Extended family gives an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..." (Page 2)

Date: 12-08-2011 6:41 pm (12 years ago) | Author: Darky
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- toibeli at 13-08-2011 02:29 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 13-08-2011 01:32 PM
All of u should go and get married or else....... or else..  Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy
Or else what?
Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:29 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- lovarboysweetie at 13-08-2011 02:35 PM (12 years ago)
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I wish I can add more to all that has been said, but the bottomline is that it's her life to know what's best for her. Getting married and looking forward to it would a be joy for her family, but would make her happy is the ultimate. That nobody can give to her because she is the one that knows best as regard. I  believe that if she was/is given the opportunity whereby she would be free to express her view as regard than deciding for her or rather than giving her the ultimatum to get married now may be at a cost to her life and the damage would be immeasurable to everyone. She would to find somebody in the family that she can confidently confide in and open all to him or her. This person can liaise or be her mouth piece for proper resolution to all this rancor.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:35 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Alex11 at 13-08-2011 02:35 PM (12 years ago)
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This is the time for her to marry and not when she gets to 40s before holding allnight to get husband, afterall she can still go for her Ph D after marriage.
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- ajanni at 13-08-2011 02:51 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: nametalkam on 13-08-2011 12:59 PM
Ideal time to marry for women should be around 25 or 31 in worst case scenario.

Men can marry at anytime before 35/38 too.

25to 31 i think os over riped
Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:51 PM (12 years ago) | Grande Master
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- mchinwendu at 13-08-2011 02:52 PM (12 years ago)
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Maybe she will meet her husband while she is working towards her PHd?  Whose to say her husband is not waiting to meet her during that period of her life?  God know's why and what is happening.  It is not good for anyone to be pressured to marry, especially if the person for them has not come along yet.

Many destinies have been destroyed because one has settled with the one who was not made for them.  

Praying for the best
Posted: at 13-08-2011 02:52 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ghanalove at 13-08-2011 03:09 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: ajanni on 13-08-2011 02:51 PM
Quote from: nametalkam on 13-08-2011 12:59 PM
Ideal time to marry for women should be around 25 or 31 in worst case scenario.

Men can marry at anytime before 35/38 too.

25to 31 i think os over riped

but thats when she is mature and has a job.

19 like me is too young i can`t even think of having a baby,with my bf.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:09 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- FrankDating at 13-08-2011 03:27 PM (12 years ago)
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well, to all the 9japals i think what we all have to do is to pray for her because God knows the best for her, as we all know that is only a man that will say i will marry this year and he will marry is not like that in the case of women, i strongly believe that she have not seen the right guy for herself God says he who find a wife find a good thing and blessing from the Lord but not when you find the wrong one , so let us pray for her to fall in the hand of the right man and not a boy, i also believe that education can never be late but marriage can be late, because she will be crying all alone in the room when she will get to 40 or 45 by then she will look for a man with her money to marry her and many will play with her and swallow her money sleep with her but will not marry her, so i pray for her to get married first before now going for her phd.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:27 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- ruthozi at 13-08-2011 03:28 PM (12 years ago)
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with all her education, I think she should get married, after all it is not advisable to be single @ her age.  
Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:28 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- apprehended at 13-08-2011 03:33 PM (12 years ago)
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@nametalkam,.. i can understand yor plight but yu still shudnt force any1 into marryin.

hav always known igbors to b islam.. stupid nd daft.

fcuken bastards!

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah
Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:33 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- kinkyebony at 13-08-2011 03:35 PM (12 years ago)
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Carier & education is gud, & 4 evry woman 2 exercise her RIGHT of choice is equally gud, but she shld nt 4get dat her AGE is fastly aproachin 2 d  EXPIRIN-date of her biological FEMINITY-circle (Monopause). Not only 4 d IGBO woman, but generally 2 all d women universally. And who told her dat a  MARRIED woman cnt continue wit her EDUCATION 2 d last level? Carier & education is no xcuse, cös i've seen many women who got married b4 dia admition in2 UNIVERSITY, & nw söm of dem has already gotten dia  DOCTORATE degrees, E.g ma aunty.

Ppl of western world may decide nt 2 get married, or children, & dey cn even prefer pets of domestic ANIMALS, & dia segxwal practices as GAY & LESBIANS, cös diz tins are nt stipulated against dia CULTURE & TRADITIONS.  But we, d AFRICAN origins, we're nt BARBARIANS (ppl witout culture & traditions), we dnt've d same culture wit dem, & is BETTER we accept, respect, mentain & b proud of our culture & traditions.

Is nt always gud tryin 2 immitate d western world, or copy dia culture, traditions, system, styles, & ways of LIFE. In African ways of life, almost all d women want 2 get married wit children, apart 4rm few of dem (Rev. sisters, mothers, & nuns) due 2 dia RELIGIOUS reasons. Apart 4rm diz, evry ödä African woman want 2 get married & children, any of dem who sed dat she dnt want 2 get married or children, bcös of CARIER & EDUCATION, is a liar & BIG pretender, cös inwardly she's dyin in silence wit her secret problem Shocked Shocked Shocked Huh? Huh? Huh? Shocked Shocked Shocked Huh? Huh? Huh? Shocked Shocked Shocked
Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:35 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kellyosas at 13-08-2011 03:52 PM (12 years ago)
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The days are gone when parents can mount pressure on anybody to do what he or she does not want.....this days life's is not all about marriage even if is necessary to some expense and extent,they should not force anybody to do what them are not ready for. thats that shaa but in the order way round a girl with such achievement should be married blc that when she will truly enjoy what she has been laboring for
Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:52 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- chicanorose at 13-08-2011 03:59 PM (12 years ago)
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They are giving her an ultimatum between her phd and marriage right. Did they ask her if she is into any serious relationship or are they bring a husband for her?

Posted: at 13-08-2011 03:59 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Sonya79 at 13-08-2011 04:02 PM (12 years ago)
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As long as I will agree that the act of forcing the lady to get married is not a good thing, I don't see why she cannot marry and get her Ph.D at the same time if she chooses to do so. Marriage is not a barrier to higher education but the husband you marry is. At her level of education she should know that marriage is for life and as such she needs someone who will like her and love her at the same time. Such that when there is fading of natural love, the like will hold them together If she gets the right man, she can marry and go ahead and do the Ph.d as well. I wish her all the best in such difficult times!!
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:02 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Simon-Zeletus at 13-08-2011 04:10 PM (12 years ago)
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Spinster go and get marry, your people is right do you want your father to marry you, age is not on your side marriage can stop you to get phd.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:10 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- interpo77 at 13-08-2011 04:13 PM (12 years ago)
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lets share the reality,even her as a woman is not finding it easy that at her age she is still sigle,
 the family/parents that re giving her ultimatum knows really what she might face in nearest future,
they love her and would like the best for her which is being under a man -her educational aquirencies apart,
though not forcing her afterall, cos  in some cases it not her fult not getting married,
  our naija guls-with capital MANy like getting married no matter their p.hd  
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:13 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- interpo77 at 13-08-2011 04:21 PM (12 years ago)
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no body or parents would like their duaghter to over stay her expected marriage life,
 so they tot should would ve married by now
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:21 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- eomo at 13-08-2011 04:31 PM (12 years ago)
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Marriage is very good but it is down to the person to decide IF they want to get married and when it should be. It is funny how many "Christian" parents will force their children (Male and Female) to get marry and forget that one of the greatest apostle in the Bible they read was not married but he still fulfilled his dream and wrote most part of the New Testament.  Marriage is by CHOICE
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:31 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- evzai00 at 13-08-2011 04:36 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: drnoel on 13-08-2011 12:56 PM
Quote from: slice on 13-08-2011 07:35 AM
I just pity her watin she dey use all the education 4, at the end she go end up inside kitchen. The education she hard, i think is enof for her. ladies get old faster than guys, u can't compeer a lady @ 30 to a guy @ 35 i bet u the guy will look more younger dan her. i know fully well that guys don't go for ladies who facial looks is older than there own, instead they go for young girls @ the age of 25. so plz b4 it is too late go and get married.  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Guy, I don't really think u believe what u just wrote. She won't be very happy 2 read ur comment, though I will forward it 2 her (cos that is my agreement with her). She is currently fighting it out with her family on the pain of being ostracized. Besides, who mentioned that all her degrees will end up in the kitchen, sorry that is no more obtainable. Its her decision, if she would have a career or get married. So try not 2 be myopic...
SHUT UP!!! Mey she go get married ABEG nayin be the koko,
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:36 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- yods at 13-08-2011 04:38 PM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: proly on 13-08-2011 06:24 AM
mariage

It is obvious you are an illiterate. MARRIAGE not MARIAGE. If you had furthered your education like the lady in the story did, you would know how to spell that word. In my opinion, the lady has the right to do whatever she wants, when she is ready for marriage, she will get married. She should go for her doctorate degree. I am a woman who has several degrees and will be going for my doctorate degree soon, I have a man who loves this and has a lot of degrees too. SO RIDE ON GIRL!!!! Don't rush into marriage with the wrong man, cos the wrong men are always beasts and you will regret it.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:38 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- love4eva at 13-08-2011 04:51 PM (12 years ago)
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Where She dey? Does anyone here has her contact? Then the person should inbox me Cause i've something interesting for her.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 04:51 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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