I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
I think you should mind your own business. You cannot run your friends life. This decision is strictly between the both of them. It does not matter how much of a good father he is, if he does not marry the girl, the child is not legally his if they are living in Naija and based in the culture that practices that rule. Your friend knows what he is doing and you should respect his decision. They are both equally responsible for this pregnancy. The girl did not get herself pregnant. Your friend can always deny sleeping with her and just go ahead and blame you for sleeping with his girlfriend. She will be viewed as wayward and your friend gets away scot-free. Is that what you are proposing? Men should learn to take responsibilities for their actions. Was he wearing a condom? Did he get a vasectomy? Was he on birth control pills? What are the precautions that he took? Why is he fornicating with a girl that he does not even love? What exactly do you have against the girl he wants to marry? Please mind your own business. thank you. If you do not mind your own business in this matter, let thunder strike you any time! Busy Body.
You probably don't understand this post. The guy in question is marrying her cos of the pregnancy and not for love. Do you ever imagine the kind of relationship they'll practice thereafter? How are they going to cope with marital issues? One thing is sure, they guy will end up cheating her. Take the examples of guys here that marries white gurls and black gurls that get married to white guys all for paper sake. How long does it last? How faithful are they?
Speach is silver, silence is Gold! | Posted: at 6-09-2009 12:17 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "omatu") omatu at 6-09-2009 04:24 PM (14 years ago)  (f) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
I think you should mind your own business. You cannot run your friends life. This decision is strictly between the both of them. It does not matter how much of a good father he is, if he does not marry the girl, the child is not legally his if they are living in Naija and based in the culture that practices that rule. Your friend knows what he is doing and you should respect his decision. They are both equally responsible for this pregnancy. The girl did not get herself pregnant. Your friend can always deny sleeping with her and just go ahead and blame you for sleeping with his girlfriend. She will be viewed as wayward and your friend gets away scot-free. Is that what you are proposing? Men should learn to take responsibilities for their actions. Was he wearing a condom? Did he get a vasectomy? Was he on birth control pills? What are the precautions that he took? Why is he fornicating with a girl that he does not even love? What exactly do you have against the girl he wants to marry? Please mind your own business. thank you. If you do not mind your own business in this matter, let thunder strike you any time! Busy Body. You probably don't understand this post. The guy in question is marrying her cos of the pregnancy and not for love. Do you ever imagine the kind of relationship they'll practice thereafter? How are they going to cope with marital issues? One thing is sure, they guy will end up cheating her. Take the examples of guys here that marries white gurls and black gurls that get married to white guys all for paper sake. How long does it last? How faithful are they? You are quite presumptious that I do not understand the post. You are the one that does not understand my response. I have the right to my own opinion and you have the opinion to yours. I am not interested in conforming to your beliefs. The guy wants to marry the girl and the girl wants to marry the man. End of discussion. None of us have the right to put our own beliefs on them. They are the ones that had sex, we were not there. They are the ones that started this relationship, we were not there. There is an innocent child coming and if they wish to get married, that is none of our business. Love can come later if they both behave. What God has joined together, let no man pull asunder. Leave the couple alone to make their own decisions. If this rule is not drawn clearly on the sand, people will interfere with their marriage to proof that "they told them so." Busy bodies. Keep away from their life please. Thanks. | Posted: at 6-09-2009 04:24 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "hotyemi") hotyemi at 6-09-2009 05:34 PM (14 years ago) (f) Yes, it is a gud reason y u must marry her, cos d Bible says he dat disvirgil a woman should b ready to marry her. ok, lets put dat aside, if u know dat u will not marry her y then did u take her to bed n impregnant her? who do u think will marry her with the pregnancy? if it were u, wil u marry her with another man pregnancy? or if she were or is ur sister will u b happy with the man? | Posted: at 6-09-2009 05:34 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "hotyemi") hotyemi at 6-09-2009 05:46 PM (14 years ago) (f) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Why will your friend sleep with a woman he doesn't loven knows dat when it result to pregnancy he will nt marry her? men should always think whenever they are doing anything to their fellow human being. Ok, if he didn't marry the girl hw will the girl? | Posted: at 6-09-2009 05:46 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "hotyemi") hotyemi at 6-09-2009 05:50 PM (14 years ago) (f) Well in the old days thats how it went, but now it doesnt go that way.....the relationship doesnt last long if u marry just because she is pregnant. Most ppl that marry just because of the kids most likely divorce when there children are grown
If it were u hw r u feel? | Posted: at 6-09-2009 05:50 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "omatu") omatu at 6-09-2009 05:57 PM (14 years ago) (f) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Princemeche, you better marry my daughter sweet baby or else I will be coming down to Naija or China and you will be hearing the woman roar. I just looked and saw your name as the poster. Sorry if I have been hard on you, but please pray for the couple for a successful marriage and leave them to their marriage decision. Support them till the end. | Posted: at 6-09-2009 05:57 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "erikaakpan") erikaakpan at 7-09-2009 01:40 AM (14 years ago) (f) Well in the old days thats how it went, but now it doesnt go that way.....the relationship doesnt last long if u marry just because she is pregnant. Most ppl that marry just because of the kids most likely divorce when there children are grown
If it were u hw r u feel?
if i were who? i would never let a guy marry me just because i havin his baby....i really would even put myself in this predictament
Flirtation: Attention without intention. | Posted: at 7-09-2009 01:40 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "princemech") princemech at 7-09-2009 08:40 AM (14 years ago) (m) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Princemeche, you better marry my daughter sweet baby or else I will be coming down to Naija or China and you will be hearing the woman roar. I just looked and saw your name as the poster. Sorry if I have been hard on you, but please pray for the couple for a successful marriage and leave them to their marriage decision. Support them till the end. ohh thanks so much | Posted: at 7-09-2009 08:40 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "selyn") selyn at 7-09-2009 10:14 AM (14 years ago) (f) If they didnt connect in some way they wouldnt have ended up in bed and she wouldnt be pregnant. If he liked her enuf to have sex with her and she liked him enuf to consent to it, they have at least some degree of "likeness" to build a marriage on if they so choose to. It's his choice isnt it?
there's nothing like marriage by sentiment! | Posted: at 7-09-2009 10:14 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Agatex") Agatex at 7-09-2009 11:00 AM (14 years ago) (f) its not ideal for a man to have children here and there, so if he decides to marry a girl he impregnated, he should also open up his mind to love her and decide also to stick with her no matter what. There is no big deal about it, its has to do with understanding. | Posted: at 7-09-2009 11:00 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "ezecyyyy") ezecyyyy at 7-09-2009 12:02 PM (14 years ago) (m) It is not and never we it be a must that u we marry a girl that u impredinate,since u can understand that two can not go without an aggrement, so allow them to do what they aggree b/c there is an aggreement within them(is either pay as u go or lets be one)so ask them their choice. | Posted: at 7-09-2009 12:02 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "charlydyke") charlydyke at 7-09-2009 01:36 PM (14 years ago) (m) no give me belly if u no wan marry me oooooooo
if u no wan make i giv u bele, mak u no giv me d something ooooooo | Posted: at 7-09-2009 01:36 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "charlydyke") charlydyke at 7-09-2009 01:42 PM (14 years ago) (m) EMMYG, if u no wan mak i giv u bele, no giv me d sometin 00. lol | Posted: at 7-09-2009 01:42 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 7-09-2009 02:34 PM (14 years ago) (m) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Hell No, l won't marry her, l will take up the responsibilities to ensure her well being and that of the my unborn child. lt was an accident and l won't make another mistake by marrying her. Well, lf we were able to work out things that could result to marriage, Thanks be to God.
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 7-09-2009 02:34 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "joyjumper") joyjumper at 7-09-2009 05:47 PM (14 years ago) (m) Hell No, l won't marry her, l will take up the responsibilities to ensure her well being and that of the my unborn child.
lt was an accident and l won't make another mistake by marrying her. Well, lf we were able to work out things that could result to marriage, Thanks be to God.
There are consequences to accidents. You break it, you pay for it. | Posted: at 7-09-2009 05:47 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "SexyJuly") SexyJuly at 7-09-2009 05:54 PM (14 years ago) (f) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Guess thats his choice. | Posted: at 7-09-2009 05:54 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "joyjumper") joyjumper at 7-09-2009 06:02 PM (14 years ago) (m) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Guess thats his choice. Great minds think alike. | Posted: at 7-09-2009 06:02 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "SexyJuly") SexyJuly at 7-09-2009 06:06 PM (14 years ago) (f) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Guess thats his choice. Great minds think alike. Was dat what u wanted posting? | Posted: at 7-09-2009 06:06 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "SAmyrocko") SAmyrocko at 7-09-2009 06:09 PM (14 years ago) (m) Hell No, l won't marry her, l will take up the responsibilities to ensure her well being and that of the my unborn child.
lt was an accident and l won't make another mistake by marrying her. Well, lf we were able to work out things that could result to marriage, Thanks be to God.
There are consequences to accidents. You break it, you pay for it. Not me..... though lts ur opinion..
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th | Posted: at 7-09-2009 06:09 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "joyjumper") joyjumper at 7-09-2009 06:13 PM (14 years ago) (m) I have a friend who is marrying his girlfriend because she is pregnant. I for one don't think that marriage should be based soley on that. I'm not saying he shouldn't take responsibility for the child but he admits he doesn't love her. He can be a good father without marrying this girl; because I'm sure it will end in divorce which will be even harder on the child.
Just curious about other's opinions
Guess thats his choice. Great minds think alike. Was dat what u wanted posting? YES! lol | Posted: at 7-09-2009 06:13 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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