CAN U MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER OR A MAN WHO HAS A CHILD B4 (Page 13)

Date: 09-07-2010 9:46 am (14 years ago) | Author: Blessing Edet
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- blackberryPearl at 14-07-2010 10:51 AM (14 years ago)
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sounds more like a menopause pill
Posted: at 14-07-2010 10:51 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- blessedme at 14-07-2010 10:55 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 10:09 PM
@sexy23, now take a good look, at your name. Read it silently. Now if you are not a multi-profiler or a liar, if u that is truly ur picture. As k urself what your name says.

Does sexy23 not say that 'you are interested in pleasure?' Does it not encourage a guy to want to lay you?

Why e de pain you? I just gave you d harsh reality from a naija boy that was raised properly christian. Ask any young man above 25 that was raised in a decent christian environment and he will tell you the-same thing. And please, take ur time to pinpoint the points have raised. If u have a daughter or a teenage sister educate her.

The old Africa is not to far away. Just a few years ago, it was normal for girls to marry as virgins. At least from where I come from it was normal 20 years ago. Thanks to television, it is no longer a shame for a girl to have slept around before being married, it is now up for debate 'if a woman who has given birth should be considered for marriage'. I do not know where u are. As for me, I am right here in Nigeria.

And how do you expect me to tell my parents or relatives that the girl has had a child? The only way I can even confront them with just a proposition is if she is a widow. And even then, them go still sleep over such a matter. Even a girl who hasn't got a child that is notorious will be rejected.

Me don't know about you, but, from my own tribe, marriage is not a one person affair. Forget about that court register. Marriage is more than just that.

@sexy23, why did God put a seal on a woman for God's sake? Seriously, I aint trying to be funny. This is something I wonder sometimes. When I buy a bottle of water, I see a seal. Drugs, yogurt, chemicals and others come with seals. In some cases, they come with a warning that says do not buy if seal is broken. Why does the universe put a seal on women? Why?

Somebody tell my why? Why? Or should I ask ajepako? H a ah ahahahahah.

Tamper proof! hmn! Life is a puzzle.

@sexy23, if even the universe d put tamper proof ontop women, u come d vex cause i say I no like over-used? I will say dis in the Naija way - not d naija aggressive way(don't get me wrong) - God punish you well well. Ha ha ah ah ah ahah!


But u seem to forget that the world is no longer
the way it was in the good old days
things are changing everyday and we need
to live along side with it less we will be left behind

Anyway it's not a question to pick an offence with
a fellow pal or something, just to express ourselves
and learn from each other's opinion

cheers
Posted: at 14-07-2010 10:55 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 14-07-2010 11:44 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 08:14 PM
Girls get pregnant for different reasons.

1. For show off.
2. To handcuff a guy.
3. Victim of a (user and abuser)
4. Victim of rape.
5. Victim of incest.

Can not blame them much. Can not blame them much. No data in em heads. And they think life is mills and boons.
u forgot d most important one, LOVE  Wink
Posted: at 14-07-2010 11:44 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ajanni at 14-07-2010 11:47 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: foru on 14-07-2010 10:19 AM
yes why not i am a single mother too

good
Posted: at 14-07-2010 11:47 AM (14 years ago) | Grande Master
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- blessedme at 14-07-2010 11:57 AM (14 years ago)
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@flymama dnt mind him
Posted: at 14-07-2010 11:57 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Meedu at 14-07-2010 04:30 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on  9-07-2010 09:46 AM
Can you marry a single mother or a man who has a child b4
Posted: at 14-07-2010 04:30 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- agabs at 14-07-2010 06:55 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 14-07-2010 11:44 AM
Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 08:14 PM
Girls get pregnant for different reasons.

1. For show off.
2. To handcuff a guy.
3. Victim of a (user and abuser)
4. Victim of rape.
5. Victim of incest.

Can not blame them much. Can not blame them much. No data in em heads. And they think life is mills and boons.
u forgot d most important one, LOVE  Wink


@flymamacita and @blessedme, u guys make me laugh. Very laughterous. Ha ha ha haha. Pardon d contraption of a word, 'laughterous.'. Chai!

Love? You love him so u got pregnant and now you are a single mum? Ladies, please. Abeg. Pele. Yankuri!
So a girl loves a guy and throws caution to the wind? Right? And afterwards, the guy is getting married to some other chick and can not even own up. Wow!

Did d girl get pregnant to keep the guy? If she didn't the guy was using her then. Is that not number 3; victim of a user(abuser)? She was a victim of immaturity and lack of discipline period. Alright, u can go ahead and qualify her short comings or mistake with the most abused word in the world - LOVE. Ha haha haha.

@sexy23, am just saying it as it is. Most guys may not say it proper. Me cause I love typing that is why I say it so people get the point. At the end of the day, there is no such thing as being left behind. Life is not a race. And then again one may argue that it is, I guess, I compete with myself to reach my grave and with no other person.

Getting married to a single mum is complicated. For some like my, the child is not the complication. The child is not the factor. Society and self are the two pregnant factors to consider.

Life is harsh. Reality is ugly. And when she is ugly, u can't see her beauty.
=================

I think the topic for debate should be the topic below.

If ur bachelor of a son wishes to Marry a Single mum, would you encourage or discourage him?
If ur spinster of a daughter wishes to Marry a single dad, would you encourage or discourage her?

I wonder what most guys and girls would say.

Most girls may permit em daughters to marry a widower.
And I think most girls would not permit em sons to marry a widow.

@flymamacita, @blessedme, @sexy23, do I make sense?

@blessedme, @sexy23, would u not encourage ur son to get married to some young chick who has never had a child been married before? Would you not? Would you not implore your friends to advice your son if he insists? Would you not be rash towards the single mum? Would you not spread rumours of the single mum hoodwinking your son with witchcraft?

@naijapals, this is Nigeria. This is Nigeria. Let us be real. Or you guys think that when a Guy wishes to get married to a girl in Nigeria, he carries the Kola alone? Does a Nigerian man give his daughter to a man with meeting the man's relatives? Come on! Ladies, make we face this harsh reality. How many Nigerian man and Nigerian mum go permit a man to get married to a Single mum? How many? A girl can be permitted to get married to a single dad in Nigeria easily. But a guy? Now that is had.

If you are a single mum out there and some Nigerian guy is dating you in Nigeria, be very suspicious if he promises you marriage. Except his parents are very enlightened or have lost the ears of their son, do not trust all those promises.  Do not trust those promises cause mothers are very very very jealous. African mothers are very very very very very very Jealouse when it comes to their sons.


Posted: at 14-07-2010 06:55 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- FlyMamacita at 14-07-2010 07:16 PM (14 years ago)
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now u think like this, but not everybody does Wink

if my son gets older and he wanna marry anybody

of course i will meet d woman, and find out if she is
respectin my boy and is a gud woman...as long as my
child is happy, tht is ok for me... i cant make d desicion for him
Posted: at 14-07-2010 07:16 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- agabs at 14-07-2010 09:35 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on 14-07-2010 07:16 PM
now u think like this, but not everybody does Wink

if my son gets older and he wanna marry anybody

of course i will meet d woman, and find out if she is
respectin my boy and is a gud woman...as long as my
child is happy, tht is ok for me... i cant make d desicion for him


but u just one and please picture urself in Nigeria, and please put aside ur perspective and try societies perspective. That is all.

I say it like I see it and I hope4people2correct me cause am just a student of life.

flymamacita, where u are, have been trying to reach ya? ha ahahahahaah.

Wow! Wow. Time flies and time cob-webs life.

May God help me full and fill his aspirations!  Amen! Amen! Amen!
Posted: at 14-07-2010 09:35 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- blessedme at 15-07-2010 09:25 AM (14 years ago)
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@agabs u think this way and reason this way
but one thing u shold knw is that ppl are born
with different perspective and motive in life
becos mr A like meat Mr. B may nt like meat as well

In this life we are in, No one is perfect and therefore
mistakes are bound to happen, and we shold learn to embrace
the mistake inorder to pave way for corrections
it is like a rain that pour down, if it does nt get to your
roof today maybe some other time it may get to ur roof

In our society today this is what we experience in our day to day activities
It could happen to you, your future daughter, or someone very close to u
Fine! Your words are sweet but dont also forget that there shold be no discrimination in life

Despite all our mistakes and misfortune in life God still loves us
If my daughter or son find love in a single mum or dad
why will i go out of ma way to stop them in this civilized society of today?
We sure have to learn to accept our mistakes and strife for corrections
Posted: at 15-07-2010 09:25 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- agabs at 15-07-2010 11:09 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 15-07-2010 09:25 AM
@agabs u think this way and reason this way
but one thing u shold knw is that ppl are born
with different perspective and motive in life
becos mr A like meat Mr. B may nt like meat as well

In this life we are in, No one is perfect and therefore
mistakes are bound to happen, and we shold learn to embrace
the mistake inorder to pave way for corrections
it is like a rain that pour down, if it does nt get to your
roof today maybe some other time it may get to ur roof

In our society today this is what we experience in our day to day activities
It could happen to you, your future daughter, or someone very close to u
Fine! Your words are sweet but dont also forget that there shold be no discrimination in life

Despite all our mistakes and misfortune in life God still loves us
If my daughter or son find love in a single mum or dad
why will i go out of ma way to stop them in this civilized society of today?
We sure have to learn to accept our mistakes and strife for corrections

but u just one and please picture urself in Nigeria, and please put aside ur perspective and try societies perspective. That is all.

I say it like I see it and I hope4people2correct me cause am just a student of life.

Naija is still not that civilized yet o000! Cause, we are on the internet doesn't mean Naija is civilized. Internet na still very big thing for Naija oo00! Hmn! Hmn!

It sounds easy at first, I think you should have this discussion with the average Nigerian mum. That is what I advice. I think their opinion on this matter is very important. African men listen to their mothers. Especially when it comes to wife matters.

@Blessedme, let us stare at reality in the face. Naija is not as civilized as you think. Though one may argue that civilization is relative.
Posted: at 15-07-2010 11:09 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- blessedme at 15-07-2010 11:38 AM (14 years ago)
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The societies doesnt make us but rather we make the societies
it is the perspective of oneself that makes a society
so therefore we delibrate on one perspective, reasons and motives about life

Talking about civilization, Nigeria may not be really civilized as u say
But i bet wit u that we are growing everyday by d tick of the clock
new things are happening

When it comes to intervention, when the children find love
in each other no intervention will make them quit
coz love is a very strong force that cannot be wave just like dat

Cheers guy
Posted: at 15-07-2010 11:38 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- plainheart at 15-07-2010 12:10 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: agabs on 14-07-2010 06:55 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on 14-07-2010 11:44 AM
Quote from: agabs on 13-07-2010 08:14 PM
Girls get pregnant for different reasons.

1. For show off.
2. To handcuff a guy.
3. Victim of a (user and abuser)
4. Victim of rape.
5. Victim of incest.

Can not blame them much. Can not blame them much. No data in em heads. And they think life is mills and boons.
u forgot d most important one, LOVE  Wink


@flymamacita and @blessedme, u guys make me laugh. Very laughterous. Ha ha ha haha. Pardon d contraption of a word, 'laughterous.'. Chai!

Love? You love him so u got pregnant and now you are a single mum? Ladies, please. Abeg. Pele. Yankuri!
So a girl loves a guy and throws caution to the wind? Right? And afterwards, the guy is getting married to some other chick and can not even own up. Wow!

Did d girl get pregnant to keep the guy? If she didn't the guy was using her then. Is that not number 3; victim of a user(abuser)? She was a victim of immaturity and lack of discipline period. Alright, u can go ahead and qualify her short comings or mistake with the most abused word in the world - LOVE. Ha haha haha.

@sexy23, am just saying it as it is. Most guys may not say it proper. Me cause I love typing that is why I say it so people get the point. At the end of the day, there is no such thing as being left behind. Life is not a race. And then again one may argue that it is, I guess, I compete with myself to reach my grave and with no other person.

Getting married to a single mum is complicated. For some like my, the child is not the complication. The child is not the factor. Society and self are the two pregnant factors to consider.

Life is harsh. Reality is ugly. And when she is ugly, u can't see her beauty.
=================

I think the topic for debate should be the topic below.

If ur bachelor of a son wishes to Marry a Single mum, would you encourage or discourage him?
If ur spinster of a daughter wishes to Marry a single dad, would you encourage or discourage her?

I wonder what most guys and girls would say.

Most girls may permit em daughters to marry a widower.
And I think most girls would not permit em sons to marry a widow.

@flymamacita, @blessedme, @sexy23, do I make sense?

@blessedme, @sexy23, would u not encourage ur son to get married to some young chick who has never had a child been married before? Would you not? Would you not implore your friends to advice your son if he insists? Would you not be rash towards the single mum? Would you not spread rumours of the single mum hoodwinking your son with witchcraft?

@naijapals, this is Nigeria. This is Nigeria. Let us be real. Or you guys think that when a Guy wishes to get married to a girl in Nigeria, he carries the Kola alone? Does a Nigerian man give his daughter to a man with meeting the man's relatives? Come on! Ladies, make we face this harsh reality. How many Nigerian man and Nigerian mum go permit a man to get married to a Single mum? How many? A girl can be permitted to get married to a single dad in Nigeria easily. But a guy? Now that is had.

If you are a single mum out there and some Nigerian guy is dating you in Nigeria, be very suspicious if he promises you marriage. Except his parents are very enlightened or have lost the ears of their son, do not trust all those promises.  Do not trust those promises cause mothers are very very very jealous. African mothers are very very very very very very Jealouse when it comes to their sons.




I think U are making sense.

As far as I'm concerned I can marry a single father only if the wife is dead (a widower) but never prayed my son/daughter should marry a widower/widow let out a single mother/father. I think that is my opinion.
Posted: at 15-07-2010 12:10 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ajanni at 15-07-2010 12:34 PM (14 years ago)
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ok
Posted: at 15-07-2010 12:34 PM (14 years ago) | Grande Master
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- agabs at 15-07-2010 01:32 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 15-07-2010 11:38 AM
The societies doesnt make us but rather we make the societies
it is the perspective of oneself that makes a society
so therefore we delibrate on one perspective, reasons and motives about life

Talking about civilization, Nigeria may not be really civilized as u say
But i bet wit u that we are growing everyday by d tick of the clock
new things are happening

When it comes to intervention, when the children find love
in each other no intervention will make them quit
coz love is a very strong force that cannot be wave just like dat

Cheers guy

am cheerfully laughing. Ha ah ah ah ah. Stubborn girl. No give your parents heart attack oo00! @blessedme, are you a single mum?
Posted: at 15-07-2010 01:32 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- blessedme at 15-07-2010 02:08 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: agabs on 15-07-2010 01:32 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 15-07-2010 11:38 AM
The societies doesnt make us but rather we make the societies
it is the perspective of oneself that makes a society
so therefore we delibrate on one perspective, reasons and motives about life

Talking about civilization, Nigeria may not be really civilized as u say
But i bet wit u that we are growing everyday by d tick of the clock
new things are happening

When it comes to intervention, when the children find love
in each other no intervention will make them quit
coz love is a very strong force that cannot be wave just like dat

Cheers guy

am cheerfully laughing. Ha ah ah ah ah. Stubborn girl. No give your parents heart attack oo00! @blessedme, are you a single mum?

No i am not a single mother,
why do u asked?
Posted: at 15-07-2010 02:08 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- agabs at 15-07-2010 02:19 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 15-07-2010 02:08 PM
Quote from: agabs on 15-07-2010 01:32 PM
Quote from: blessedme on 15-07-2010 11:38 AM
The societies doesnt make us but rather we make the societies
it is the perspective of oneself that makes a society
so therefore we delibrate on one perspective, reasons and motives about life

Talking about civilization, Nigeria may not be really civilized as u say
But i bet wit u that we are growing everyday by d tick of the clock
new things are happening

When it comes to intervention, when the children find love
in each other no intervention will make them quit
coz love is a very strong force that cannot be wave just like dat

Cheers guy

am cheerfully laughing. Ha ah ah ah ah. Stubborn girl. No give your parents heart attack oo00! @blessedme, are you a single mum?

No i am not a single mother,
why do u asked?

Isn't it obvious? The way you have been like crusading the rights of single parents made me ask if u are a single mum. Nothing do single parents. Society na very big wahalla.
Posted: at 15-07-2010 02:19 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- blessedme at 15-07-2010 02:24 PM (14 years ago)
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yea but i just feel everyone are equal in d sight of God
only we, the humans try to discriminate
and which is not suppose to be so
Posted: at 15-07-2010 02:24 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 15-07-2010 03:47 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 15-07-2010 09:25 AM
@agabs u think this way and reason this way
but one thing u shold knw is that ppl are born
with different perspective and motive in life
becos mr A like meat Mr. B may nt like meat as well

In this life we are in, No one is perfect and therefore
mistakes are bound to happen, and we shold learn to embrace
the mistake inorder to pave way for corrections
it is like a rain that pour down, if it does nt get to your
roof today maybe some other time it may get to ur roof

In our society today this is what we experience in our day to day activities
It could happen to you, your future daughter, or someone very close to u
Fine! Your words are sweet but dont also forget that there shold be no discrimination in life

Despite all our mistakes and misfortune in life God still loves us
If my daughter or son find love in a single mum or dad
why will i go out of ma way to stop them in this civilized society of today?
We sure have to learn to accept our mistakes and strife for corrections
this na very true talk !!
Posted: at 15-07-2010 03:47 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- blessedme at 15-07-2010 04:02 PM (14 years ago)
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my girl thanks! but @agabs don surrender
Posted: at 15-07-2010 04:02 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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