Extended family gives an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..." (Page 4)

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Posted: at 13-08-2011 09:51 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

As a medical guy, the ideal time 4 a lady 2 get married is around 22-27 years so dat she can have healthy children. Birth defects in newborns increases with advancing age of the mother, so it is not totally wrong that her family is showing anxiety and concern to the extent of forcing her. If she wants to have healthy chidlren, then she must get married immediately or risk bringing innocents with deformities like short or amputated or absent limbs, cleft lip, syndromes, autism etc. Her fighting her family will do her no good in the long run. Already, she got masters so wat is holding her 4rm getting married? She can do her PhD after marriage!

Posted: at 13-08-2011 10:35 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Lol because there is medical research to support that..really? Of course it's ideal to have your children slightly earlier..but there are people who have healthy children and are older than that. It is ridiculous. Those deformities can happen to anyone at any age. And you have to be well-equipped to successfully raise children and go to school. So that is not a valid argument. If you choose to as an option, you must have the funds to obtain a good nanny as my mother did...even though she had a husband that was there (Nigerian man who chose to do nothing at all to care for his family..but that is besides the point). So what she has a Masters..that does not mean she has to get married for. What is holding her is of her concern. She can do it when she is ready. She can do the PhD whenever she wants. More power to her!

Posted: at 13-08-2011 11:04 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

 

Posted: at 13-08-2011 11:26 PM (13 years ago) | Grande Master

Always remember that what works for A may not necessary work for B. Every human being is peculiar and unique by nature. She if she chooses to go for her PHD, no problem. She can start her PHD programme while she plans to settle down. I just advised but she should not be choased by anybody neither be under duress in order to satisfer people. Allow her to think, that at her age considering her present status and her anticipated attainment (including when to achieve her dream), will it make or mar her home when ready to settle down. Above all, has she discovered her God's giving purpose?

Posted: at 14-08-2011 12:56 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

Time waits for nobody. Her Phd education does not stop her from getting married especially if her partner supports her....

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Posted: at 14-08-2011 01:00 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

first, how old is she right now? if above 35, i think it is the right time she starts thinking of making her own family.
 

Posted: at 14-08-2011 01:46 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I PITY THE LADY,BUT SHE SHOULD NOT BE PUSHED TO THE WALL,SHE SHOULD FOLLOW HER HEART 'COS ANY MISTAKE SHE MAKES NOW WILL BE A MISTAKE FOR EVER,LET HER PRAY FOR GOD'S DIRECTION,GOD WILL SEE HER TRU.

Posted: at 14-08-2011 05:59 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

 

Posted: at 14-08-2011 07:22 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Right on sister. The choice is hers.
I totally agree with you.

dan fulani

Posted: at 14-08-2011 08:19 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac