Extended family gives an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..." (Page 3)

Date: 12-08-2011 6:41 pm (13 years ago) | Author: Darky
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- Geoffred at 13-08-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago)
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hmmmm, well, i have gone through many comments here and im happy u guys understand really what going on here. i came to Italy few months ago and i can say that majority of girls here are prostitute and i can also tell u that 90 percent of them are happy with it.  Now, consider a pregnant women who went for a prostitute job last night and gave birth the next morning that is to show how curious they are with the job. Same thing also implies to men (BEGGING & HOMOsegxwalITY) in the street in other to make money to impress people at home. Now, who is to be blamed? the government or individual? the government have no fault in regards to this cus i will rather blame the so-called jandoneirs  who have lived here for some yrs, irrespective of their useless and downgrading job here, they still come to Africa to pose and deceive people that live is sweet here. i will rather deceive myself to deceive u, there is nothing here other than suffering and pains. here is like a secret cult, when u are in, its hard to get out. And this so-called prostitution is only taking so serious by our Nigerians girls, we have other African nationals here, like the Ghanaian, Cameroonians, Senegalese, Togolese, etc. they tend to do little job to save their image other than going into prostitution. Only God can help em.. i just want to drop little here, if u need to know more u can facebook me @ Geoffrey Obiazi...........love ya
Posted: at 13-08-2011 05:34 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- kinkyebony at 13-08-2011 05:36 PM (13 years ago)
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Carier & education is gud, & 4 evry woman 2 excercise her RIGHT of choice is equally gud, but she shld nt 4get dat her AGE is fastly aproachin 2 d EXPIRIN-date of her biological FEMINITY-circle (Monopause). Not only 4 d IGBO woman, but generally 2 all d women universally. And who told her dat a  MARRIED  woman cnt continue wit her EDUCATION 2 d last level?  CARRIER  &  EDUCATION are no xcuse, cös i'v seen many women who got married b4 diä admission in2 UNIVERSITY, & nw söm of dem has gotten dia DOCTORATE degrees, e.g ma aunty.

Ppl of western world may decide nt 2 get married, or children, & dey cn even prefer pets of domestic ANIMALS, & dia segxwal practices as GAY  &  LESBIANS, cös diz tins are nt stipulated against dia CULTURE  &  TRADITIONS. But we,  AFRICAN origins, we're nt BARBARIANS  (ppl witout culture & traditions), we dnt've d same culture wit dem, & is BETTER we accept, respect, mentain & b proud of our culture & traditions.

Is nt always gud tryin 2 immitate d western world, or copy dia culture, traditions, system, styles, & ways of LIFE. In AFRICAN ways of life, almost all d women want 2 get married wit children, apart 4rm few of dem (Rev. sisters, mothers, & nuns), due 2 dia RELIGIOUS  reasons. Apart 4rm diz, evry ödä African woman want 2 get married & children, any of dem who sed dat she dnt want 2 get married or children bcos of CARRIER  &  EDUCATION, is a lier & a BIG pretender, cös inwardly, she's dyin in silence wit her secret problem/s Shocked Shocked Shocked Huh? Huh? Huh? Shocked Shocked Shocked Huh? Huh? Huh? Shocked Shocked Shocked Huh? Huh? Huh? Shocked Shocked Shocked
Posted: at 13-08-2011 05:36 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- ngeri1 at 13-08-2011 05:39 PM (13 years ago)
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She should continue to go about her business. Nigerian culture is ridiculous at times. "Too much book not good for a woman". Talk about primitive. Please...that is ridiculous. She can marry whomever she chooses, whenever she chooses. Funny thing is they'll all remember her when they need financial support. That is ridiculous. That reliance on what constitutes proper imagery is bull. Get out of here with all that. She should do what she wants to do.

Quote from: drnoel on 12-08-2011 06:41 PM
Guys, regards to you all. I have been informed of another issue I want u all 2 share ur wise opinions with me.



An Igbo lady studied law at the University and was lucky 2 graduate at an early age, so she went on to get her masters, did her Bar exams and was just planning 2 get in for her PhD when her Extended family screamed with an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else or else...". No woman should be unmarried at your age (at this time she was just under 31). She didn't pay them much attention until they started putting pressure on her parents and holding meetings behind her parents back.....
They kept asking what she was getting all the education for and that too much book was not good 4 a woman. Anyway, its really bad 4 her now because they have managed 2 incite her immediate family against her saying its evil spirit and now she is being threatened 2 choose between going 4 her PhD or getting married.
What should she do? Fellows you all can comment now....
Posted: at 13-08-2011 05:39 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- The-s-man at 13-08-2011 06:36 PM (13 years ago)
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Na wa o! Marriage by force.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 06:36 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- STKASTRO at 13-08-2011 06:44 PM (13 years ago)
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I can offer a lot of advice to her in person but a lot more information is needed.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 06:44 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- STKASTRO at 13-08-2011 06:44 PM (13 years ago)
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I can offer a lot of advice to her in person but a lot more information is needed.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 06:44 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Lovemuah at 13-08-2011 07:05 PM (13 years ago)
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I said shes self fish, all she thnks about is herself... what about her future kid? i dnt thnk they woll like to have an old mom
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:05 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- ify0 at 13-08-2011 07:23 PM (13 years ago)
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her family should not put her into preasure,i believe she has not seen some one she loves yet,then let her face her studies since she is almost through with it,then every other tin can follow.pls let her follow her heart.marriage is not by force.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:23 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ezesunny at 13-08-2011 07:24 PM (13 years ago)
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pplease poster can you give me the contact  of the woman that is the type i looking for her age is  ok for me and as a law stundent, am deying to put ring on her hand please, is not a joke
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:24 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- drnoel at 13-08-2011 07:34 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: chicanorose on 13-08-2011 03:59 PM
They are giving her an ultimatum between her phd and marriage right. Did they ask her if she is into any serious relationship or are they bring a husband for her?

They initially gave her the Ultimatum without any conditions (bringing someone), but recently I heard the extended family found a 36 years old divorcee 4 her and threatened 2 ostracize her if she refuses 2 accept him.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:34 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- drnoel at 13-08-2011 07:38 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Simon-Zeletus on 13-08-2011 04:10 PM
Spinster go and get marry, your people is right do you want your father to marry you, age is not on your side marriage can stop you to get phd.

£$%@ opinions of a myopic man. Please allow her 2 make that decision herself....
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:38 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- drnoel at 13-08-2011 07:43 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: evzai00 on 13-08-2011 04:36 PM
Quote from: drnoel on 13-08-2011 12:56 PM
Quote from: slice on 13-08-2011 07:35 AM
I just pity her watin she dey use all the education 4, at the end she go end up inside kitchen. The education she hard, i think is enof for her. ladies get old faster than guys, u can't compeer a lady @ 30 to a guy @ 35 i bet u the guy will look more younger dan her. i know fully well that guys don't go for ladies who facial looks is older than there own, instead they go for young girls @ the age of 25. so plz b4 it is too late go and get married.  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Guy, I don't really think u believe what u just wrote. She won't be very happy 2 read ur comment, though I will forward it 2 her (cos that is my agreement with her). She is currently fighting it out with her family on the pain of being ostracized. Besides, who mentioned that all her degrees will end up in the kitchen, sorry that is no more obtainable. Its her decision, if she would have a career or get married. So try not 2 be myopic...
SHUT UP!!! Mey she go get married ABEG nayin be the koko,

Newbie who u dey tell shutup. Make I laugh, look at this newbie ooo
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:43 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- GINGER255 at 13-08-2011 07:55 PM (13 years ago)
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babe its your life, live it the way you see it will pleases you. If they continue, you can choose to change environment or stay with them, after you have change your environment then call your parent to let them know you are fine
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:55 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- sammy111 at 13-08-2011 07:58 PM (13 years ago)
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the truth is dat she hv done well 4 herself.....bt the parents shod not force her to marry....my advise dat if she is in a serious relationship let her consider marriage.......bcos it will  do her gud.....to compliment her certificate........
Posted: at 13-08-2011 07:58 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- akposy19 at 13-08-2011 08:07 PM (13 years ago)
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wat a pity, but at that age she is suppose to get married and continue with futhering her PHD
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- FlyMamacita at 13-08-2011 08:46 PM (13 years ago)
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She shud do wht SHE think is best for her.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 08:46 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- HOPEA23 at 13-08-2011 09:06 PM (13 years ago)
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she can marry and still continua with her education na...let her gett married if there is someone to marry her now..if not let her take her time to search for one...she can always get her phd but when the time past she can't get married.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 09:06 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- MilleniumMan at 13-08-2011 09:14 PM (13 years ago)
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They must not pressurize her but make see reasons why she must think of marriage.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 09:14 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- DonMatt at 13-08-2011 09:26 PM (13 years ago)
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marriage is a good thing..let her wait for her time...life is focus...let her finish her phd and start up with a date..thats all
Posted: at 13-08-2011 09:26 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- ezecyyyy at 13-08-2011 09:33 PM (13 years ago)
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Getting married should be in her order of priority first if the chance occurs, as time past can never be regained after all age is no longer on her side,She can equally go for her Phd from his husbands house.The earlier the better.
Posted: at 13-08-2011 09:33 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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