BEFORE YOU SAY "I DO"..... (Page 3)

Date: 15-06-2010 10:19 am (14 years ago) | Author: Obiajunwa
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- aliaaz at 15-06-2010 06:38 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: segunkadri on 15-06-2010 10:57 AM
do you ever go into any serious relationship without knowing who u dealing with... there are some things prayer won't just do without d required action... this aint no online dating even if d relationship started with africhat when it is getting serious u need to investigate big time...

Yes oh.
Posted: at 15-06-2010 06:38 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- aliaaz at 15-06-2010 06:42 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: AKIOLUFUNMILAYO on 15-06-2010 11:26 AM
Most times, church counselling helps alot!!!!!!!

Not only church counseling cos babalowo own 2 dey wrk even my own counseling also dey wrk.
Posted: at 15-06-2010 06:42 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- erikaakpan at 15-06-2010 06:42 PM (14 years ago)
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issues i addressed/considered:
do i really want to spend the rest of my life with this person
his religious views/values
money(because if he's in debit, we are gonna be in debt together)
children(whether or not he wants them)
general acceptance of my soon to be spouse shortcomings(ex. like leaving the toilet seat up all the time)
Posted: at 15-06-2010 06:42 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- aliaaz at 15-06-2010 06:44 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 15-06-2010 11:53 AM
Quote from: qunodinga on 15-06-2010 11:51 AM
Before i do my own point is as follows:
1. Get to know him 1st...(not SEX)
2. Find out His/her temperament.
2. Do you love him?, his family n background?.
3. Will you be happy living with him?.
4. Is he/she ur kind of man/woman? (evry1 has an ideal personality).
5. God i commit ourselves to yr hands.
6. Accept his proposal then introduce him/she to ur family.

When you accept a proposal.... God sees it as ur choice.
Because He can't choose for you.    Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes


Thumps up girl........ Kiss(hope u dont mind!) Grin

Thumps up is too small for her ohhh...Abeg come collect one packet of chewing gum or bounty.
Posted: at 15-06-2010 06:44 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- terdue at 15-06-2010 08:11 PM (14 years ago)
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visit babalawo
Posted: at 15-06-2010 08:11 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- wunzie at 15-06-2010 11:14 PM (14 years ago)
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Whenever I think about marriage, it sends shivers down my spine! Choosing the wrong mate to go down the isle with is like grabbing the ears of a raging mad pit bull. The truth is it’s just so difficult to adequately plan before saying 'I DO'.  As a result, a lot of men/women learn the hard way after walking down the aisle. No doubt, the price of travelling the wrong part is high, the consequence and lingering effects painful.

Personally, whether a relationship goes beyond the getting to know stage (dating) would be determined by the following:

If I’m dating a guy and all he is interested in is to test drive my body, emotions and feelings, I guess I will just have to show him the door without looking back.  Honourable men will always guard a woman’s heart, protect her emotions, honour her and stand as champions for her spiritual, mental and physical well being.  Men who lacks honour, will toy with a woman’s emotions without any semblance of concerns or compassion.  If he doesn’t fit- i won’t force him. True Love will find me!  Expecting a man like this to do an honourable thing is like expecting piranhas to play with you if you make the mistake of diving into their water.

If he is still trying to find himself, then he can’t find me. He should be searching for the maps to mastering manhood and have no business trying to prove that he is a man.

No human is designed or built for abuse. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate……he is definitely not the one; he is a goner!

Ok….it gets a bit funny at this point; if he wants or is frequently demanding s** and I’m not yet his wife, we properly not going to make it to the alter, would we? this is subjective i agree!

And the list goes on............
Posted: at 15-06-2010 11:14 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- HOPEA23 at 16-06-2010 12:06 AM (14 years ago)
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There's nothing to say "before I say I do"
Posted: at 16-06-2010 12:06 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- akjasper at 16-06-2010 02:37 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 15-06-2010 10:19 AM
Yes you have found each other and are planning to get into marriage – that social contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, emotionally and gives legitimacy to their segxwal relationship.

But before you take the plunge, before you say ‘ I do’, you need to address certain issues. What are those things we need address before we head down the aisle?............Bring it on people! Kiss Kiss Kiss

You mst have known at least 80% abt him/her , and in sm cases less .
Sm women do bring out thr real self once they are fully in d house, so
its all about prayers for Ur real God sent partner and still tek wat ever
U see !!
Posted: at 16-06-2010 02:37 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- AKIOLUFUNMILAYO at 16-06-2010 09:32 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: aliaaz on 15-06-2010 06:42 PM
Quote from: AKIOLUFUNMILAYO on 15-06-2010 11:26 AM
Most times, church counselling helps alot!!!!!!!

Not only church counseling cos babalowo own 2 dey wrk even my own counseling also dey wrk.
sorry, if na your own n babalowo counselling, plenty ppl no go marry, some go divorce d next day after d wedding
Posted: at 16-06-2010 09:32 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- divineproject at 16-06-2010 10:18 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: AKIOLUFUNMILAYO on 16-06-2010 09:32 AM
Quote from: aliaaz on 15-06-2010 06:42 PM
Quote from: AKIOLUFUNMILAYO on 15-06-2010 11:26 AM
Most times, church counselling helps alot!!!!!!!

Not only church counseling cos babalowo own 2 dey wrk even my own counseling also dey wrk.
sorry, if na your own n babalowo counselling, plenty ppl no go marry, some go divorce d next day after d wedding

hahahahahaha........una too funny
Posted: at 16-06-2010 10:18 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Dupsyexotic at 16-06-2010 02:07 PM (14 years ago)
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1.   he has to has the  fear of God
2.   he shld not be an abuser just as wunzie said. abuser in words or in physical.  i cant stand it at  all.
3.    he shldnt be too stingy
4.    he shluldnt be too greedy
5.     he shld av respect and regard for me., just as i will av for him.
6.    he shld not be TEMPERAMENTAL.  i cant stand dis at alllllll.    i no want husband wey go use vexation kill person for house  Tongue
Posted: at 16-06-2010 02:07 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- xter at 16-06-2010 02:09 PM (14 years ago)
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I do as in ja rule's livin' it up lyrics abi?
Posted: at 16-06-2010 02:09 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- adedupcy at 16-06-2010 02:53 PM (14 years ago)
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 Wink Wink Wink
Posted: at 16-06-2010 02:53 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- divineproject at 16-06-2010 03:07 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Dupsyexotic on 16-06-2010 02:07 PM
1.   he has to has the  fear of God
2.   he shld not be an abuser just as wunzie said. abuser in words or in physical.  i cant stand it at  all.
3.    he shldnt be too stingy
4.    he shluldnt be too greedy
5.     he shld av respect and regard for me., just as i will av for him.
6.    he shld not be TEMPERAMENTAL.  i cant stand dis at alllllll.    i no want husband wey go use vexation kill person for house  Tongue

Nice one gal!
Posted: at 16-06-2010 03:07 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- onchedu at 17-06-2010 12:06 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Dupsyexotic on 16-06-2010 02:07 PM
1.   he has to has the  fear of God
2.   he shld not be an abuser just as wunzie said. abuser in words or in physical.  i cant stand it at  all.
3.    he shldnt be too stingy
4.    he shluldnt be too greedy
5.     he shld av respect and regard for me., just as i will av for him.
6.    he shld not be TEMPERAMENTAL.  i cant stand dis at alllllll.    i no want husband wey go use vexation kill person for house  Tongue

I should be greedy just enuf shey? Grin
Posted: at 17-06-2010 12:06 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- ceejay58 at 17-06-2010 12:55 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 15-06-2010 10:22 AM
What are the issues one need to address, things we need deal with before we get married........We need know, especially from our married men and women on this portal.  Probably if we knew, the rate of divorce would reduce!

unless u re ready to take that plunge i can't tell u now......  Tongue
Posted: at 17-06-2010 12:55 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Enockia at 17-06-2010 01:33 AM (14 years ago)
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go 4 an hiv test
Posted: at 17-06-2010 01:33 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- diplomatik at 17-06-2010 01:47 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 15-06-2010 10:19 AM
Yes you have found each other and are planning to get into marriage – that social contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, emotionally and gives legitimacy to their segxwal relationship.

But before you take the plunge, before you say ‘ I do’, you need to address certain issues. What are those things we need address before we head down the aisle?............Bring it on people! Kiss Kiss Kiss

dp great topic ......but who those kisses for... Grin
Posted: at 17-06-2010 01:47 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Enockia at 17-06-2010 01:54 AM (14 years ago)
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4 mi
Posted: at 17-06-2010 01:54 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- diplomatik at 17-06-2010 01:59 AM (14 years ago)
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oh really ?
Posted: at 17-06-2010 01:59 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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