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Quote from: Regenesis on 14-12-2009 01:59 AM
I didn't read that article; too long 
. But I'm still throwing in my view. I think divorce depends on a lot of things. It should be the last resort, like after you've tried to make it work and there still aren't any changes, then you should look into it. I don't think anyone should stay in an unhappy, abusive or whatever-the-problem-is marriage. Of course, it has to be a big problem. And all the people saying it's wrong to divorce, would you want to stay in an unhappy or abusive relationship? There're many reasons why people divorce: abuse (and this can go both ways -women also abuse, and it's isn't just physical, there's also emotional abuse...like name-calling, controlling or being too authoritative, etc), constant cheating, falling out of love (yea, it happens), financial reasons, or even marrying for the wrong reasons in the first place and finding out this isn't the person you're meant to be with. It all depends on the situation, especially if you've kids and your hubby or wife's abusive...you've to put them first and decide whether you want tor raise them in that kind of environment. And with abuse, it's not always easy to leave, especially if it's one of those extreme cases where the man throws threats...I think that's one of the reasons most women stay in those relationships (besides the fact that they think he'll change somehow, someday) because they're afraid for their lives and the lives of their family, while staying itself poses another danger. So it depends on the situation. You have to do what's right for you and if it's the last resort and the only solution, then do what you gotta do. If it's something that can be worked out, then of course try your best to do that and make it work. But if all else fails, then make the right decision for yourself.
Without question you have demonstrated great wisdom, maturity and a well balanced view on the issue of divorce. I can testify that sometimes great harm is done in the case of domestic violence. I know of a case in the Diaspora where this lady was being physically abused. This abuse actually started in Naija and continued after the family traveled overseas. But as you know they claimed to be born again and the lady kept her husband's domestic violence against her quiet. One day her neighbor called the police because of the cries coming from the house. when the police arrived she covered it up. She discussed wanting to divorce with the pastor of the African church which she attended, but he quoted Jesus (that's what they all do all the time). Well, we buried her last year; COD: internal bleeding due to blunt force to the body. It was reported that she fell, but the community knows that she had been mercilessly beaten by her husband, kept it quiet for days while she was bleeding internally. When she did go to the hospital, it was too late. It is incontestable that she would have been alive today had she divorced that monster of a husband. Thank you for your balanced view on this issue.. But I'm still throwing in my view. I think divorce depends on a lot of things. It should be the last resort, like after you've tried to make it work and there still aren't any changes, then you should look into it. I don't think anyone should stay in an unhappy, abusive or whatever-the-problem-is marriage. Of course, it has to be a big problem. And all the people saying it's wrong to divorce, would you want to stay in an unhappy or abusive relationship? There're many reasons why people divorce: abuse (and this can go both ways -women also abuse, and it's isn't just physical, there's also emotional abuse...like name-calling, controlling or being too authoritative, etc), constant cheating, falling out of love (yea, it happens), financial reasons, or even marrying for the wrong reasons in the first place and finding out this isn't the person you're meant to be with. It all depends on the situation, especially if you've kids and your hubby or wife's abusive...you've to put them first and decide whether you want tor raise them in that kind of environment. And with abuse, it's not always easy to leave, especially if it's one of those extreme cases where the man throws threats...I think that's one of the reasons most women stay in those relationships (besides the fact that they think he'll change somehow, someday) because they're afraid for their lives and the lives of their family, while staying itself poses another danger. So it depends on the situation. You have to do what's right for you and if it's the last resort and the only solution, then do what you gotta do. If it's something that can be worked out, then of course try your best to do that and make it work. But if all else fails, then make the right decision for yourself.| Posted: at | |
? Yes!! that's the point I'm making... we are living in a different time and age where human society has evolved. We are separated from the world of the Bible spatially and culturally. Morality in one culture may not be relevant in another culture 3000 years later. Holiness is an absolute, morality and its ethical considerations can be culturally defined. Question: Is divorce an issue of morality and ethics or Holiness? Was Jesus introducing a new morality or ethics because of the preponderance of male chauvinism manifested in the outright abuse of women and thus the institution of marriage? Was it a corrective ethical measure intended for that context? Is it possible if Jesus were in our time period that he would also say "a woman can only divorce her husband on grounds of domestic violence"? and why? Because in our society today there is so much physical violence perpetrated against women by men. These are considerations which should be factored into this conversation about divorce. We should not jump to the Scriptures when we lack the interpretation skills to make relevant its meaning for today's society. There are quite a few things Jesus said that holds no meaning for our society today if you apply them literally; you must excavate the meaning of the text in order to make relevant application to present day context. So don't be too quick on the draw with a Scripture... using the Scriptures in to supply a simplistic answer to a very complex human predicament. 
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