she moved to Naija Info, she did her magic in only a few weeks – getting all of Lagos tuned in. She has won numerous awards, clinching Future Awards more than once! Her views on a lot of contemporary issues may not be appreciated, but she stands by her words and because of such spirit, it becomes the truth at some point.
5. ChimamandaAdichie
Chimamanda is Nigeria’s most revered young novelist, breaking into international market, headlining and featuring in many African programmes, building the literary bridge between Africa and the diaspora. She has won many prestigious awards and has been applauded for her ingenious works. Soon, we shall get to watch the adaptation of her novel, Half Of a Yellow Sun, in Cinemas. As an academician, she may not own a pair of Louboutin, only because she may not want to; nonetheless she sparkles, just like the rest of the women listed, without one!
Everybody knows this old one – don’t judge the book by its covers? Yes? OK. And, I think that’s just the responsible way to live and its one of the best lesson for the kids. But! Just because you can’t judge a book by the cover doesn’t mean you can’t laugh at the absurdity of the cover. Some things are just too ridiculous to ignore – like, 7’1? basketball player routinely dating women who barely break the five-foot mark. Or even like a statuesque model with a soccer player who looks more like a gargoyle. Or even like a Playboy Playmate who formed an extremely unlikely match with a one-time NFL quarterback. Here are some of the unlikeliest couples in sports.
1. Nikolai and Galina Valuev
Nikolai Valuev is a Russian boxer who is also known as Rock Man, The Russian Bear, Lurch or even Shrek (the mean one!). He’s a full 7’0? tall, 308 pounds and rocks size 18 shoes! His wife Galina is 5’2? and can’t be much over 100 pounds. Galina said she was won over by the Rock Man’s poetry that he wrote for her after a chance meeting at a friend’s birthday party in 1999.
2. Dirk Nowitzki and Jessica Olsson
Dirk Nowitzki of the NBA champion Dallas Mavericks was recently engaged to the relatively teeny Jessica Olsson. Nowitzki stands a full foot taller than Olsson, but they actually make quite an adorable couple.
3. Amare Stoudemire and Ciara
At 6’10?, New York Knicks power forward Amare Stoudemire stands about 13 inches taller than his girlfriend, R&B singer Ciara. Actually at 5’9?, Ciara is fairly tall for a girl but standing next to an NBA player is bound to make most of us look comically undersized. The timeline on their relationship is a bit hazy, but the pair have been dating since early 2011.
4. Tito Ortiz and Jenna Jameson
UFC fighter Tito Ortiz and Jenna Jameson have been together since 2006 on MySpace and the pair were married in 2008. They probably looked like less of an odd couple back when she was a little bit more luscious. Now that she’s decidedly more stick-like, they just look like skinny and the beast. However, to everyone’s surprise, these crazy kids seem to be making things work despite their very well-reported rough patches.
5. Mike Modano and Willa Ford
Goofy-looking Mike Modano is an American hockey player who is now the oldest active player in the NHL. He was drafted in 1988 and until last season played every single game of his career for the Stars—first in Minnesota and then in Dallas. Modano has been with singer/songwriter Willa Ford for nearly a decade and the two were married in a small ceremony in Athens, Texas in 2007.
6. Shaquille O’Neal and Nicole “Hoopz” Alexander
At 7’1? and 325 pounds (which is a modest estimate), it would be very difficult for Shaquille O’Neal to find an appropriately-sized partner. Obviously there aren’t too many 6’6? women walking around, but there are certainly women closing in on 6’0?, right? Well Shaq isn’t interested. He likes his women petite and 5’0?—his new girl, Hoopz Alexander, is no exception. Hoopz is two feet shorter than him and over 200 pounds lighter!Wow, I can’t even imagine the logistics of this relationship.
7. Chris Bosh and Adrienne Williams
The Miami Heat’s Chris Bosh stands an impressive 6’11?. That’s almost as tall as Shaq, but of course, Bosh is a bit trimmer.Bosh met Williams, who looks to be almost a two full feet shorter than him, in late 2009 and the pair married sometime in 2011. Most sources insist they were married way back in April, but Bosh has been strangely evasive about it.
8. Kevin Garnett and Brandi Padilla
Boston Celtics forward Kevin Garnett is one of the most imposing figures in the NBA. At 6’11? and over 260 pounds, he’s absolutely massive and his personality probably makes him look about a foot taller on the court. KG [color=redmarried his longtime girlfriend Brandi Padilla during a private California ceremony in 2004[/color]; he actually skipped the Olympics that year because of the wedding. It’s anybody’s guess how tall Padilla is, but she appears to be almost 18 inches shorter than her husband and it’s hard not to laugh at some of the pictures of the couple.
9. Peter Crouch and Abigail Clancy
Peter Crouch is an English soccer player who plays for the national team as well as Stoke City in the Premier League. Abigail Clancy is a stunning British lingerie and fashion model as well as a television personality. The two began dating in 2007 and Crouch, who probably couldn’t believe his luck, decided to put a ring on it in 2009. The two had their first child, Sophia Ruby, in March 2011. Crouch isn’t tragic to look at, but he’s obviously a bit of an average Joe. Unfortunately next to Clancy, he looks like a lot more like a substantially below-average Joe.
10. Bastian Schweinsteiger and Sarah Brandner
Bastian Schweinsteiger is a German soccer player who plays for the German national team as well as for Bayern Munich. He’s a celebrated player who has won a number of national and international awards over his career. Unsurprisingly he’s credited his gorgeous model girlfriend Sarah Brandner for a lot of his great performances over the last several years. The two have been dating since 2007 and currently live together in Munich. Schweinsteiger may not be a looker, but he’s gotta be brave! When he and Brandner first met at a social event in Munich, she was dating Wladimir Klitschko, the Ukrainian heavyweight boxer who later dated Hayden Panettiere.
11. Marko Jaric and Adriana Lima
Marko Jaric is a Serbian basketball player who was drafted by the Los Angeles Clippers in the 2000 NBA draft. His career in the NBA was decidedly unremarkable, and his looks leave a little to be desired; yet he still managed to land one of the hottest women on the planet. He met Brazilian supermodel Adriana Lima in 2007 and Jaric proposed a year later on June 12, 2008—Lima’s 27th birthday. They married in Jackson Hole, Wyoming in 2009 and welcomed their first child, Valentina Lima Jaric, almost nine months to the date later. Nobody is sure what is more stunning at this point: Lima’s show-stopping good looks or her marriage to this dude.
12. Plaxico and Tiffany Burress
It’s not just the difference in height that make New York Jets wide receiver Plaxico Burress and his Tiffany an odd couple. If you’ve ever seen the pair together, you know that this is definitely a case of opposites attracting. Plaxico is a professional athlete, who’s always been a man of relatively few words. Tiffany is a model, an attorney and she’s exceptionally well spoken. The pair seem to be making it work though!
"THIS IS WEIRD, I WONDER HOW THESE LADIES ARE COPING AT HOME/BED"
An orphan, Miss Taiwo Monsurat Ariyo has been mentally ill since she was 10. According to her only surviving brother, Idowu,no one knows who impregnated her as she only returned home one day with pregnancy and all his efforts to trace the man who slept with her has proved abortive.
Naijapals.com gathered that it was some good Nigerians from the Hausa community in Oyo State that took Miss Taiwo and her twins to Adeoye Maternity Hospital after she had an unhygienic delivery within their area. Dr. Jonathan Osamoh who is handling her case said she could be stabilised and treated.
On hearing her case, the first family in the state intervened and settled her medical bills. They also adopted the babies – two boys– and they were immediately given the surname of the governor. The twins were named Abdulbasit Oluwaseyifunmi Ajimobi and Abdulwariz Oluwaseunfunmi Ajimobi.
At the naming ceremony attended by Government functionaries, WE gathered that the mother of the twins sat beside the governor’s wife, Mrs. Florence Ajimobi, but she was mute all through and her facial expression revealed neither joy nor sorrow... Miss Taiwo is now undergoing the process of recovery at the hospital.
The Sun has reported that a British woman is facing the possibility of three years in prison in Dubai, after a taxi driver accused her of having sex with a fellow passenger in the back of his cab.
The woman, 27-year old recruitment consultant Rebecca Black, told The Sun she had spent five days behind bars before being released on bail. She denied the allegation, saying she was alone in the cab and instead arrested for drinking a bottle of beer, which is also illegal in the UAE.
Of course she’s not the first Brit to wind up behind bars or deported because they’re not clued up about United Arab Emirates laws.
According to the Foreign Office, 1.1 million Britons visited the UAE last year and 294 of them were arrested or detained by police – making it more likely to happen there than in any other country in the world.
So if getting banged up abroad is on your ‘to do’ list of life experiences, here are some easy ways to break the law in Dubai…
Do some dirty dancing
Ever thought your dance moves ought to be illegal? Then head to Dubai, where they just very well might be. Unless you’re at a licensed club or in the privacy of your hotel room then dancing is considered indecent and provocative and could get you arrested. During Ramadan you won’t even find a dance floor to throw some shapes on risk-free – dancing, loud music and live music are forbidden during the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, so nightclubs usually close and all the bands go on holiday.
Give someone the finger
Back home it’s just a bit rude but making insulting gestures in Dubai is regarded as obscene and totally unacceptable – as 56-year-old Brit Simon Andrew discovered in 2010 when he was accused of showing an aviation student his middle finger during a row and was arrested. He denied flipping the bird but had his passport confiscated for eight months as bail surety. It has been known for offenders to get a six-month sentence for such an act and some have been deported.
Have sex on the beach
For a surefire way to wind up behind bars, break a couple of laws at once. Because of their strict laws about indecency, public sex is beyond unacceptable. Do it with someone you’re not married to – a crime that entails prosecution, imprisonment and/or a fine and deportation – and you’re firing on all cylinders. Michelle Palmer, 36, of Oakham, Rutland, and Vince Acors, 34, of Bromley, London, did just that in 2009 and were banged up for three months before being deported, as well as fined 1,000 dirhams (about £180).
Snog in a restaurant
Don’t assume you have to go all the way to infringe on their decency regulations – the law extends to kissing and even holding hands, unless you’re married. British marketing executive Ayman Najafi and Charlotte Adams – both in their 20s – were arrested and accused of public indecency after an Emirati woman claimed they exchanged a passionate kiss in a restaurant. They were given a one-month jail sentence for public indecency and illegal drinking, fined 1,000 dirhams, then deported. The pair maintain it was merely a peck on the cheek.
Drinking on the Beach
Buying drinks in licensed hotels or bars is allowed but drinking – or being drunk – is illegal in public. You’ll stand out particularly well in the resort of Sharjah where booze is banned full stop, apart from for residents with a licence to drink at home. It is also an offence in the UAE to drink and drive, no matter how tiny the amount. If you’re arrested on alcohol-related offences you’ll likely be jailed while you await trial and penalties entail hefty jail sentences and large fines.
Smoke some wacky baccy
Drugs are almost always a law breaker, but Dubai is about as far from Amsterdam as you can get. Possession and consumption is treated very seriously in the UAE and possession includes anything in your system, so even if you have a cheeky joint before you get on the Dubai-bound plane you could end up falling foul of their regulations, and wind up with their mandatory minimum of four years in jail.
Other laws you should know about
Shopping in shorts could attract attention from the authorities. Unless you’re on the beach or by the pool, then anything tight, transparent, short or displaying your stomach, shoulders or back if you’re a woman, is considered indecent. Same if you’re a man in shorts or displaying a bare chest. Photography of certain government buildings is also illegal, as is perusing any form of pornographic material. If all else fails, smuggle in a bacon sandwich – pork is banned – and a poppy seed roll will add to the criminality of the action, as poppy seeds are also on the UAE’s forbidden list.
"I WONDER HOW PEOPLE SURVIVED FOR YEARS OVER THERE - BECAUSE I CAN'T DO WITHOUT KISSING MY BABE"
Poor Nigerians whose children, spouses and bread winners have been sentenced to death in far away Indonesia have been told not to look in the direction of the Senate for some kind of reprieve as they won't get any.
Senator Mathew Nwagwu had pleaded with the Senate to intervene on behalf of our country men who - due to poverty or misguided by some highly placed Nigerians who run these drug cartels - find themselves in troubled waters in foreign countries.
But while reacting to the motion, the Senate President, David Mark, said all Nigerians currently serving jail terms in Indonesia or on death row are on their own because he claimed they knew the consequences of their actions before engaging in crimes.
No doubt this is coming from the Senate President and the leadership of the senate because their sons and daughters are not among those sentenced to death. Some of these people are among the corrupt leaders who make life unbearable for Nigerians with their primitive accumulation of wealth, leading graduates and other job-seeking Nigerian youths to take to crimes for survival.
Nigerians are watching and we in Naijapals.com shall remind these senators of their actions when their own children will be caught in a similar web, as they often do.
Gold is back. With global investments delivering little returns, the eyes of many investors have turned to the old favourite. But the new gold rush has come with a big rise in scams and confidence tricks. They now represent a major threat for companies and individuals and many of them take place in Africa.
Ghana is the second-largest producer of gold on the continent and is now home to a large network of gold fraudsters. Investors have lost millions at their hands. Investors becoming poorer whilst Fraudsters becoming richer!
Africa Investigates goes undercover to lift the lid on this illusory pot of gold.
In this episode (Fool's Gold): We learnt how gold fraudsters have been operating in Ghana, damaging the development and reputation of Ghana.
A Ghanaian journalist Anas Aremeya Anas who have spent his years protecting his country by infiltrating and fighting crime and corruption, explains his resolve to name, shame and jail those undermining the aspirations of his country by duping foreign investors. He claimed that his anonymity to be his power.
He furthered his explanation by saying that these fraudsters have become a major threat to companies and individual who want to invest in his country most valuable commodity Gold.
In his interview with a business man (Todd Siegmeister) from U.S.A who have been scammed of over $1,500,000 (U.S dollars). Todd's said "I tested the first shipment and it was good. In the next shipment I found out that it was switched to a fake gold and not just scammed me they threaten to kill me. They have taken millions/billions of money from people and people worked their whole life to get it and watch it being taken."
Anas Aremeya Anas said "in his visitation to the police criminal investigation department, he realized that Todd Siegmeister from U.S.A wasn't the first that there has been many report of the same situation from most known developed countries. And this forces him to take it has a responsibility to name, shame and jail those undermining the aspirations of his country by duping foreign investors. With the help of his team and they police men he was able to fulfil his wish.
Fraudsters have been dominating Nigeria for quite some time and they come in series 419, yahoo-yahoo but Nigerians have never taken it as something they have to worry about. In my opinion, I will say Nigerians cares less for their reputation.
We are about to make the rest of your day amazing! Allow me to serve you the most gorgeous and sexiest “meal” ever! We have, below, the Top 5 Celebrity Men on this Part of the Globe who make our hearts skip (in no particular order)!
1. Chris Attoh
God took his time - moulded his nose, shaped his lips, put a sexy blush to his skin, and voila! One of the most handsome creatures on the face of the earth was made! Chris has had his hands in the entertainment pie for a while. He has worked as an OAP in Ghana’s Groove FM and Choice FM, and also on Show Time a TV show in Ghana. But we all know him and fell in love with him as a cast on Tinsel.
Stella Amaechi: “Chris is a stunner. There are not too many guys blessed with such hotness. He obviously chose the right path in his career. His looks will make any woman turn purple in embarrassment”
2. Peter Okoye (P Square)
One-half of the P-square sensation is a sex symbol! Peter has a body sculpted like a god. He takes his time to look good, and it shows anytime he takes off his shirt- which he does quite often. Being so ridiculously sexy is a lot of hard work, and the ladies appreciate it!
Nneka Obi: Peter is just an amazing piece of work. There’s no better way to say it - he is hot, and he gets all the right poses in his pictures to show just how delicious his body is. And to top that, he is rich. A magical combination that works everytime!
3. Ebuka Obi-Uchendu
Ebuka is a complete package of looks, style, brains, and finesse. The dude can be anything he wishes to be. He is vast in politics, sound in entertainment, and a lawyer, a red-carpet delight, cerebral and sharp-witted.
It’s a package that comes one in a hundred men! And there’s also that sense of modesty that makes him oh-so sexy! Ebuka is the dude you want to wake up next to; every woman wants a smart guy not too far away from her! Tolu Adeolu: The good thing about Ebuka is that he has evolved. A smart guy with a good sense of dressing is the sexiest thing ever!
4. Lynxxx
If Lynxxx didn’t make it to the top 5, it’ll be a crime. He is the epitome of the perfect male form. A very good looking guy - the kind of guy that you think his looks is just enough, why does he need to be brainy or talented? Now that is what makes Lynxxx an exception, his talent is just as delightful as his appearance.
Juliet Edet: "Lynxxx is the kind of hotness best-selling magazines is made of! There’s no flaw to his appearance. From top to bottom he has everything in the right size."
5. Flavour N’abania
Have you seen Flavour bare-chested? Is it not the most gorgeous display ever? Flavour’s music is embellished with the musician’s well-kept body - lithe, slim, with muscle contours and outlines in all the right places. He is our newest crush and we just had to show him off! His music and his beautiful abs is worth more than silver and gold.
Ijeoma Ogbu: "Flavour was a surprise, really. I didn’t expect he would look so good after listening to his music - which is good by the way; I just thought he’d look like a Timaya. But when I watched his video, I became a fan instantly." The guy looks really chew-able!
It is not uncommon to look around and find strong, independent women who have chosen to stay single. However, there are many beautiful and successful women who stay single not by their own choice, but because of the behaviors they display that drive good men away. There are many factors that have lead to why these women are single, but the most significant ones are listed below.
1. She’s seeking “Prince Charming”
The most probable reason why highly eligible women are still single is that they created a set of unrealistic and unattainable characteristics that their partners should have. These women often limit their dating prospects, set themselves up for disappointment and pass up a lot of great guys in their search for the perfect man to be their knight in shining armor.
2. She’s a drama queen
This type of woman is constantly on some sort of emotional roller coaster and the good men they do attract are left exhausted with their never ending whirlwind of emergencies and problems.
3. She’s commitment phobic
She will seemingly form what looks like a lasting commitment to one man, but the commitment is usually only superficial. This type of woman will enter each relationship with a how long will this one last? frame of mind.
4. She’s a control freak
It’s her way, or the highway. These women are never wrong, and when in a relationship, everything is always the man’s fault.
5. She’s desperate
This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog–all on the first date.
6. She’s a workaholic
She may be attractive and successful, and yet completely undateable because her life is all about work. If she is too busy to have any kind of social life outside of work, she’s already married — to her job.
7. She’s emotionally unstable
These women carry a tremendous amount of emotional baggage and will do things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and take actions with no thought about consequences.
8. She has too many insecurities
A woman whose life experiences have been a series of watching people damage each other rather than love each other tends to create a wall of defense with her emotions. Women like this begin to believe that no matter who they deal with in life, no man can be trusted.
9. She doesn’t take care of herself
Women with poor hygiene, unflattering clothes, unkempt hair, being over or under weight, having unsightly body hair, bad teeth, and too much or too little make-up have very slim chances of keeping a man.
10. She’s too easy
These women have failed to realize the important role their segxwality plays in finding a long-term mate. The reality is that most men who are looking for a serious relationship and not a one-night stand do place great value on a woman’s segxwal restraint.
I was a loving husband until I became a “born again” Christian. Then I discovered certain things written by Paul in the bible appointing me the head of my wife. I eagerly accepted the appointment. Jesus reveals that the worst kind of evil is the one which is presumed to have a religious sanction. I might be a murderer but in my heart-of-hearts I know it is wrong to kill. However, if the church convinces me that by killing men I am doing the work of God, then I can kill with gusto and without any conscience.
Paul say: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:22-24).
Even though this is addressed to wives and not to husbands, it was music to my ears. I thanked God that he deemed it fit to make me head and not tail. As far as I was concerned, it gave me the divine sanction to Lord it over my wife. Those who know my wife will immediately recognise that such presumed lordship would be fiercely contested. It took a few battle-scars and the tutelage of the Holy Spirit for me to recognise this scripture which gave me putative authority over my wife “in everything” is morally and spiritually bankrupt.
Pauline fallacy In classically Pauline fashion, the scripture is full of inherent contradictions. Christian wives cannot say Jesus is Lord on the one hand (I Corinthians 8:6); and say husband is Lord on the other. Jesus says: “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other.” (Matthew 6:24). It is fundamentally irreverent for Paul to ascribe equal status to the husband “as to the Lord” in the life of the wife.
Paul says: “I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” (I Corinthians 11:3). This is preposterous. It is not only unscriptural, it is unworkable. In the Old Testament, Deborah was a judge in Israel. (Judges 4:4-7). This made her the head of all the men by divine sanction. Today, let a man go and work in Nigeria’s Ministry of Finance and tell the female Minister; Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, that “the head of woman is man.” He will not last on the job.
Jesus would never make the man the head of the woman. That would displace God; the one and only head Jesus prescribes for everybody. Indeed, Jesus does not give authority to a man over another human-being. He [Jesus] says to his disciples: “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and those who are great exercise authority over them. Yet it shall not be so among you.” (Matthew 20:25-26). The only authority Jesus gives his disciples is over demons: “I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you.” (Luke 10:19).
Matrimonial dictatorship Paul is in error and he leads many Christian men into error. He has created a situation where, in Christian homes, the abuse of wives by husbands is rampant. The Christian husband asserts his “Paul-given” right to control his wife’s life. He uses Pauline scriptures and chauvinistic church doctrine to enforce his presumptive right to tell her what to do. He demands her unquestioning submission to his whims and caprices. There is often little or no mutuality or loving consideration here. It is either his way or the highway. When the man marries, he does not only marry a wife. He marries - a cook, a washer-woman, a sex-slave and a maid, - all in one Pauline packagefor the fee of a dowry. Every morning, he wakes up saying: “Thank you, Jesus!”
But it is all thanks to Paul that many a Christian husband believes his wife’s feelings and opinions are inconsequential. He may discredit them on principle or specifically because “Adam was not deceived, but the woman.” (1 Timothy 2:14). Or, he may give lip-service to respecting her views, but later disparage them as “emotional and not logical.”
Thereby, the Christian wife, who has been ransomed by Christ, is put back into bondage. She is constrained to dissociate from certain friends and family-members because of the need to keep “His Majesty” happy. She avoids some of her favourite activities for the sake of “keeping the peace.” If she objects to her Lord-husband’s heavy-handedness, she is castigated as “rebellio-us,” and “spiritually im-mature.” If she questions his opinions and decisions or disagrees with them, his lordship might just beat her upso that “the will of God” may be done in her life.
But it is not the will of God that the wife should play second-fiddle to her husband.It is the will of Paul. It is the will of God that all men and women should submit to God.Marriage is not about doing of the will of the husband. It is about the doing of the will of God. The Christian husband who operates on the premise of my will be done has set up himself for a cantankerous marriage.
Servant husbands Let me speak directly to my power-drunk husband colleagues who would have me excommunicated for daring to love our female adversaries. No matter the forcefulness of your dictatorship at home, I assure you your wife resents you. She may be kneeling down for you on the outside, but she is standing up to you on the inside. If you would just take the time to study the words of Jesus, you would see that your house is built on sand. Sooner than later, it will fall.
Even if the husband were to be the head of his wife; that would still not be to his advantage. A Christian head is different from a secular head. Jesus says: “Whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20:27-28). This means even Paul’s position ends up making the husband the servant of his wife.
When there was disagreement between Abraham and Sarah over Ishmael, God did not take sides with Abraham as some bogus head of his wife. God declared his own overriding will, which happened to agree with Sarah and not with Abraham. (Genesis 21:9-12). That is the role of God in the Christian home. Every decision is referred and deferred to him.
Because we fail to understand this, Christian men make lousy husbands. If you don’t agree with me, you don’t need to argue. Just prove me wrong in your home.
Some youths stormed the Zaria Police Station on Saturday to protest the alleged killing of one Abdullahi Nura by a middle age man, over a N250 snatched from a girl.
The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the protesting youths demanded that the suspect, who was in police custody be handed over to them.
It took the intervention of the Emir of Zazzau, Dr Shehu Idris, to disperse the crowd.
Investigation by NAN revealed that the youths were aggrieved because they claimed that the incident was not the first time the suspect had committed murder in Zaria.
One of the youths, who pleaded anonymous, told NAN that the incident occurred on Friday.
He said that the suspect allegedly snatched N250 from a young girl sent on errand by her parent. However, the suspect attacked the deceased when he (the deceased) asked the suspect why he took the money from the girl.
The source said the suspect, who did not take kindly to the deceased’s intervention at this juncture brought out a knife and stabbed Abdullahi Nura to death.
“We are all out to ensure that the killer of Abdullahi is also killed,’’ he said.
The Police Public Relations Officer, Kaduna State Command, Mr Aminu Lawal, confirmed the incident and said the case has been transferred to CID, Kaduna.
He gave assurance that the police was investigating the matter. (NAN)
For people of puritanical perspectives and judge-a-book-by-its-cover principle, Nollywood actress-cum-producer, Rukky Sanda is somewhat bohemian – a pierced tongue, a tattoo of her name in Arabic and gilt-edged makeover that had given her form and features an exotic veneer, coupled with her penchant for expressing personal views that are construed as a bit to the left – it is easy to conclude that the Ikorodu, Lagos-born actress is “a good girl gone bad”. What’s more, she’d been involved in caustic controversies – romantically linked with American pop star, Akon, in 2007, she was the epicenter of a cosmetic surgery hullabaloo in 2011.
In a recent interview with Entertainment Express, an effervescent Rukky Sanda debunks popular preconceptions about her. In her world, there are no taboo subjects – love, boyfriend and marriage, tattoos and body piercing, religion and obsessions – ask a bold question and she bluntly tells you the barefaced true. Lest you are taken aback by her forthrightness, she forewarns: “I can be very blunt”.
What is the secret of your good looks?
There is really nothing to it. I try to keep it simple
What about your beauty routine?
I used to have a beauty routine, but now I don’t, because I am here today and next day I am there, I am all over, I don’t really have a routine. I just take my shower, rest, do my work, rest, play and have a lot of lovely people around me.
There was a rumour that you did a cosmetic surgery, how did you feel when you heard such?
Like I said before, I will say it again. I don’t have anything against plastic surgery; we all own our bodies and we can do whatever we choose to do with our bodies. When I heard the rumour, I didn’t attach any relevance to it because to me it’s no big deal. When I newly came into the industry, I heard such things and wonder why people will say such about me, but now I don’t care.
In other words, you can go to any length to take care of your body as long as it suits you?
Yes, I am saying as a human being, whatever makes you feel comfortable is what you should do.
How about tattoos?
I don’t have anything against tattoos; in fact I have tattoos and piercings.
How many piercings do you have?
A lot.
I can see one in your tongue-
Two.
What inspired you to pierce your body?
It’s what I want to do with my body.
There was a rumour sometime in the past that you once had an affair with Akon?
That rumour was since 2007 and five years after, people are still talking about it.
What was your growing up like?
I had the best growing up experiences. I didn’t have any problem. I thank God that I am blessed. I am from Ikorodu here in Lagos. My childhood was a blissful one. We were having party every time. I am still a party person.
At what point did you become conscious of the fact that you were attractive to men?
When I was a teenager, in JS 1 or 2.
Can you remember an instance of this and what your reaction was?
I cannot really remember, but it was normal stuff, like we used to mime and do all those things, and boys were always around.
When was the first time you decided to explore a relationship?
That was in SS 1 when I got my first boyfriend.
And you are proud of that?
What’s wrong with it? In those days, everybody had a boyfriend in the secondary school I went to. You cannot compare the relationship of those days to the kind of sophisticated things we have now; then, it was more of likeness, not love or anything serious. It’s more of hanging out and reading together. Life was less complicated then. You can’t compare that to what we call relationship of nowadays.
In line with the relationship of nowadays, when was your first?
My first real relationship was in the university in the year 1999. But it didn’t work.
What did you learn from that relationship?
I learnt that regardless of what you do or feel for this person, always be true to yourself, just be you, if the person likes you for you, fine but if you have to be something else in order to please him, then it doesn’t make sense.
What’s the best advice given to you and who gave you the advice?
My mum told me to be true to myself because at the end of the day only you matters. If you are not true to yourself, then it’s as good as having nothing. She also said: Always remember where you come from, don’t let anybody make you feel you don’t deserve what you have because you have been comfortable all your life.â€
The name Rukky sounds exotic, not many people believe that your Rukky is derived from the Islamic name Rukayatu?
If you come to my house and ask of Rukayat, nobody will know who you are asking after, because from my primary school days, I don’t think anybody knew me as Rukayat; I have always been addressed as Rukky, that’s what I grew up being called, it is not like I woke up one day and decided to change my name.Even my parents call me Rukky. I don’t think I have any family member that has ever called me Rukayat.
You seem to be very outspoken?
I am. I can be very blunt. I think Nollywood made me much nicer, because I realise that I have to be nice to an extent to people.
How blunt can you be?
Extremely. I used to be. I have grown out of it, though. Now, I know what to say and what not to say. In my secondary school and university days, I don’t care whatever you say. It wasn’t an issue for me and I didn’t care if it was an issue for anybody. People mistake it for arrogance. It is more of being confident.
What’s your philosophy of life?
Live life, work hard to achieve all that you have wanted to, people look at acting as easy, it’s actually the most difficult thing considering the fact that people go to work at 7 a.m. and come back by 5 p.m., but while acting you could stay and shoot overnight. For example, when I am working I don’t sleep; if at all I do, it will be from the hours of 3 a.m. to 7a.m. especially now that I am either writing or producing. I even write my scripts myself; even If I get a director, I want it to be exactly the way I envisaged it, so for me its multi-tasking. No matter how many people are working for you, you are going to do your thing, because if anything goes wrong, it’s your name that will be called; after all, the film is mine.
How soon do you plan to get married?
It’s not very soon. I don’t even have the time to deal with a relationship right now.
What if there is a persistent guy?
He will wait.
But it won’t be fair on him
It is my life and I have to live it. I have to build my career, independently.
As a Muslim do you have any reservation marrying outside your faith?
I don’t, I will marry whoever I want to; it’s my life.
Don’t you think your parents will object?
It is a free world, do whatever you want.
How religious are you?
I am very religious, God first.
How do you relate with God?
I pray to God and He answers. I can pray 10 times a day if I want to.
But do you?
Of course.
Can you recite the Quran?
I am a Muslim, I may not be a practicing one, I may not pray five times a day, but I am a Muslim by birth. I don’t go to church but I pray to God and He answers my prayers, I read the Bible-
Why do you read the Bible?
I believe God is God, you don’t have to go to one church or one mosque, I believe the message is the same.
Do you read the Quran?
I don’t know how to read Arabic-
What part of the Bible do you read?
I read any part I open to at random, once I open my ipad, any verse of the bible that opens, I read and I learn new things every day. I read mostly the book of Psalms. Yesterday I woke up in the middle of the night and I could not sleep and I picked the Bible and I read the first chapter, In the beginning and I got a bit confused and I was thinking it was a typographical error and then I opened another (I have like five bibles) and I saw that it was the same. So, I educate myself everyday.
What is your position in your family?
From my father I am number 10, generally, I am the last born of the family.
How many wives?
Three (3).
When are you going to Mecca for pilgrimage?
Honestly, I don’t know; it is not in my plan for now. I can’t even say next year.
Your piercings started when and where?
I did the first one in London in 2008 and the second one last year in New York.
How much did it cost you?
I did the first one for about 80 pounds which is approximately N20, 000. The second was about 60 bucks-
Was it a spur of the moment decision?
It’s just what I wanted to do at that point, I have piercings all over my ears, everywhere on my body, it’s my body, I do whatever I want with it.
How do you maintain these piercings?
It’s like they are not there. I don’t even remember that there is anything on my body.
The guys who did the piercing, did they administer any anaesthetic to you?
No, they just punched it and that’s it.
How do you deal with money generally, what’s your perspective about money?
Money is a good thing and we need money to survive, money comes and goes, so you have to invest.
When did you learn that lesson?
Ever since I was a child, I knew I wanted money and that I have to work hard to get money. I have always been a business-minded person and I know that if you take money and spend it, it’s not coming back to you, therefore you have to invest for it to keep coming.
Have you ever been hurt by people to the extent that you cried?
No, I don’t let people get to me.
Do you understand Yoruba?
Of course.
When are you going to do a Yoruba film?
I don’t know how to read Yoruba, basically if my script is given to me in English, translated, I can say it in Yoruba. I don’t know how to read Yoruba. But I am going to do a Yoruba film proper someday.
With benefit of hindsight, what past mistake or action will you love to correct?
Anything we do in life, we learn from it. I remember when I finished secondary school, what I wanted was to travel to America. But my dad refused. I was already in LASU, I had two very close friends of which one was in LASU; they travelled to America so I also told my dad I wanted to travel to America. My father did not even answer me until I threatened that I would not go to school again if I didn’t go to America. Yet my dad never agreed. I think it’s something I would have regretted.
Going to America and back what are the things that gives you culture shock?
I like American life, it’s very interesting and I have a lot of friends over there.
What did you study in LASU?
Banking and Finance
How long did it take you to get into the university?
That was like immediately, most of us in my family wrote JAMB twice starting from SS 2 and then SS 3, it was like a preparation. My first admission was in UNILAG where I was studying English because Unilag resumed first, but I wanted to study Banking and Finance which I had the chance to do in LASU.
What secondary school did you attend?
I went to Lagos State Model College. That’s the same school Funke Akindele went to, her dad was the principal at the time but we didn’t know each other then.
How nasty were you in secondary school?
I wasn’t nasty, I was just blunt.
Did you get that tattoo here in Nigeria?
Doest it look local? It’s about 13 years old now.
In Lagos here?
No I did it in 1997 in London.
Which country are you looking forward to travelling too soon?
Ghana.
Why Ghana?
I have never been to an African country except South Africa so I would really be excited to go to Ghana. Aside Ghana, I want to go to Cape Rula Island of which I don’t want to go alone, I want to go with a group and all I need do is to open a BB group Cape Rula Island and ask who wants to go.
How active are you on Twitter and Facebook?
I am more on Twitter than Facebook because everybody sees your post on Facebook, whether the person is your friend or not if I open my Facebook page you will see ridiculous things. I don’t bother reading them but I do scan through. In fact my Facebook is weird because I have like over 20, 000 friend requests which I can’t go through but with Twitter, all you need do is to follow, which doesn’t need approval from the other party, once you follow you can see all the messages, but it is not all that I can reply because it is not all that I see but I reply those I see, people still accuse me of not replying their tweets.
What’s your idea of love?
Love is a beautiful thing, that’s if you find it right.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
I don’t think there is anything like love at first sight because you think it is love but at the end you will see that it is just an attraction.
Governor of Lagos State Brigadier-General Raji Babatunde Fashola reportedly expelled 20 Journalists from Alausa press corp to stop “negative” stories.
Why do we have 20 journalist covering Alausa in the first place? Una no he work? I don't support Fashola's new found love for autocratic rule but multiple journalists should not be lazying about government house. - Kayode Ogundamisi.
This is coming on the heel of the Governor sacking 788 Medical doctors and recruiting 373 new Medics.
Guys, this means no torn jeans, concert T-shirts, or leather jackets. Ladies, no revealing snakeskin miniskirts, sloppy sweat pants, or killer spike heels. This is not the time to wow them with your cutting-edge fashion sense. Clean your hair, your ears, and under your fingernails; clip those cuticles; and brush your teeth. In short, go conservative this time: Looks count.
2. Do your homework
Don’t even think about tackling this meeting before you get the 411 on your in-laws. Does Dad hate smoking and wimpy handshakes? (Leave the cigs in the car and start strengthening your grip on a squooshy stress ball.) Is Mom a Broadway musical fan? (Brush up on your Andrew Lloyd Weber.) Ask questions about their pet peeves, passions, and complaints about exes.
3. Kowtow to culture
Engaged to someone from a different culture? At this first meeting, it’s imperative that you do everything you can to show respect for your honey’s heritage. Learn as much as you can about that culture, especially greetings (should you shake their hands, bow, or kiss them on the cheek?), and ask your partner to teach you how to say niceties — “pleasure to meet you” and “how are you” — in your future in-laws’ native language. Commit the pronunciation of key words and dishes to memory.
4. Be polite
This means using “yes” (not “yeah” or “yup”), “please,” and “thank you.” Lots of them. Suppress burps (and other bodily releases) and don’t block the driveway with your car. Men, put the seat down. See if there’s anything you can do to assist in the kitchen; help clear and clean the dishes and you’re golden. Remember that little acts of consideration will loom large in their memories.
5. Address the name issue
Don’t make the mistake of addressing in-laws too informally or by a name that they haven’t OK’d. This is especially true in other cultures, where calling parents by their first name can be a sign of disrespect. The best solution is to simply ask how they would like to be addressed — Mom, Dad, Bob, Carol, Mr. or Mrs. Blank. Address this issue right away — there are few things that can cause a tighter grimace than a mispronounced or unwelcome name.
6. Come bearing gifts
Bringing a hostess gift is common courtesy in most circles; when you’re going to dinner at your future in-laws’ house, it’s a non-negotiable. This is where your research comes in handy: A bottle of good wine is a great gift — unless the father is a recovering alcoholic. Be creative or crafty and remember that anything homemade scores points.
7. Project interest
People instinctively like people more if they like them back. Your mission: Be — or at least act — alert, attentive, and interested. How? Body language. Look your future in-law in the eye, lean forward, and nod at the appropriate times. Don’t look around the room when someone is speaking to you, tap your foot, look at your watch, or sit with your legs hanging open.
8. Avoid sticky subjects
This is a no-brainer, but we are morally obliged to say it: Don’t start or be goaded into conversations about controversial topics such as politics, religion, or sports (if you root for opposing teams). They may be testing you — don’t commit if you don’t know where they stand on issues close to the heart. Dirty jokes, your own family laundry, and personal 10-step programs are also off-limits.
9. Be nice
To the yippy family dog, bratty little brothers, neighbors, maids, waiters, valets, and whomever else you encounter during your time together. It’s important to remember that how you act towards other people — even pets, who are often like family members to their owners — is one of the clues to what you’re really like “off camera.”
10. Don’t fake it In addition to — and despite — the previously mentioned pleasantries, be yourself; don’t try to be who you think they want you to be (parents can smell a brownnoser a mile away). Assert your personality in small doses — at safe junctures — and sit up straight; some parents will want to test that you actually have a backbone.
Last but not least?Breathe. Try to relax, and remember that everyone there is going through a transition — each of you is gaining new family members; they’re also “losing” a child — and proceed with care.
It’s so difficult being a modern parent: trying to navigate through the linguistic minefield unscathed is a daily challenge.
There are all these things we’re not supposed to say to children any more for fear of doing some damage that will cost them a fortune in therapy down the line.
The trouble is, we tend to say things our parents said to us, and often the things they said are exactly the things you’re not supposed to say.
We asked parents for their suggestions on the non-PC things we shouldn’t be saying to our kids. Here’s our top 10.
1. “Don’t be silly, there’s no need to be scared of…”
This undermines and disregards a child’s fears. Speaking as someone who was raised in a house filled with “don’t be sillys” I’d say it left me tougher but very scornful of other people’s “silly” things.
2. “Stop being so sensitive!”
This was suggested by many parents who put forward similar thoughts. By telling a child not to cry or not to react a certain way, it may feel like you’re comforting them, but actually you’re just telling them their emotions aren’t valid.
3. “You’re naughty!”
People tend to live up to their labels, so if you tell a child its bad it just teaches them that they are made the wrong way. Instead, you are supposed to say that certain types behaviour is naughty – not your child. Anything else that labels a child – stop being mean, you’re clumsy etc – is equally unhelpful.
4. “I’ll shoot you”
This one comes courtesy of Megan P whose father-in-law says it to her boys whilst pointing his fingers like a gun. Apparently, he used to say it to his own children too when they did something naughty. They used to simply retort “no you won’t” before running off.
5. “You’re so clever!”
A few parents suggested this. Jason S tells his daughter that she worked hard at something and he’s proud of her and Elissa P says “you’ve practised so much you’ve got really good at that”.
6. “Don’t you look pretty!”
This is one comes from Angela M. “I’ll tell my daughter she looks smart, that she looks refined, that her hair really suits her, that her outfit is lovely, and any variation thereof, but I never tell her she looks pretty. I don’t want her thinking that in order to be worth something she needs to be “pretty”.If you wouldn’t say it to a boy you shouldn’t say it to a girl – I don’t want to tie her self-worth to her physical appearance. I know too many women with eating disorders.” Makes sense, but then again, Dawn French always says that her confidence comes from being told daily that she was pretty, so who knows what’s right?
7. “That’s brilliant, well done!”
“Obviously, I’m not suggesting you never praise your child,” says Marie F, mother-of-two and a company director, “but there’s now a whole generation of 20-somethings who have been so over-praised that they’re a nightmare to employ. They want positive reinforcement for every little job, and they consider things like promotions and pay rises something they’re entitled to.” But it’s not all doom and gloom: “they also tend to have strong entrepreneurial qualities and think anything is possible, so maybe you have to take the rough with the smooth”.
8. “I’m too busy!”
A friend Jones assures us that following this by “but we’ll do it later” (and sticking to it) IS allowed. Regularly telling a child you don’t have time for them just teaches them that you’re not available for them and you’re not really interested.
9. “I don’t believe you!”
Back in the 80s, Sesame Street had a storyline where no one believed that Big Bird’s imaginary friend “My Snuffleupagus” was real. But with a string of reports of children not being believed when they told parents or carers about abuse, the writers decided that the adults had to meet the woolly mammoth. If you think your child is telling lies, it’s better to try to get to the truth without saying you don’t believe them.
10. “What you did made mummy sad”
Lisa G suggested this one, which is likely to divide parents. Some mothers love this as a gentler-sounding alternative to threats or punishments, but Lisa feels that it burdens a child with responsibility for your emotions: “they’ll feel like it’s their fault if you’re not always happy, and that’s a lot to put on a child”.
What do you think? Have you ever told your child he’s naughty or that she looks pretty? Are we all just worrying too much about nothing or do you think it’s all sound advice?
This actually happened in Uganda and this is how Uganda Picks, an online publication is reporting it.
"Many of us have been waiting for the birth of this baby and now it is born and still wondering who the real father is.
Given the fact that Bad Black has given birth to a black baby, we are now ruling out David Greenhalgh as the father and we turn to the likes of Mr. Flavour, Meddie Sentongo, and all the men who have been around her. Among all the men, if analysed well, Mr. Flavour might be the father of Bad Black's baby.
Let’s look into this, Mr. Flavour came to Uganda in September for a performance and Bad black offered him $10,000 to sleep with him which he accepted and spent a night with her in a certain city hotel. Now if we are counting the period at which Bad Black gave birth it brings us to close seven months.
Supposing they did not use any protection in September, let’s Start counting from >October, November, December, January, February, March, April, and a few days into May. This definitely supports our thinking and brings back Chinedu Okoli aka Mr. Flavour N'abania as the father of the baby.
However, this cannot be depended on alone. There is a possibility that the baby black might be fathered by Meddie Sentongo her 'limelight' boyfriend because at one time Bad Black was overheard asking Meddie at Club Rouge when he is giving her a child in Luganda, “Naye Meddie ompayo di owana nga nkwagala nyo.” Many other Men also had affairs with Bad Black but the ones who came to the limelight are Meddie, Mr. Flavour, and Greenhalgh.
Despite of the doubts about the baby's father, Bad Black insists that the baby is fathered by Greenhalgh and she is waiting for him to clear the hospital bills and also take his child. The mother and the baby are reportedly in good condition though still weak."
Ghana striker Asamoah Gyan is Africa’s highest paid sportsman, according to the latest figures from ESPN The Magazine’s Money Issue salary survey project. The list is likely to draw controversy, as other financial reports had placed Ivorian star Yaya Toure at the top of the list. However, this list comprises the earnings that represent salary and/or prize money from the 2011 calendar year or most recent season.
Due to confidentiality of information for certain players, official salary figures were not available. In that case, ESPN used earnings that were based on information from multiple sources including leagues, agents, sports federations, cultural centers and the United Nations. The Black Stars player shares the ‘title’ with Liberia’s Tamba Hali, who plays American football as an outside linebacker for the Kansas City Chiefs.
Worldwide, Barcelona’s Lionel Messi keeps his status as football’s highest earner. He has bagged earnings of $43.5 million yearly – that’s from wages, bonuses, sponsorships and endorsements.
The top earners in African sport: (in US dollars)
Algeria: Nadir Belhadj [soccer] $2 779 000
Angola: Manucho [soccer] $865 579
Botswana: Mogogi Gabonamong [soccer] $354 000
Burkina Faso: Charles Kabore [soccer] $1 118 000
Burundi: Saidi Ntibazonkiza [soccer] $352 000
Cameroon: Samuel Eto’o [soccer] $13 337 000
Cape Verde: Cafu [soccer] $250 000
Central African Republic: Romain Sato [basketball] $1 733 810
Chad: Misdongarde Betoligar [soccer] $21 500
Comoros: Kassim Abdallah [soccer] $112 031
Democratic Republic of Congo: Bismack Biyombo [basketball] $2 798 040
Democratic Republic of Congo: Christopher Samba [soccer] $8 000 000
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