CAN U MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER OR A MAN WHO HAS A CHILD B4 (Page 11)

Date: 09-07-2010 9:46 am (13 years ago) | Author: Blessing Edet
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- solozos at 13-07-2010 11:46 AM (13 years ago)
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well, its easy to say.................but try and see........not how far,....but how well
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- esoo at 13-07-2010 12:05 PM (13 years ago)
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si....no pasa nadie
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- waco at 13-07-2010 12:11 PM (13 years ago)
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i dont think i can!
Posted: at 13-07-2010 12:11 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 13-07-2010 12:14 PM (13 years ago)
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ok
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- agabs at 13-07-2010 01:31 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: onyiis on 13-07-2010 10:03 AM
Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 09:29 AM
Well, well, well, ha ah aah ah.

Checklist.
Culinary Skills - above average.
Physical attraction/Chemistry - 80%
Care for my well being - Above average.
Intellect - Not to below mine or at my level or above my level.
Moral values - Very high
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Reason for being a single mum - Death of spouse.

If all the above check, Definitely! Why not? Why not? Why not?
Plus can you imagine having a son or daughter before you have even done it? Is it that not like d booo0000mb? Shhhhhhhit! U have to be insane to reject such a booty.

If her previous husband is dead, I can. If he is not, then by the grace of God it is impossible.






Supposing she was responsible for the death of her husband with all these good attributes you listed ?
Or if her husband is still alife but the cause of the divorce or separationis not hers ?

When you say responsible, u leave the conclusion too wide as a ground for germination of speculation.

Okay, if she was driving and she made some error and the guy died and she survived, that is stomach-able. Can happen to anyone. That is forgivable.

However, if she murdered him then that says she is not a decent person. Why should a man marry an indecent woman?

If her husband is still alive then I aint marrying her even if she has the characteristics of Mother Theresa. It goes against my christian upbringing. I can not reconcile it in my mind. Same way I couldn't permit divorce from my parents. It goes against the catechism that I have attended and the formative data in my sub-conscious. See excerpt from some address on Jesus's teachings on marriage.
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- agabs at 13-07-2010 01:32 PM (13 years ago)
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But how does Bible see divorce? I chose a passage describing this subject through Jesus’ eyes:

"When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"

"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

"Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?"

Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."

Also, when he talks about divorce, Peter, the Lord’s apostle says:

"To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"1 Corinthians 7

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the segxwally immoral and adulterers." Hebrews 13:4

God is the One who invented marriage, so it should work! It does work but it is not always easy, in fact it is obvious that the partners should make it work, preventing those situations where things might take the wrong way.
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- bhl72 at 13-07-2010 01:35 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on  9-07-2010 10:42 AM
Quote from: blessedme on  9-07-2010 09:46 AM
Can you marry a single mother or a man who has a child b4

This question stike my heart....

yes i will

nothin mega... singing, e no easy e
Posted: at 13-07-2010 01:35 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 13-07-2010 01:38 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bhl72 on 13-07-2010 01:35 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on  9-07-2010 10:42 AM
Quote from: blessedme on  9-07-2010 09:46 AM
Can you marry a single mother or a man who has a child b4

This question stike my heart....

yes i will

nothin mega... singing, e no easy e

wat na...
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- FlyMamacita at 13-07-2010 01:44 PM (13 years ago)
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@ xter who said tht every woman who born child got Bosom  like hangin tea bag ?
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- bhl72 at 13-07-2010 01:49 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: sophiebaby on 13-07-2010 01:38 PM
Quote from: bhl72 on 13-07-2010 01:35 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on  9-07-2010 10:42 AM
Quote from: blessedme on  9-07-2010 09:46 AM
Can you marry a single mother or a man who has a child b4

This question stike my heart....

yes i will

nothin mega... singing, e no easy e

wat na...

la vie continue, mon cher
Posted: at 13-07-2010 01:49 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- agabs at 13-07-2010 01:50 PM (13 years ago)
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I am not a saint. However, a widow with a kid is alright. She is free and I would say she is untainted too, for her union was legal and she is even made purer for her sex mate has been erased. It is like absolution after confession. If her morals are in alignment with decency then I wouldn't hesitate if she pleases my heart.

There is something that doesn't feel right about a divorced woman who has a onetime breathing partner somewhere. Truth is there are two sides to a book. How do u go about verifying the facts that led to the divorce? What if your inferences are wrong? If she doesn't have a child, I wouldn't still marry her. More so that she has a child. It is very unthinkable. Marrying her is like destroying every chance of reconciliation of her and the other guy getting back together. There are girls with no complications out there. And that emotion called love is not an emotion to trust. So make we keep love aside. And don't you go saying love never catch me yet cause I know how to deprogram myself. Ha ha ha ahhaah. And that emotion called love passes. Ha ah ahahah. So faced with such a situation, I wouldn't marry and I will remind myself, 'even this too shall pass.' Ha ah ahahah.

And what if she decides to go back to her former husband? What if the guy comes begging? What if she still has feelings for the guy?

What if the guy resorts to evil? If he comes with a gun and he misses, what happens? Then I have to go with a gun and not miss? And then I become a murderer cause I married some divorcee? Cause, I wasn't cautious I stain my hand with blood?

And if he goes black magic, what happens?

CAPITAL NO. CAPITAL NO. CAPITAL NO.

Only if a woman is a widow will I consider her as a life partner.

Guide your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the well being of life.[King Solomon]
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- Dupsyexotic at 13-07-2010 02:02 PM (13 years ago)
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why not ?, cos no one is above mistake
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- Regenesis at 13-07-2010 02:50 PM (13 years ago)
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Yea.
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- blessedme at 13-07-2010 03:23 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 01:31 PM
Quote from: onyiis on 13-07-2010 10:03 AM
Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 09:29 AM
Well, well, well, ha ah aah ah.

Checklist.
Culinary Skills - above average.
Physical attraction/Chemistry - 80%
Care for my well being - Above average.
Intellect - Not to below mine or at my level or above my level.
Moral values - Very high
.
.
.
.
Reason for being a single mum - Death of spouse.

If all the above check, Definitely! Why not? Why not? Why not?
Plus can you imagine having a son or daughter before you have even done it? Is it that not like d booo0000mb? Shhhhhhhit! U have to be insane to reject such a booty.

If her previous husband is dead, I can. If he is not, then by the grace of God it is impossible.






Supposing she was responsible for the death of her husband with all these good attributes you listed ?
Or if her husband is still alife but the cause of the divorce or separationis not hers ?

When you say responsible, u leave the conclusion too wide as a ground for germination of speculation.

Okay, if she was driving and she made some error and the guy died and she survived, that is stomach-able. Can happen to anyone. That is forgivable.

However, if she murdered him then that says she is not a decent person. Why should a man marry an indecent woman?

If her husband is still alive then I aint marrying her even if she has the characteristics of Mother Theresa. It goes against my christian upbringing. I can not reconcile it in my mind. Same way I couldn't permit divorce from my parents. It goes against the catechism that I have attended and the formative data in my sub-conscious. See excerpt from some address on Jesus's teachings on marriage.

what if she is nt married and just got a child out of a r/ship
she intended to keep and just did nt work out?
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- sexy23 at 13-07-2010 07:46 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: esonu on  9-07-2010 11:49 AM
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Quote from: esonu on  9-07-2010 11:37 AM
passing

TO MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER I GUESS
yes na.. at least if her dowry should be 300 thousand, i will cut it down to 100 or 150 thousand cos she is no longer brand new.. na TOKUMBO she be
  AS A SINGLE MOTHER I DISAGREE WITH U.  SHE IS NOT TOKUMBO AS U SAY.BUT  PUT UR SELF IN THE LADY`S SHOES, U ASK A LADY TO MARRY U  OR ASKING HER OUT AND SHE REFUSE BCUS U HAVE A CHILD HOW WILL U FEEL?Huh?  AFTER ALL A CHILD IS A GIFT FROM GOD.PEOPLE EVEN PAY MILLIONS TO HAVE A CHILD.AS FOR THE WOMAN I TELL U SHE GET NOTHING TO LOOSE AFTERALL SHE IS FRUITFUL U MAY EVEN MARRY A VERGINE AND WILL NOT BE ABLE TO BEAR U A CHILD.THINK ABOUT IT.
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- mubaji at 13-07-2010 07:55 PM (13 years ago)
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who knows what will become of himself/herself tomorrow?
does it mean if you are dead your children will loose mother/father-care for life?
No, i stand to say no because it's not humane to give such condition to the one you love; we are mortals so let's think think like mortals.
so far i love her, i must love her child too and give him the best of me.
Posted: at 13-07-2010 07:55 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- agabs at 13-07-2010 08:00 PM (13 years ago)
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@blessedme, see your question below.

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what if she is nt married and just got a child out of a r/ship
she intended to keep and just did nt work out?
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Come on! Wetin be dat? Got a child out of a relationship she intended to keep and bla bla bla bla didnt work out! Come on! What nonsense is that? What nonsense is that?

Has the child got a father? Who is the father? Where is the father? What nonsense are we talking. One shouldn't even contemplate such.

What was she thinking? Was she being selfish? Did she think she was the only person to consider? Did she not know that every child wishes for a daddy? What gross irresponsibility is that? Okay, she did not abort the child. Good. One point for her.

Some people just want to eat em cake and have it. Some just wish to eat em cake and have it.  Can't blame em cause that is what holy and nolly wood preach.

It is a shame that the way Christianity is practiced now is far from the set principles in the bible. Some think the bible and the holy books are hog wash and they turn to magazines and movies for wisdom. What straits? A shame.
And parents aint even helping the matter.

@blessedme, as we say in Nigeria, "my eye never open reach that one oo00!" My eye never open reach. Plus I have things to consider. Like my kids especially my daughters in the future may have cause to follow mama's example. I do not want that. Pardon my catechism and Sunday school as a kid.

Every Mother should raise her daughter to be XTREMELY SELF CONSCIOUS. I will repeat it again, every mother should raise her daughter to be XTREMELY SELF CONSCIOUS. XTREMELY SELF CONSCIOUS.

There is an extent I will not go. We leave in a world where parents know that their daughter has gone a whoring in Italy and they still do not detach themselves from the proceeds. How do you reconcile that?

And am sure such a girl would want a marriage for a life time right? What right does she have to want a marriage for a life time? And will I have the respect that is necessary to keep a family for her? And if I have cause to suspect her of cheating, will her past not count against her?

@blessedme, there are a lot of reasons why a guy will not want a girl who has a child especially if it is out of wedlock. A lot of reasons.

May God help us, cause, this present generation of girls do not believe in working things out. Especially if one's pepper is not on the high side.

May God help us.

Us guys oo00! Ha ah ah ah ahah!


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- agabs at 13-07-2010 08:14 PM (13 years ago)
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Girls get pregnant for different reasons.

1. For show off.
2. To handcuff a guy.
3. Victim of a (user and abuser)
4. Victim of rape.
5. Victim of incest.

Can not blame them much. Can not blame them much. No data in em heads. And they think life is mills and boons.
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- sexy23 at 13-07-2010 09:11 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 08:00 PM
@blessedme, see your question below.

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what if she is nt married and just got a child out of a r/ship
she intended to keep and just did nt work out?
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Come on! Wetin be dat? Got a child out of a relationship she intended to keep and bla bla bla bla didnt work out! Come on! What nonsense is that? What nonsense is that?

Has the child got a father? Who is the father? Where is the father? What nonsense are we talking. One shouldn't even contemplate such.

What was she thinking? Was she being selfish? Did she think she was the only person to consider? Did she not know that every child wishes for a daddy? What gross irresponsibility is that? Okay, she did not abort the child. Good. One point for her.

Some people just want to eat em cake and have it. Some just wish to eat em cake and have it.  Can't blame em cause that is what holy and nolly wood preach.

It is a shame that the way Christianity is practiced now is far from the set principles in the bible. Some think the bible and the holy books are hog wash and they turn to magazines and movies for wisdom. What straits? A shame.
And parents aint even helping the matter.

@blessedme, as we say in Nigeria, "my eye never open reach that one oo00!" My eye never open reach. Plus I have things to consider. Like my kids especially my daughters in the future may have cause to follow mama's example. I do not want that. Pardon my catechism and Sunday school as a kid.

Every Mother should raise her daughter to be XTREMELY SELF CONSCIOUS. I will repeat it again, every mother should raise her daughter to be XTREMELY SELF CONSCIOUS. XTREMELY SELF CONSCIOUS.

There is an extent I will not go. We leave in a world where parents know that their daughter has gone a whoring in Italy and they still do not detach themselves from the proceeds. How do you reconcile that?

And am sure such a girl would want a marriage for a life time right? What right does she have to want a marriage for a life time? And will I have the respect that is necessary to keep a family for her? And if I have cause to suspect her of cheating, will her past not count against her?

@blessedme, there are a lot of reasons why a guy will not want a girl who has a child especially if it is out of wedlock. A lot of reasons.

May God help us, cause, this present generation of girls do not believe in working things out. Especially if one's pepper is not on the high side.

May God help us.

Us guys oo00! Ha ah ah ah ahah!


after reading ur storys i notice most men are just the same ......the same old story dont u guys think ladies act that way due to the way u treat them!!!! some may even be victim or lack of love from family and when they try search 4 one the get pregnant and  no  not what to do.... most of ur comment get me upset ....i know most ladies could be heartless but i tell u no woman want to be a single mother as well as been a single father but how come no one talk`s about a single father ........wetin girls do una self.....at the end of the day after ur comment and all u will end up falling in love with a woman in dat condition i wonder what u will do or happen ...
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- agabs at 13-07-2010 10:09 PM (13 years ago)
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@sexy23, now take a good look, at your name. Read it silently. Now if you are not a multi-profiler or a liar, if u that is truly ur picture. As k urself what your name says.

Does sexy23 not say that 'you are interested in pleasure?' Does it not encourage a guy to want to lay you?

Why e de pain you? I just gave you d harsh reality from a naija boy that was raised properly christian. Ask any young man above 25 that was raised in a decent christian environment and he will tell you the-same thing. And please, take ur time to pinpoint the points have raised. If u have a daughter or a teenage sister educate her.

The old Africa is not to far away. Just a few years ago, it was normal for girls to marry as virgins. At least from where I come from it was normal 20 years ago. Thanks to television, it is no longer a shame for a girl to have slept around before being married, it is now up for debate 'if a woman who has given birth should be considered for marriage'. I do not know where u are. As for me, I am right here in Nigeria.

And how do you expect me to tell my parents or relatives that the girl has had a child? The only way I can even confront them with just a proposition is if she is a widow. And even then, them go still sleep over such a matter. Even a girl who hasn't got a child that is notorious will be rejected.

Me don't know about you, but, from my own tribe, marriage is not a one person affair. Forget about that court register. Marriage is more than just that.

@sexy23, why did God put a seal on a woman for God's sake? Seriously, I aint trying to be funny. This is something I wonder sometimes. When I buy a bottle of water, I see a seal. Drugs, yogurt, chemicals and others come with seals. In some cases, they come with a warning that says do not buy if seal is broken. Why does the universe put a seal on women? Why?

Somebody tell my why? Why? Or should I ask ajepako? H a ah ahahahahah.

Tamper proof! hmn! Life is a puzzle.

@sexy23, if even the universe d put tamper proof ontop women, u come d vex cause i say I no like over-used? I will say dis in the Naija way - not d naija aggressive way(don't get me wrong) - God punish you well well. Ha ha ah ah ah ahah!






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