Extended family gives an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..."

Date: 12-08-2011 6:41 pm (12 years ago) | Author: Darky
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- at 12-08-2011 06:41 PM (12 years ago)
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Guys, regards to you all. I have been informed of another issue I want u all 2 share ur wise opinions with me.



An Igbo lady studied law at the University and was lucky 2 graduate at an early age, so she went on to get her masters, did her Bar exams and was just planning 2 get in for her PhD when her Extended family screamed with an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else or else...". No woman should be unmarried at your age (at this time she was just under 31). She didn't pay them much attention until they started putting pressure on her parents and holding meetings behind her parents back.....
They kept asking what she was getting all the education for and that too much book was not good 4 a woman. Anyway, its really bad 4 her now because they have managed 2 incite her immediate family against her saying its evil spirit and now she is being threatened 2 choose between going 4 her PhD or getting married.
What should she do? Fellows you all can comment now....


Posted: at 12-08-2011 06:41 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
- maryclaret at 12-08-2011 07:26 PM (12 years ago)
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That's culture for you. But really, I think it's timid behavior at work. It's really up to the woman. No one should pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do. Maybe she hasn't found someone she feels she can settle down with. Meanwhile on her education, THERE IS ABSOULUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! If she is lucky, she may even find someone who will support her all the way. Also, one has to bear in mind that marriage is not for everyone!! (Not speaking directly about her since I don't know the person in question)

Posted: at 12-08-2011 07:26 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- toibeli at 12-08-2011 09:07 PM (12 years ago)
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Gone are the days when parents influenced or forced their children to marry early or
marry a person of their (parent's) choice. I think the lady should follow her heart and
reach for the sky by going for her PhD. With such educational achievement, she
will attract a lot of good men.
Posted: at 12-08-2011 09:07 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- oopspecies at 12-08-2011 09:15 PM (12 years ago)
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Its wrong for her to go into Marriage when she is not ready for it, A woman is supposed to b in her husband's house at least b4 d age of 30, acc to African Culture....but we forget that Marriage is a lifetime thing....one has to be fully prepared for it, its not meant 2 be rushed in2...she should take her time n also keep watch of her biological clock...
Posted: at 12-08-2011 09:15 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- donspirado88 at 12-08-2011 11:16 PM (12 years ago)
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OK ooooo.... i dey listen Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 12-08-2011 11:16 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- sagiru at 13-08-2011 12:14 AM (12 years ago)
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They'r not suppose to pressurize her,marriage is a long time commitment..so i support her to wait for her convinient time..""no promise,no yearn,no pressure,,jst PhD""
Posted: at 13-08-2011 12:14 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- proly at 13-08-2011 06:24 AM (12 years ago)
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mariage
Posted: at 13-08-2011 06:24 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- feyee at 13-08-2011 06:44 AM (12 years ago)
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under 31?..........i perceive she should be around 29 since u gave her dat range, wht is she wating for? I think the matter is more than it meets the eye Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 13-08-2011 06:44 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- slice at 13-08-2011 07:35 AM (12 years ago)
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I just pity her watin she dey use all the education 4, at the end she go end up inside kitchen. The education she hard, i think is enof for her. ladies get old faster than guys, u can't compeer a lady @ 30 to a guy @ 35 i bet u the guy will look more younger dan her. i know fully well that guys don't go for ladies who facial looks is older than there own, instead they go for young girls @ the age of 25. so plz b4 it is too late go and get married.  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:35 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Bantino at 13-08-2011 09:48 AM (12 years ago)
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Its not for everyone. And mind you poster, its not only the Igbos
Posted: at 13-08-2011 09:48 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- DHash at 13-08-2011 12:53 PM (12 years ago)
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This Q na for people we never marry!
Posted: at 13-08-2011 12:53 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- drnoel at 13-08-2011 12:56 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: slice on 13-08-2011 07:35 AM
I just pity her watin she dey use all the education 4, at the end she go end up inside kitchen. The education she hard, i think is enof for her. ladies get old faster than guys, u can't compeer a lady @ 30 to a guy @ 35 i bet u the guy will look more younger dan her. i know fully well that guys don't go for ladies who facial looks is older than there own, instead they go for young girls @ the age of 25. so plz b4 it is too late go and get married.  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Guy, I don't really think u believe what u just wrote. She won't be very happy 2 read ur comment, though I will forward it 2 her (cos that is my agreement with her). She is currently fighting it out with her family on the pain of being ostracized. Besides, who mentioned that all her degrees will end up in the kitchen, sorry that is no more obtainable. Its her decision, if she would have a career or get married. So try not 2 be myopic...

Posted: at 13-08-2011 12:56 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- nametalkam at 13-08-2011 12:59 PM (12 years ago)
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Ideal time to marry for women should be around 25 or 31 in worst case scenario.

Men can marry at anytime before 35/38 too.

Posted: at 13-08-2011 12:59 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- sexsyguy at 13-08-2011 01:06 PM (12 years ago)
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i dey com
mak i c my gf
Posted: at 13-08-2011 01:06 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- PROMISELOVER at 13-08-2011 01:08 PM (12 years ago)
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LOL
Posted: at 13-08-2011 01:08 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- dirtykid at 13-08-2011 01:32 PM (12 years ago)
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All of u should go and get married or else....... or else..  Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy

Posted: at 13-08-2011 01:32 PM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Chy4mc at 13-08-2011 01:45 PM (12 years ago)
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Exended family or family no body has the right to tell her  when to get married is her business she can even decided not to get married at all. The choice is hers and hers alone. 
Posted: at 13-08-2011 01:45 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- un9ja-9ja at 13-08-2011 01:56 PM (12 years ago)
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don't know what to say.....think the choice is totally hers though!
Posted: at 13-08-2011 01:56 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- chuwuka at 13-08-2011 02:02 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: toibeli on 12-08-2011 09:07 PM
Gone are the days when parents influenced or forced their children to marry early or
marry a person of their (parent's) choice. I think the lady should follow her heart and
reach for the sky by going for her PhD. With such educational achievement, she
will attract a lot of good men.
WEL YOU SAID IT ALL .I PERSONALIY AGREE....
Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:02 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- crusifixo at 13-08-2011 02:09 PM (12 years ago)
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plllllllssssssssss just allow her take a look closely before she says 'i do' to just any guy or else haif way she be asking herself wat did i do.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:09 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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