BEFORE YOU SAY "I DO".....

Yes you have found each other and are planning to get into marriage – that social contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, emotionally and gives legitimacy to their segxwal relationship.

But before you take the plunge, before you say ‘ I do’, you need to address certain issues. What are those things we need address before we head down the aisle?............Bring it on people!

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 10:19 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

first thing u have to ask question from people that know ur spouse background very well,may be they have any sickness disturbing them in their family.
you have to be prayerful for God to reavel any secret things that he or she may be hidden for u.
Do some investigation.
you must confirm it from God very well to know that it is the right person for u to marry.

Posted: at 15-06-2010 10:32 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

The first thing is just prayer, never say i do when u have not pray to GOD about the person you wanted  to marry.
Another thing is that, know the work that he or she is doing very well.
follow him or her to their family house,where ever they were living,try to know his or her people very well so that u we sure that the person u wanted to say i do to is a human being not the person that is dead before and relocated to another place.There are many of them in lagos,so u just have to b carefull before u say i do.

Posted: at 15-06-2010 10:43 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

No one is saying anyone is marrying someone he/she doesnt know his/her background.......We are just rubbing minds on issues that should be addressed before marriage.........This is for everyone's benefit (single pals), not necessarily for me........

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 10:50 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

Since Marriage is for better for worst. The first thing to consider is how Godly she is, follow by her Character and how she relate. the last thing is Understanding. Did she truly understand me? And how much i understand her.

That is all i need to consider before i conclude to say 'I DO'.

Posted: at 15-06-2010 10:55 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

no comment

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 11:18 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

It is imperative that you make out time to prepare for your life time together by exploring your relationship with each other intimately.  For in our world today where divorce seems to be on the increase, too many couples have been found to have headed to the altar before they even had the chance to discuss their expectations of marriage.  Better put, they did not address issues pertaining to marriage before they got married. 

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 11:32 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

I just defined marriage in my first post up there........there is CONSENT in marriage - an ingredient of contract, shebi?

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 11:45 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

Thumps up girl........ (hope u dont mind!)

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 11:53 AM (14 years ago) | Hero

Have we considered the fact that couples differ on many issues which may include their aims, fears, hopes, temperaments, expectations, etc.  Have we also realised that we differ mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically.  All these have to be considered!

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Posted: at 15-06-2010 12:01 PM (14 years ago) | Hero