Posted: at | |
| |||||
Quote from: dupsy2smile on 16-08-2010 01:55 PM We shouldnt pretend like dis doesnt happen. A friend of mine was in a r/tnship wit a guy who promised her marriage. She gave him her whole heart and was committed to d r/ltnship. On different occassions, d guy borrowed some good sum of money from her. She at times used 2 give him money without him asking jst 2 assist him if he's broke. Now, the guy has ended the r/ltnship wit her 'cos he found sumone else, though she tried 2 let him go on a peaceful note. She kept quiet bout d money he's owing her 'cos she's so hurt, she doesnt knw if asking him bout it wud hurt her more, esp if d guy ignores her or doesnt give it 2 her. The guy on his own part jst kept quiet bout it too as if he didnt collect anytin from her. Sum guys can be callous, u know. Wen she opened up to me and sum of her friends, dey called her a fool for ever helpin a guy wit cash. But i dont tink she's foolish, or is she? Its more dan 6 months now and she needs d money, but doesnt want 2 hurt her feelings, since she has not fully gotten over d break-up. So, my fellow NaijaPals, Is it possible 2 get ur money back(I mean only the ones he borrowed) with peace after break-up? and Is there anytin bad/wrong/foolish in givin/lending ur b/f money? Pls i nid candid advice on this. wen one opens his/her mouth to ask for a loan, doesn't matter the r/s. it is a verbal contract that needs to be paid back as agreed. it is even more shameful if that guy is waiting for her to ask him for it. he has no self respect and dignity at all. and there's nothing wrong in wot she did, even credit to her for having such a kind heart.
| |||||
Quote from: youngk on 19-08-2010 09:51 AM ok oooo well i think she has 2 consider certain tins b4 asking 4 her money; does d guy hv a job? is he capabl of payin back? Is he d responsibl type dat really pays his debts without causin problems? will refusin 2 pay her hurt her feeling? I tink if she can answer dese questions honestly, she'd be in a postion 2 knw if she shud go ahead or nt.@poster what's ur advice to ur friend? But na wa 4 u sef o! I dey ask sumtin, u kan dey ask me bak, wetin be ya own sef?[/color][/font][/size]
| |||||
Nothing bad in helping others. The girl shd ask for her money. Reply
| |||||
Quote from: Michro on 21-08-2010 03:55 PM Well it's a painful xperience. yeah indeed The guy must be an ingrate
| |||||
Quote from: laydeelaracraft on 18-08-2010 05:13 PM Quote from: dupsy2smile on 18-08-2010 04:02 PM Quote from: laydeelaracraft on 18-08-2010 03:45 PM Quote from: dupsy2smile on 16-08-2010 01:55 PM We shouldnt pretend like dis doesnt happen. A friend of mine was in a r/tnship wit a guy who promised her marriage. She gave him her whole heart and was committed to d r/ltnship. On different occassions, d guy borrowed some good sum of money from her. She at times used 2 give him money without him asking jst 2 assist him if he's broke. Now, the guy has ended the r/ltnship wit her 'cos he found sumone else, though she tried 2 let him go on a peaceful note. She kept quiet bout d money he's owing her 'cos she's so hurt, she doesnt knw if asking him bout it wud hurt her more, esp if d guy ignores her or doesnt give it 2 her. The guy on his own part jst kept quiet bout it too as if he didnt collect anytin from her. Sum guys can be callous, u know. Wen she opened up to me and sum of her friends, dey called her a fool for ever helpin a guy wit cash. But i dont tink she's foolish, or is she? Its more dan 6 months now and she needs d money, but doesnt want 2 hurt her feelings, since she has not fully gotten over d break-up. So, my fellow NaijaPals, Is it possible 2 get ur money back(I mean only the ones he borrowed) with peace after break-up? and Is there anytin bad/wrong/foolish in givin/lending ur b/f money? Pls i nid candid advice on this. b careful though, ur frn myt just b saving face.....there had been cases wen money / things were freely given as a gift wen blinded by lurve. In other to save face n not to be labelled as a mungun................................. am only asking you so that u dont get involved n find out diff versions of the truth....I have gotten involved in stuff lyk this with my sis/ frns thinking yawagogas only to find out that ma girl held bck frm me n trust me u wudnt like it esp wen the b*****d in question cant wipe that smug look off his face.... c the reaction of most of the gals here, thats they image the wanna portray thats how stong most of us want to b but sumtimes we lose that wen we meet the ryt guys, but all is well if that guy genuinely care n doesnt exploit dat
| |||||
[/quote] wen one opens his/her mouth to ask for a loan, doesn't matter the r/s. it is a verbal contract that needs to be paid back as agreed. it is even more shameful if that guy is waiting for her to ask him for it. he has no self respect and dignity at all. and there's nothing wrong in wot she did, even credit to her for having such a kind heart. [/quote]....yeah, jst dat she was being nice 2 d wrong prsn. d guy doesnt worth her luv n care.
| |||||
Quote from: naturalqueen on 18-08-2010 02:03 PM Actually, the man is not matured. He knew the girl loved him and decided to take advantage of her bcos he had programmed in his mind that she will soon leave. That's why he is acting like nothing happened. He never loved her. Meanwhile a man who loves a woman won't seek to collect the little she has, but give hr. I don't mean that it is bad giving to ur boyfriend, but, this guy is actually callous and a cheat. On tehother way round, the girl gave him some of these monies as her hearty gift to him because of the love she had for him. I think for those ones, she should just let go, but for those ones he borrowed, he should just be sincere with his conscience and pay her back. If he refuses, the girl should leave him to God! God will judge him. I hate people who take advantage of people. ...and d most painfl part of it is dat he doesnt have conscience, i mean hw can a man break a lady's hrt and yet do notin 2 pay her back d money he borrowed? hw does he xpect her 2 bear all dat, he must be without conscience.
| |||||
Quote from: naturalqueen on 18-08-2010 02:03 PM Actually, the man is not matured. He knew the girl loved him and decided to take advantage of her bcos he had programmed in his mind that she will soon leave. That's why he is acting like nothing happened. He never loved her. Meanwhile a man who loves a woman won't seek to collect the little she has, but give hr. I don't mean that it is bad giving to ur boyfriend, but, this guy is actually callous and a cheat. On tehother way round, the girl gave him some of these monies as her hearty gift to him because of the love she had for him. I think for those ones, she should just let go, but for those ones he borrowed, he should just be sincere with his conscience and pay her back. If he refuses, the girl should leave him to God! God will judge him. I hate people who take advantage of people. ...and d most painfl part of it is dat he doesnt have conscience, i mean hw can a man break a lady's hrt and yet do notin 2 pay her back d money he borrowed? hw does he xpect her 2 bear all dat, he must be without conscience.
| |||||
@poster tell ur friend to forget about the money cause she did not ask for her money when she was in love so why now?to me i belive she use the money to help the guy at the hard time unfortunately the guy break up with her that is the reason why she's asking back of her money Reply![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
| |||||
Ok,he must pay back to have his peace or burn his car if has one. Reply
| |||||
not only the glasses burst the tyre. he is an untrained idiot, motor park tout. Pls collect ur money by fire by force. Reply
| |||||
Quote from: snedy on 20-09-2010 11:44 AM not only the glasses burst the tyre. he is an untrained idiot, motor park tout. Pls collect ur money by fire by force. she wants 2 collect it peacefully
| |||||
dere is no big deal in dat,tellher 2 request for her money.. Reply
| |||||
Certain contributors spoke reasonably, others without an iota of doubt weren't objective. Every story should come from both sides, this story is from d lady, did any of the ladies friends hear from the guy? cast a stone cast a stone he who is without sin be the first. am not perturbed what the outcome is but if in cause of the relationship the guy never gave her money, then that is cruel cos in every relationship only the lady lends, the guy doesn't lend cos wateva a guy gives in a relationship he never gets it back. ReplyBreak his glass, windscreen, side mirrors, his head, dick wateva all those are wicked mallicious statements coming from ladies who re guile. i will insist if in cause of the relationship he neva gave, then he is wicked.
| |||||
Quote from: divineproject on 16-08-2010 02:00 PM Whatever was borrowed was meant to be returned............let her go ahead and ask for what she lent him.............it is hers and she shouldnt fear about asking for it.............and I dont see anything wrong in helping a friend, be that friend male or female........... I Love you for the reply
| |||||
Quote from: aokeke7 on 6-10-2010 02:06 PM Certain contributors spoke reasonably, others without an iota of doubt weren't objective. Every story should come from both sides, this story is from d lady, did any of the ladies friends hear from the guy? cast a stone cast a stone he who is without sin be the first. am not perturbed what the outcome is but if in cause of the relationship the guy never gave her money, then that is cruel cos in every relationship only the lady lends, the guy doesn't lend cos wateva a guy gives in a relationship he never gets it back. maybe u dont get it. She said d guy borrowed it 4rm her and promisd payin back. Break his glass, windscreen, side mirrors, his head, ***** wateva all those are wicked mallicious statements coming from ladies who re guile. i will insist if in cause of the relationship he neva gave, then he is wicked.
| |||||
I BOROWD DV IDEA...LET HER GO AHEAD AND DEMAND 4 HER MONEY COS HE BOROD IT FROM HER AND MUST PAY BACK....LET HIM PAY BAK HIS DEBT...D BABE DID NT DO HIM ANY BAD......BESIDS SHE WAS NOT D LIABL 4 D BRAKUP..........AS FOR ME THERE IS NOTIN WRONG ASSIST A MAN WHOM U BLIV WIL B YOURS IN FUTUR....BUT AT D SAME TIM ONE NEEDS TO B REASONABL.......EVRTIN HAS LIMIT...BABES USE YA HEAD WELL OOOO..... Reply
| |||||
Quote from: Akpan01 on 16-08-2010 03:03 PM haba this man no be mature guy...how can he chop woman money and act like nothin--is that mature ke?? Abi oooooooooo.............chop the woman money join with the woman and still dey owe the woman.Na wahhhhhhhhhh
| |||||
SHE SHOULD LEARN 4RM HER MISTAKES.............. Reply
|
Lawyers Hail Akpabio For Stepping Down From Sexual Harassment Probe Panel
Radiogad Raises Alarm Over Activist VeryDarkman’s Health After Efcc Detention
Overcrowding or Low Turnout? - Wizkid’s Show In Berlin Cancelled Days After Toronto Failed
VIDEO; Reactions As Peller And Jarvis Arrive In Dubai For Streamer’s 20th Birthday
Police Arrest Suspected Ritualist With Human Organs In Lagos
“I Love You”: Omah Lay Declares As His Featured Track off Davido’s New Album Goes Platinum
One Killed As Security Operatives Battle Gunmen Who Allegedly Killed Travellers In Imo
Teenager, Lawal Hameedat Drags JAMB To Court Over Hijab Ban During UTME
"You Won’t Find Better Partner Than Nigeria" – Tinubu Welcomes Qatari Investment
Southampton v Manchester City: UEFA Champions League Semi-Final Match,Team News,Goal Scorers &
Benue In Uproar As Leaked Adult Videos Spark Outrage, Calls For Arrests
18Yr Old Boy Impregnates 10 Girls, Including His Boss' Daughter After He Was Sent To Learn A
103 Virgin Girls Initiated Into Womanhood At Ovia Osese Festival In Kogi State (Photos)
"Many Have Suffered From Stroke" -Pastor Oyakhilome’s Sermon On Salt Sparks Heated Debate (Vid)
VDM And I Are Officially Married - Actress Sarah Martins Drops Bombshell
LA HOTTIE! Davido’s Wife, Chioma Adeleke, Flaunts Her Hot Bod In Lovely New Photos
"Why I Would Choose Davido Over Burnaboy, Wizkid" – Singer, Zinoleesky
'Some Men Are Praying For Their Wives To Die So They Can Marry Another' -Nigerian Man Blows Hot
Nollywood Star, Uche Ogbodo Undergoes 'BBL & Tummy Tuck'; Shares Recovery Journey (Video)