BEFORE YOU SAY "I DO"..... (Page 4)

Quote from: wunzie on 15-06-2010 11:14 PM

Whenever I think about marriage, it sends shivers down my spine! Choosing the wrong mate to go down the isle with is like grabbing the ears of a raging mad pit bull. The truth is it’s just so difficult to adequately plan before saying 'I DO'.  As a result, a lot of men/women learn the hard way after walking down the aisle. No doubt, the price of travelling the wrong part is high, the consequence and lingering effects painful.

Personally, whether a relationship goes beyond the getting to know stage (dating) would be determined by the following:

If I’m dating a guy and all he is interested in is to test drive my body, emotions and feelings, I guess I will just have to show him the door without looking back.  Honourable men will always guard a woman’s heart, protect her emotions, honour her and stand as champions for her spiritual, mental and physical well being.  Men who lacks honour, will toy with a woman’s emotions without any semblance of concerns or compassion.  If he doesn’t fit- i won’t force him. True Love will find me!  Expecting a man like this to do an honourable thing is like expecting piranhas to play with you if you make the mistake of diving into their water.

If he is still trying to find himself, then he can’t find me. He should be searching for the maps to mastering manhood and have no business trying to prove that he is a man.

No human is designed or built for abuse. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate……he is definitely not the one; he is a goner!

Ok….it gets a bit funny at this point; if he wants or is frequently demanding s** and I’m not yet his wife, we properly not going to make it to the alter, would we? this is subjective i agree!

And the list goes on............

how long is the list? you aare one complicatd babe.

Posted: at 17-06-2010 10:50 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

Marriage socially recognized and approved union between individuals, who commit to one another with the expectation of a stable and lasting intimate relationship. It begins with a ceremony known as a wedding, which formally unites the marriage partners. A marital relationship usually involves some kind of contract, either written or specified by tradition, which defines the partners’ rights and obligations to each other, to any children they may have, and to their relatives. In most contemporary industrialized societies, marriage is certified by the government.
In addition to being a personal relationship between two people, marriage is one of society’s most important and basic institutions. Marriage and family serve as tools for ensuring social reproduction. Social reproduction includes providing food, clothing, and shelter for family members; raising and socializing children; and caring for the sick and elderly. In families and societies in which wealth, property, or a hereditary title is to be passed on from one generation to the next, inheritance and the production of legitimate heirs is a prime concern in marriage. However, in contemporary industrialized societies, marriage functions less as a social institution and more as a source of intimacy for the individuals involved.
Marriage is commonly defined as a partnership between two members of opposite sex known as husband and wife. However, scholars who study human culture and society disagree on whether marriage can be universally defined. The usual roles and responsibilities of the husband and wife include living together, having segxwal relations only with one another, sharing economic resources, and being recognized as the parents of their children. However, unconventional forms of marriage that do not include these elements do exist. For example, scholars have studied several cultural groups in Africa and India in which husbands and wives do not live together. Instead, each spouse remains in his or her original home, and the husband is a “visitor” with segxwal rights. Committed relationships between homosegxwals (individuals with a segxwal orientation toward people of the same sex) also challenge conventional definitions of marriage.
Debates over the definition of marriage illustrate its dual nature as both a public institution and a private, personal relationship. On the one hand, marriage involves an emotional and segxwal relationship between particular human beings. At the same time, marriage is an institution that transcends the particular individuals involved in it and unites two families. In some cultures, marriage connects two families in a complicated set of property exchanges involving land, labor, and other resources. The extended family and society also share an interest in any children the couple may have. Furthermore, the legal and religious definitions of marriage and the laws that surround it usually represent the symbolic expression of core cultural norms (informal behavioral guidelines) and values.

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Posted: at 17-06-2010 11:44 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

You are right on there!.....thanks

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Posted: at 17-06-2010 04:24 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

For everyone contributing on this thread

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Posted: at 17-06-2010 04:32 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

i take the kiss and am out here

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Posted: at 18-06-2010 07:51 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

help me ask am

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Posted: at 18-06-2010 10:39 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

This my sis always talk tru. Chei! I mean the real things she dey talk about... Me sef will want to know how much money is stored away in a secret bank account and how much of his life insurance am entitled to. He should also discuss with me which kind of house he's planning on building and when he will be building it...and also if he's soon to become a doctor. I think the most important discussion will be my hair getting done each week and we going to eat or unless he's ready to cook everyday-because am sure he's not expecting me in the kitchen especially when i can't cook.  Ehen..yea i think that should be the beginning of some of the issues to discuss.

 

Posted: at 19-06-2010 02:22 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

:-D

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Posted: at 19-06-2010 11:34 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Yea, trust is important in any kind of relationship........at least an iota of it!

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Posted: at 19-06-2010 12:56 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

WHy are you surprised??......He is a man and can stay as long as he likes!

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Posted: at 19-06-2010 01:22 PM (14 years ago) | Hero