IS IT FOOLISH TO GIVE/LEND UR B/F MONEY? AFTER BREAK-UP, CAN U STILL ASK 4 IT?

Published 8 years ago by: Dupsy Mike
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at 01:55 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)

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We shouldnt pretend like dis doesnt happen. A friend of mine was in a r/tnship wit a guy who promised her marriage. She gave him her whole heart and was committed to d r/ltnship. On different occassions, d guy borrowed some good sum of money from her. She at times used 2 give him money without him asking jst 2 assist him if he's broke. Now, the guy has ended the r/ltnship wit her 'cos he found sumone else, though she tried 2 let him go on a peaceful note. She kept quiet bout d money he's owing her 'cos she's so hurt, she doesnt knw if asking him bout it wud hurt her more, esp if d guy ignores her or doesnt give it 2 her. The guy on his own part jst kept quiet bout it too as if he didnt collect anytin from her. Sum guys can be callous, u know. Wen she opened up to me and sum of her friends, dey called her a fool for ever helpin a guy wit cash. But i dont tink she's foolish, or is she? Its more dan 6 months now and she needs d money, but doesnt want 2 hurt her feelings, since she has not fully gotten over d break-up.
So, my fellow NaijaPals, Is it possible 2 get ur money back(I mean only the ones he borrowed) with peace after break-up? and Is there anytin bad/wrong/foolish in givin/lending ur b/f money? Pls i nid candid advice on this.

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divineproject at 02:00 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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Whatever was borrowed was meant to be returned............let her go ahead and ask for what she lent him.............it is hers and she shouldnt fear about asking for it.............and I dont see anything wrong in helping a friend, be that friend male or female...........

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bittersweet at 02:07 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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I don't think it's foolish to borrow him money, but he should have enough dignity and to not ask from her!
Anyway, she should ask for her money, if he lacks common sense and he didn't return it till now!

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omorewa at 02:24 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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what she did is normal........... she should ask for her money back......

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dupsy2smile at 02:36 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: divineproject on 02:00 PM, 16/08/2010
Whatever was borrowed was meant to be returned............let her go ahead and ask for what she lent him.............it is hers and she shouldnt fear about asking for it.............and I dont see anything wrong in helping a friend, be that friend male or female...........
wat if d guy starts givin her excuses, dnt u tink it wil open old wounds?
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Akpan01 at 02:39 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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let her friends get back her money....no pity for this A*#S

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temi07 at 02:44 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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First, do they both understand that he borrowed the money because he might just think she gave it to him as a gift to help him out. Now, if she really wants her money back she needs to stop playing nice and treat his arse to some royal embarrassment, well only after she asks first and he refuses ofcourse.
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Akpan01 at 02:45 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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true

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sophiebaby at 02:48 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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collect ya money with power

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Akpan01 at 02:51 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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and baseball stick..if he no give u break his car or bike looooool

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sophiebaby at 02:56 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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nak am for the windscreen, and all the motor glasses

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Akpan01 at 02:58 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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yess oooo

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esonu at 03:01 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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hmmmmmm well let her approach de guy, try to talk to him in a calmed way, i guess if it is a matured guy, he wouldnt mind remitting de debt cos if he doesnt, whatever curse de gurl lays on him will work so long as de gurl didnt disappoint him in any way

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sophiebaby at 03:02 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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speaking frm xperience

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Akpan01 at 03:03 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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Quote from: esonu on 03:01 PM, 16/08/2010
hmmmmmm well let her approach de guy, try to talk to him in a calmed way, i guess if it is a matured guy, he wouldnt mind remitting de debt cos if he doesnt, whatever curse de gurl lays on him will work so long as de gurl didnt disappoint him in any way
haba this man no be mature guy...how can he chop woman money and act like nothin--is that mature ke??

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onchedu at 03:04 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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As a principle it's best to only give what U do not mind "loosing." Hardly works out perfectly in practice but we could try.

If U've given someone dear to U smth... let it go.
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Akpan01 at 03:06 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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na lieee o..go and break him head wella xdxdxd

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blessedme at 03:07 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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if i was d one i would collect to the last kobo of ma money even b4 d breakup
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esonu at 03:07 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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lolz

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tinglebell at 03:09 PM, 16/08/2010 (8 years ago)
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she sud collect her money back nd stop forming mrs nice ....times are hard o
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