Crying and Smiling wives (Page 8)

Date: 13-11-2011 10:31 pm (12 years ago) | Author: lynn
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- livingday at 15-11-2011 02:24 AM (12 years ago)
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What statistics or sources for your generalization that single out Nigerian men and not what some men do all over the world? Women even do worse in some instances.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 02:24 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- richiestone at 15-11-2011 02:58 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 14-11-2011 03:34 AM
Married Women(WM) must take care of themselves even after married. You must always look your best. How can you look like Cinderella in your office then look like old granny when u get home? Plz get into the shower and freshen up. Even when u want to join him in bed, always look fresh. You don't have to look like a superstar but take good care of yourself.

Do not give 100% of your time to your children. Your husbands must continue to be the center of your life. See one day those children will grow up and move out but your marriage will not follow them. So spend quality time with your husbands. For example: If you r making love with him and your 2 months old baby was sleeping and then all of a sudden he started crying, you must not leave your husband to attain to the baby. Finish the Love-making with him first. But the baby's bed must be well secured.

Trust him to take care of your children, whether they are only 5 hours/days old. Even though he doesn't know how to change their diaper. If the baby is cryin in his arm, u must not take the baby unless he want u to.

Money do have wings and they may fly away from him today and he may fine another tomorrow. So you should always support him and never talk down on a man when he is financially bothered. Do not compare your marriage to other couples. If the bills are pile up, it means that your man is troubled so don't use that moment to tear him down with your mouth. Support him cover the bills o...

Surprise him, take him to a hotel, adore him, praise him, honor him, call him my little lord or whatever you like.

Appreciate him, real men don't show their love/feelings through words, they express it through actions. So learn how to understand your man. Say thank you. And define his hard work. Give him a beautiful comment on every little thing he does. IF your husband buy you a nice skirt, yeap, he just want you to wear it so that other men can be jealous of your sweet butts Grin so wear it and thank him with a nice comment.

Teach your children how to be responsible on the dining table. Your 5 yrs old boy should pour that milk inside his own cup while you pour it inside your husband's cup. Your children must not say: mom can you pass me the salt? He should know how to get the salt on his own.. It gives them sense of belongings not sense of controlling or they may get spoil.

Your husbands shouldn't be the only one to initiate sex play. You should also do it often. You don't do it to make him detect what's on your mind. Just do it. Let him see it in your eyes that you want him period but use some characteristics, styles, plays and techniques but they must all be cleared. And whenever you guys argue or fight, please do not punish him from touching you. I repeat, do not punish him from touching you....!

Support him and do not always suspect him in public because real man always look but they never attempts to touch. They will even look at your sister, mom, cousin, and friends' butt. Even your grannies  Grin  Grin so that must not bothered you or fight him when you all get home that night.

If you have been doing all these above, cleaning, cooking taking care of the kids and he does not show you any sign then stop cleaning, watching the dishes, don't even clean the floor. And when he ask you why, then you can tell him how much you want him to recognize the little contribution/effort to the family.

Your husband may not really know who he is or what he really want out life until maybe after few years of been your husband. Besides, he knew that you will help him become somebody tomorrow, so try to understand your husbands o....That's why its not good to jump into this Marriage thing o...cos its not a competition but a worthwhile lifestyle that you too must live to the fullest.
You must be a professional married chancellor, i dig your take up u' the best. WAOH
Posted: at 15-11-2011 02:58 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- richiestone at 15-11-2011 03:03 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: slowmotion on 15-11-2011 12:08 AM
Huh?
"Wow! I'm an African-American man of 57-yrs. old and my birthday later this month of November 27, 2011, I'll be 58-yrs. old! I have been strongly married for 27 years this past October 13, 2011. I have never...I repeat the word 'NEVER'....have I gone outside of my marriage searching for an affair or just to get some other panties from any female. I could easily do it, but I won't do it because I truly do love my wifey. She feels that strong about me, as well. I know that she has never gone outside our marriage to be with another man for a segxwal encounter or just to get some kind of attention that I am suppose to give her. So, I don't believe it has to do with being Nigerian, I believe it has to do with a 'LACK OF COMMITMENT' to God...His institution of marriage...to the wifey!"
Man what part of AMERICA do live in.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 03:03 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Denallan at 15-11-2011 03:23 AM (12 years ago)
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Infidelity or cruelty has no colour
Posted: at 15-11-2011 03:23 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- donuche at 15-11-2011 04:52 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Chibon on 13-11-2011 11:59 PM
Wen i saw dz post,i culdnt help shedding tears cos am among doz crying n smiling wives.d man i knw and married has completely changed.he belives i have no other choice than to stay and take his dsgusting attitudes to me.i hardly know wat hs doing with wen i ask am told to mind mybusnes n let hm be.he bullies me.shouts at me even in public .am so miserable.he belves a womans place is in the kitchen.i cannt take a decision in the house and he accepts it.everythng lies n ends in hs command.some1 talk 2me cos am gradualy losing it pls


pray for him to change for better and at the same time check urself if there is also where you are not being a good wife enough too,we have heard from your own side alone but we have not heard from the man. women always blame the man for every problems in the marriage or relationship even when the fault is theirs just because men hardly complain while the women do the complaining,crying and shouting. if a man decide to end a relationship with a woman that is always cheating on him or doing some other things that are not expected from a wife or fiancee the woman would always blame the man and be telling anybody that cares that she have been used and dumped.i am not  saying that all man are saints but some time men are frustrated out of the same marriage or relationship they contracted or initiated but they wouldn't complain to any one but would keep to themselves.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 04:52 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- donuche at 15-11-2011 05:03 AM (12 years ago)
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this post should have been tagged sensles  if prince dafe was here because the poster generalized his statement on all men. there  are millions of men in nigeria that are very faithful to their wives or fiancee. i always feel very bad when good people are counted among the bad ones.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 05:03 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Beauti4 at 15-11-2011 05:50 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: dirtykid on 14-11-2011 01:57 PM


Those highlighted words in red make federal sense to whom it may concern !! If you out there sees yrself as a crying wife, Kindly print the words out, meditate on them, check yrself properly and see if yr doing it right !! Believe me there must be somewhere u lack along the line. Men are best dictators, don't think Men are dumb... Men remains the little god here on earth, they were created to governor the universe and everything in it... Like Beauti4 mention above, real men don't show their love by speaking, but action because they knew that the lady deserve it all... little deeds could turn yr tears in everlasting joy, only if u realize it and choose the right part. Be wise ladies and do it right... Just do it like Nike  Grin Grin


 Grin  Grin  Grin  Grin  Grin  Grin I knew you were going to do this.... Grin  Grin
Posted: at 15-11-2011 05:50 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Beauti4 at 15-11-2011 05:54 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: escapedprince on 14-11-2011 08:09 PM
You're a smart woman keep it up!!!


 Grin Grin Grin Grin thank you beary much Sir!
Posted: at 15-11-2011 05:54 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Pathjay at 15-11-2011 06:00 AM (12 years ago)
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Wen i saw dz post,i culdnt help shedding tears cos am among doz crying n smiling wives.d man i knw and married has completely changed.he belives i have no other choice than to stay and take his dsgusting attitudes to me.i hardly know wat hs doing with wen i ask am told to mind mybusnes n let hm be.he bullies me.shouts at me even in public .am so miserable.he belves a womans place is in the kitchen.i cannt take a decision in the house and he accepts it.everythng lies n ends in hs command.some1 talk 2me cos am gradualy losing it pls.....

Sister are u a born again? If yes....read (Proverb 31:10-31), this is about the (Virtuous Woman in the Bible) Look at the qualities of that woman and show those qualities to ur husband i believe God will arrest him but most importantly back up ur character with prayers he will change and starts considering ur opinion as his "Help-Mate" not wife. May God grant u speedy answer as u practice that in Jesus name...Amen.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:00 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Beauti4 at 15-11-2011 06:02 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: info_lekan on 14-11-2011 08:36 PM
God bless you..One other important thing to note is.."Do not depend completely on him though you are married"..Marriage is not a bed of roses.It'll help when the going gets rough...If you hear man's perspective on this issue u'll discover that most ladies get carried away completely whne married meanwhile the ones that men go to meet outside know exactly what to do cos it's business...

Oh dear lekan, you are so beary write about this. Do not give him your heart, or else he will break it 100 times a day.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:02 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Pathjay at 15-11-2011 06:03 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Chibon on 13-11-2011 11:59 PM
Wen i saw dz post,i culdnt help shedding tears cos am among doz crying n smiling wives.d man i knw and married has completely changed.he belives i have no other choice than to stay and take his dsgusting attitudes to me.i hardly know wat hs doing with wen i ask am told to mind mybusnes n let hm be.he bullies me.shouts at me even in public .am so miserable.he belves a womans place is in the kitchen.i cannt take a decision in the house and he accepts it.everythng lies n ends in hs command.some1 talk 2me cos am gradualy losing it pls
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Sister are u a born again? If yes....read (Proverb 31:10-31), this is about the (Virtuous Woman in the Bible) Look at the qualities of that woman and show those qualities to ur husband i believe God will arrest him but most importantly back up ur character with prayers he will change and starts considering ur opinion as his "Help-Mate" not wife. May God grant u speedy answer as u practice that in Jesus name...Amen.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:03 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Beauti4 at 15-11-2011 06:06 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: richiestone on 15-11-2011 02:58 AM
You must be a professional married chancellor, i dig your take up u' the best. WAOH

 Grin  Grin  Grin Thank you Sir. I counseled every area of marriage by the grace of God. Thanks a lot!
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:06 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Beauti4 at 15-11-2011 06:10 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Pathjay on 15-11-2011 06:03 AM
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Sister are u a born again? If yes....read (Proverb 31:10-31), this is about the (Virtuous Woman in the Bible) Look at the qualities of that woman and show those qualities to ur husband i believe God will arrest him but most importantly back up ur character with prayers he will change and starts considering ur opinion as his "Help-Mate" not wife. May God grant u speedy answer as u practice that in Jesus name...Amen.

This is the key....but what do you mean by "help-mate" not wife? To me I think help-mate and wife are two different things. Please explain more. Thank you sir!
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:10 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- Pathjay at 15-11-2011 06:38 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Beauti4 on 15-11-2011 06:10 AM
This is the key....but what do you mean by "help-mate" not wife? To me I think help-mate and wife are two different things. Please explain more. Thank you sir!

God told Adam that He will make/give Adam a helpmate (which is Eve)......If that man sees his wife as a helpmate both of them will plan and reason together for the success of their home but unfortunately he does not, maybe he sees her as a wife probable he's still reconsidering the "Dowry" he performed during marriage rights....he now feels that the woman has no right to opinion in the family too bad.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:38 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- Beauti4 at 15-11-2011 06:58 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: Pathjay on 15-11-2011 06:38 AM
God told Adam that He will make/give Adam a helpmate (which is Eve)......If that man sees his wife as a helpmate both of them will plan and reason together for the success of their home but unfortunately he does not, maybe he sees her as a wife probable he's still reconsidering the "Dowry" he performed during marriage rights....he now feels that the woman has no right to opinion in the family too bad.

Oh...I see where you are coming from. Thank you so much!
Posted: at 15-11-2011 06:58 AM (12 years ago) | Hero
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- ngeri1 at 15-11-2011 08:01 AM (12 years ago)
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False sense of entitlement due to gender that is embedded within the culture. It's truly sad and there are no steps put forth in combating it. I feel terrible for the countless women who endure this nonsense..it's just disgusting. Personally, I'd never stand for such a thing and feel so bad for those who are left with no options due to circumstance or lack of opportunities to venture out. It's very scary...I am just grateful that would never have to be me. Something really needs to be done in working against this being so widespread but...there is too much rigidity.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 08:01 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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- yomioriowo at 15-11-2011 08:40 AM (12 years ago)
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Are u faithful when u were single? If u date another man's huss when
u were single, there is nothing u can do than to experience law of cama.

Anyway, hold on to God and show mo love to ur huss.
Posted: at 15-11-2011 08:40 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
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- MYKELGUY at 15-11-2011 09:07 AM (12 years ago)
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95% of the most are unfaithful to the point that there wife is even away of their wayward life.They dont regard their wife at all.And sometimes if she got the gut to question their infidelity ,she wouldn't like the result
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- kp45 at 15-11-2011 09:12 AM (12 years ago)
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taking coffee
Posted: at 15-11-2011 09:12 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- lynnclassic at 15-11-2011 09:22 AM (12 years ago)
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Quote from: yomioriowo on 15-11-2011 08:40 AM
Are u faithful when u were single? If u date another man's huss when
u were single, there is nothing u can do than to experience law of cama.

Anyway, hold on to God and show mo love to ur huss.
very tru
Posted: at 15-11-2011 09:22 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
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