that is what the white pple call Black man mentality.Local mentality my mama 4 go borne me for white man Land.
Well, Animals communicate better than humans. Women communicate better than men. But as for whites communicating better than blacks, that I think not.
During our formative stages we learn mostly by rote. We see something and we imitate it. And we keep practicing till it becomes part of us. Like daughters learn to nag like their mothers and sons learn to get angry like their fathers.
Communication is a two way thing. Communication is not a one person thing.
Like, If a guy should say he loves you, and while he was saying it, his voice was probably sounding like that of a joker, u wouldn't believe it. He may mean it, but, ur brain gets the wrong message. Hmn! He said he loves you. He does love you, but , he hasn't communicated cause you haven't hear the truth in his voice.
What is dat your name again? Oyindabty. You remind me of some lost friend. Hmn! I hope when I have learnt how to communicate it wouldn't be too late. Oyindabty lets have a dialogue.
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Oyin Knocks on the doors.
Agabs: Who be dat? Who be dat wey de knock like say im no get bond for hand?
Oyindabty: Agabs, Na me ooo000!
Agabs: You no get voice? Talk oo00! Abi u be police?
Oyindabty: Bros, na me. Na Oyin.
Agabs: Wetin d do you self? Come inside, dis one wey u d do like say na celine dion u be/ Hmn na Lagos we dey oo00! Make u d yarn correcto oo00.
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Oyin comes in and seats down. Agabs turns on the television. The Comedy "the war at home" is airing on some channel. Everybody laughs and laughs and laughs. Oyindabty walks to the fridge. She takes a peep. There is nothing there but alcohol. bottles of harp to be specific.
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Oyindabty: Bros, this your fridge, nothing d inside oo00! U no d chop? Na only beer u d drink? Ur liver go die oo00!
Agabs: Ha ah aha ah ahaha. Man shall not live by bread alone.
Agabs continues flipping channels in search of more laughs.
Oyindabty: Agabs is there anything in your kitchen?
Agabs: I don't think so. Check.
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Agabs keeps flipping channels. Oyin comes back from the kitchen and seats down. Agabs finds a channel. And starts laughing. Oyin can not laugh cause she is hungry. She thinks she has told agabs that she is hungry. She fails to realize that Agabs has not heard her.
One hour later, Agabs feels the hunger and he begs Oyin to go get some food. And Oyin is like grumbling and Agabs wonders what the matter is. And she starts saying that she has been asking for food for the past three hours and Agabs only thinks of himself. Little does she realize that Agabs did hot hear her hunger one bit. Well, she refuses to go and get something. So Agabs goes out and buys some junk food and gives her money to go eat whatever she wants.
What happened above?
Communication was one way and not two way. She was communicating with no feed back and she made assumptions. Hence the almost comatose relationship between two friends.
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Now put yourself in the shoes of Oyin. How would you feel if u were treated like that? Not like you do not have money. You are locked out of your house for some reason. You will probably see Agabs is insensitive. And u will say he is not caring. It doesn't occurs to you that from where Agabs come from, when you are hungry, you shout. Something like "Guys, I d H-H-H-H Baaaadly". From where he comes from, if u are hungry u keep saying it till the next person gets the message. Be it loud or silent , it doesn't matter, the clarity is what matters.
Now put yourself in Agabs shoes. He loves television. And it doesn't occur to him dat people like Oyin are controlled eaters. They just don't snack. It doesn't occur to him that Oyin eats at a specific time during the day and she doesn't just eat anything till she is hungry. She was reaised very disciplined. More so, she was raised in an environment where people are very sensitive. She was raised in an evnvironment where people don't border people or share their problems easily. Her parents raised her to be self sufficient so it easn't easy for her to ask outrightly. More so that she is a lady she has to preserve some pride lest she be taking for granted. When Oyin grumbled and accused Agabs of being self centred, Agabs got angry for he didn't know what she was talking about. He thinks he is blameless. A part of him knows he should have given Oyin more attention more so that she is a Lady and ladies don't ask like guys do. In his usual non-chalant masochistic manner, he brushes the problem aside and chides Oyin for being an Ajebo and for forming.
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Now Guys in the short story above, who is wrong? Who is the bad communicator? Who is the bad listener? Who is wicked? Who is justified?
Make Una pardon the mistakes.
| Posted: at 24-07-2010 12:00 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming |
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