![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 8-02-2011 05:16 PM (13 years ago)  (m) you think is easy to look to the eyes to someone you love,cherish and care so much (unconditionally), if she cheat on you @DK ..My answer is capital NO!!
I think its high time we start looking at things in reality perspective and stop all this fantasy and computer answers.
I understand you, but i ask again in this issue, where is the LOVE we preach often ? is very difficult situation here, but in the sense that the guy Loves her so much and is seeking what to do not to still loose her or hurt her, What has happened has happened, and mind you, she was the one that came to confess her deeds, not that the guy find-out that. Have you forgotten that she even has the power to still keep it secret. Now let me answer you this in my own way, if is me been this guy, I will forgive her and even ask her why she tell me that after she knew that she can keep it secret ? I tell you what bro, like i always say... The day a man sign his marriage register and wear his lady ring, take the oath by saying Yes I do !! it takes allot bro !! It means you're fully ready against the odds, and also means the day you sign your life into another living things hand. What kills a man faster and easier is what comes out of him. thank GOD you mention the words in Red by yourself..the word " LOVE" has been misuse and misinterpreted by so many people.. if the wife love her husband so much,she won't even have that thought in her mind in the first place,not to talk of having the intention or committing adultery.. it wonders me, when i came across some funny statement here on this forum,that she revealed the secret by herself,meaning she love her husband that's why she did so,makes me sick in my stomach. i can't understand when you love someone and you get that intention to cheat him/her.LOVE should be seen as a strong word that can resist infidelities .not otherwise Bro! Of course, you're right with those words i mark with Red... But let me tell you brother, Men is also included in the ones misusing that word LOVE. no one is perfect like i said earlier. But what matters is when one could that is mis-using it will realize this and wants to repent of the misuse and keep it clean. Even the book of all Books says, There is celebration in heaven when one of the sinners repent and wants to embrace the light by turning away from all his/her sins, thru confessing their sins and repent of them. Are we better than God in Judgement?? What will you say of those Men and Women, that cheat terribly and still come back home screaming I love you, I love you all over the apartment as if they mean it, While some men into the act will be on top another woman, speaking on the phone to their wife at home and still use the word, I love you and I miss you ? Anyway, like i said, We are all differ in life, Like me i respect Honest people, If i'm this Guy, i will forgive her and take her to a short surprise romantic trip to assure her that i forgive her truly, because Women will always doubt things, no matter what, but for her telling me this, makes me feel more confident with her, no matter how mad/angry i am with the news in first place.  you are too funny with some of your statement..of course i know it's applies to both gender,no one is immune from it. i know no one is perfect,and pls don't get me wrong the wife did the right thing after realizing her mistake.but even you and i will feel hurt in the first place after hearing such confession. is now depends on the handling of the aftermath that count.
mature mind will accept their wife back and makes it easy for her to forget all her wrong did,whereby doing her so many romantic stuff. 
Of course no one will celebrate hearing such news, is worth been angry for that. But i'm glad you get to understand my points here. with the words in Blue. Mature understanding Minds !! the basic of this post is to help pick the best solution for the them. and thats what we are suppose to be done !! Assist with our little ideas.
The Key to make all issues that look bad to be best, is Making use of disadvantages of other people's failure and turn them into Advantages for better result. We all can't be walking the same disadvantage lane. because many fail there.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 8-02-2011 05:16 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "diplomatik") diplomatik at 8-02-2011 05:25 PM (13 years ago) (f) Kai..u guys go soon write bk..lol i'm still reading 
u've seen me right?  i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either  , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool | Posted: at 8-02-2011 05:25 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 8-02-2011 05:33 PM (13 years ago) (m) you think is easy to look to the eyes to someone you love,cherish and care so much (unconditionally), if she cheat on you @DK ..My answer is capital NO!!
I think its high time we start looking at things in reality perspective and stop all this fantasy and computer answers.
I understand you, but i ask again in this issue, where is the LOVE we preach often ? is very difficult situation here, but in the sense that the guy Loves her so much and is seeking what to do not to still loose her or hurt her, What has happened has happened, and mind you, she was the one that came to confess her deeds, not that the guy find-out that. Have you forgotten that she even has the power to still keep it secret. Now let me answer you this in my own way, if is me been this guy, I will forgive her and even ask her why she tell me that after she knew that she can keep it secret ? I tell you what bro, like i always say... The day a man sign his marriage register and wear his lady ring, take the oath by saying Yes I do !! it takes allot bro !! It means you're fully ready against the odds, and also means the day you sign your life into another living things hand. What kills a man faster and easier is what comes out of him. thank GOD you mention the words in Red by yourself..the word " LOVE" has been misuse and misinterpreted by so many people.. if the wife love her husband so much,she won't even have that thought in her mind in the first place,not to talk of having the intention or committing adultery.. it wonders me, when i came across some funny statement here on this forum,that she revealed the secret by herself,meaning she love her husband that's why she did so,makes me sick in my stomach. i can't understand when you love someone and you get that intention to cheat him/her.LOVE should be seen as a strong word that can resist infidelities .not otherwise Bro! Of course, you're right with those words i mark with Red... But let me tell you brother, Men is also included in the ones misusing that word LOVE. no one is perfect like i said earlier. But what matters is when one could that is mis-using it will realize this and wants to repent of the misuse and keep it clean. Even the book of all Books says, There is celebration in heaven when one of the sinners repent and wants to embrace the light by turning away from all his/her sins, thru confessing their sins and repent of them. Are we better than God in Judgement?? What will you say of those Men and Women, that cheat terribly and still come back home screaming I love you, I love you all over the apartment as if they mean it, While some men into the act will be on top another woman, speaking on the phone to their wife at home and still use the word, I love you and I miss you ? Anyway, like i said, We are all differ in life, Like me i respect Honest people, If i'm this Guy, i will forgive her and take her to a short surprise romantic trip to assure her that i forgive her truly, because Women will always doubt things, no matter what, but for her telling me this, makes me feel more confident with her, no matter how mad/angry i am with the news in first place. you are too funny with some of your statement..of course i know it's applies to both gender,no one is immune from it. i know no one is perfect,and pls don't get me wrong the wife did the right thing after realizing her mistake.but even you and i will feel hurt in the first place after hearing such confession. is now depends on the handling of the aftermath that count.
mature mind will accept their wife back and makes it easy for her to forget all her wrong did,whereby doing her so many romantic stuff. Of course no one will celebrate hearing such news, is worth been angry for that. But i'm glad you get to understand my points here. with the words in Blue. Mature understanding Minds !! the basic of this post is to help pick the best solution for the them. and thats what we are suppose to be done !! Assist with our little ideas. The key to make all issues that look bad to be best,is making use of disadvantages of other people's failure and turn them into advantages for better result. . We all can't be walking the same disadvantage lane. because many fail there. gbam!!you are quite right about the words in red.of course i finally understand your points.i think this forum is called "discussion forum" so that's why we have to utter our difference for us to put an "insight" on it,in order for use to gain one or two things from each others.. yeah! the basic of the post is to help pick the best solution for them.i only dislike when some people(not you) think they know it all.that their comments are the best solution to an issue without discussing it or have some back up proof to their claims.neeh! it doesn't work that way. | Posted: at 8-02-2011 05:33 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 8-02-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago) (m) Kai..u guys go soon write bk..lol i'm still reading   | Posted: at 8-02-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 8-02-2011 05:37 PM (13 years ago) (m) You too much Bro !! i also respect your views about issues. Keep rocking, Nothing do you !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 8-02-2011 05:37 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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@ Poster Just tell her to be prayerful, prayer can change any tyn... | Posted: at 8-02-2011 05:49 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "TOCHI4LOVE") TOCHI4LOVE at 8-02-2011 06:11 PM (13 years ago) (m) STILL READING | Posted: at 8-02-2011 06:11 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "Kennee") Kennee at 8-02-2011 06:33 PM (13 years ago) (m) he can definitely forgive her...since she confessed herself with nobody knowing she cheated on him, she's ready to be faithful cos she can actually keep it as a top secret...but it is a pity for her...may God help and heal the wound of the man
Who told yu Nobody knew? She Only Confessed cos Somebody knew If Nobody knew, that Woman will Carry the Evil Burden to her Grave
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE | Posted: at 8-02-2011 06:33 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "Kennee") Kennee at 8-02-2011 06:49 PM (13 years ago) (m) A friend of mine is in agony. He needs your advise on what he should do.
His wife has just made a confession, a blood-chilling confession - She cheated on him. He has been away from home on an assignment. He has been a good father and husband. He has been faced with temptation from women but has never cheated on his wife. He has trusted her, now that trust has been dealt a shattering blow. This has just happened - only yesterday. He is devastated. He needs advice as to how to get over this trying moment. He still loves his wife but how can he trust her again? He is not considering divorce but He wants to know how to get over this.
Please your kind advice would help. Please this is a true life story and you could be touching a life with your response(s). Thanks a zillion!
Can't Advise him, cos if l was in his Shoes, l can never Forgive dat Woman Infact she will go very soon WELLSAID AND SUPPORTED Brothers !! If you truly Love someone so much, You will not allow her to even leave that house, no matter what she did. Someone mentioned about one of them leaving the apartment until the situation is calmed. I said No to that.. is not wise to do so, They should try as much as possible to settle that issue within days. is not something an outsider should come into. Many advices will mislead them, and letting any of them out of the house will lead to more temptation. As adult, hubby and wify, living under the same roof for sometimes, they should settle that amicably and in a mature way. As Seriously as l See Marriage, l Will NEVER Take that Thing Called Cheating Lightly Yes, she might have an Excuse, but l'm for myself and l know dat l will Never give My Wife the Chance to use/make dat Excuse The Man in Question here might have Pushed her to it tho, but l'm speaking for myself
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE | Posted: at 8-02-2011 06:49 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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You MEN need 2 shut the HELL UP!!!
Y did she cheat?
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 8-02-2011 06:49 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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A friend of mine is in agony. He needs your advise on what he should do.
His wife has just made a confession, a blood-chilling confession - She cheated on him. He has been away from home on an assignment. He has been a good father and husband. He has been faced with temptation from women but has never cheated on his wife. He has trusted her, now that trust has been dealt a shattering blow. This has just happened - only yesterday. He is devastated. He needs advice as to how to get over this trying moment. He still loves his wife but how can he trust her again? He is not considering divorce but He wants to know how to get over this.
Please your kind advice would help. Please this is a true life story and you could be touching a life with your response(s). Thanks a zillion!
Do they have children?how long have they been married?
& wat are the circumstances surrounding the cheating?i mean what has lead for her to cheat?
DID HE DO ANYTHING WRONG?
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 8-02-2011 06:52 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "dd4life") dd4life at 8-02-2011 06:58 PM (13 years ago) (f) Please tell him to forgive her since she made the confession herself and not caught in the forbidden act. | Posted: at 8-02-2011 06:58 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "SNYPER") SNYPER at 8-02-2011 07:04 PM (13 years ago) (m) WELL I FINK D MAN SHLD FOLLOW HIS HEART BCOS I DON'T PRAY 4 DIS KIND SITUATION AT AAALLLLLLLLLL. IT HURTS U KNOW :'(. | Posted: at 8-02-2011 07:04 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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WELL I FINK D MAN SHLD FOLLOW HIS HEART BCOS I DON'T PRAY 4 DIS KIND SITUATION AT AAALLLLLLLLLL. IT HURTS U KNOW :'(.
U don feel am b4...
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 8-02-2011 07:12 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "supernedee") supernedee at 8-02-2011 07:24 PM (13 years ago) (m) .............. | Posted: at 8-02-2011 07:24 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie | |
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If you can't forgive, let go.
When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. If you continue to throw this in your partner's face, you will eventually run him/her off. Ask yourself if this is going to be a life sentence for your partner. Can you heal from this and forgive? If not, don't continue to live in anger and/or be with someone who causes you pain.
I agree with yu babes! a frn confessed to her bf and they got back together. He still doesnt trust her 2 years later and it is pure agony for her. | Posted: at 8-02-2011 07:29 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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let him stop crying joo his own is not the worst some women cheat on thier husband severally without even telling him some even get pregnant for another man in thier husbands house some sleep with small boys at the expense of thier husbands hard earned money she didnt do anything hilarous anything that has not been done she is a very good woman thats why she opened up cos she regrets her action adultery is aspirit tellher to pray and ffast to GOD for him to deliver her of that spirit
doesnt justify her behaviour... | Posted: at 8-02-2011 07:30 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "Kennee") Kennee at 8-02-2011 07:40 PM (13 years ago) (m) If you can't forgive, let go.
When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. If you continue to throw this in your partner's face, you will eventually run him/her off. Ask yourself if this is going to be a life sentence for your partner. Can you heal from this and forgive? If not, don't continue to live in anger and/or be with someone who causes you pain.
I agree with yu babes! a frn confessed to her bf and they got back together. He still doesnt trust her 2 years later and it is pure agony for her. Exactly! Stuff like dat is hard to Forget
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE | Posted: at 8-02-2011 07:40 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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