Extended family gives an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..." (Page 2)

Quote from: dirtykid on 13-08-2011 01:32 PM

All of u should go and get married or else....... or else..  

Or else what?

Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:29 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

This is the time for her to marry and not when she gets to 40s before holding allnight to get husband, afterall she can still go for her Ph D after marriage.

Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:35 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

Maybe she will meet her husband while she is working towards her PHd?  Whose to say her husband is not waiting to meet her during that period of her life?  God know's why and what is happening.  It is not good for anyone to be pressured to marry, especially if the person for them has not come along yet.

Many destinies have been destroyed because one has settled with the one who was not made for them.  

Praying for the best

Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:52 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

well, to all the 9japals i think what we all have to do is to pray for her because God knows the best for her, as we all know that is only a man that will say i will marry this year and he will marry is not like that in the case of women, i strongly believe that she have not seen the right guy for herself God says he who find a wife find a good thing and blessing from the Lord but not when you find the wrong one , so let us pray for her to fall in the hand of the right man and not a boy, i also believe that education can never be late but marriage can be late, because she will be crying all alone in the room when she will get to 40 or 45 by then she will look for a man with her money to marry her and many will play with her and swallow her money sleep with her but will not marry her, so i pray for her to get married first before now going for her phd.

Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:27 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

@nametalkam,.. i can understand yor plight but yu still shudnt force any1 into marryin.

hav always known igbors to b islam.. stupid nd daft.

fcuken bastards!

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:33 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

The days are gone when parents can mount pressure on anybody to do what he or she does not want.....this days life's is not all about marriage even if is necessary to some expense and extent,they should not force anybody to do what them are not ready for. thats that shaa but in the order way round a girl with such achievement should be married blc that when she will truly enjoy what she has been laboring for

Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:52 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

As long as I will agree that the act of forcing the lady to get married is not a good thing, I don't see why she cannot marry and get her Ph.D at the same time if she chooses to do so. Marriage is not a barrier to higher education but the husband you marry is. At her level of education she should know that marriage is for life and as such she needs someone who will like her and love her at the same time. Such that when there is fading of natural love, the like will hold them together If she gets the right man, she can marry and go ahead and do the Ph.d as well. I wish her all the best in such difficult times!!

Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:02 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie

lets share the reality,even her as a woman is not finding it easy that at her age she is still sigle,
 the family/parents that re giving her ultimatum knows really what she might face in nearest future,
they love her and would like the best for her which is being under a man -her educational aquirencies apart,
though not forcing her afterall, cos  in some cases it not her fult not getting married,
  our naija guls-with capital MANy like getting married no matter their p.hd  

Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:13 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Marriage is very good but it is down to the person to decide IF they want to get married and when it should be. It is funny how many "Christian" parents will force their children (Male and Female) to get marry and forget that one of the greatest apostle in the Bible they read was not married but he still fulfilled his dream and wrote most part of the New Testament.  Marriage is by CHOICE

Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:31 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

It is obvious you are an illiterate. MARRIAGE not MARIAGE. If you had furthered your education like the lady in the story did, you would know how to spell that word. In my opinion, the lady has the right to do whatever she wants, when she is ready for marriage, she will get married. She should go for her doctorate degree. I am a woman who has several degrees and will be going for my doctorate degree soon, I have a man who loves this and has a lot of degrees too. SO RIDE ON GIRL!!!! Don't rush into marriage with the wrong man, cos the wrong men are always beasts and you will regret it.

Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:38 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie